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Girl goes cold after number request on POF, what to do?
09-12-2016, 06:29 AM
So yesterday I was messaged out of the blue by a girl on POF. She's 27, Black, big boobs, 5'2, well traveled. We banter back and forth about travel, music, etc. She asks me where I am from and I tell her then I ask about her background. We exchange about 10 messages each over a span of two hours and then finally ask "you seem pretty cool and I would like to get to know you more. What is your number?" then nothing after that. She messaged me rapidly before that so she was obviously somewhat interested.
I was careful not to use game over POF and to get the number on the same day to set up a date. But this does not seem to work for me. When I spread things out over a two day period then go for the number I seem to do better getting the digits. A lot of people recommend getting them after only a few messages but have been ghosted the last few times I did it. Can anybody tell me what I did wrong? Your help is appreciated.
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09-12-2016, 08:25 AM
You did nothing wrong. Many girls like the attention but freeze up when they need to decide if they want to go further. Just assume most girls online only want attention and will never meet up and you will be fine.
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Girl goes cold after number request on POF, what to do?
09-12-2016, 10:01 AM
She only wanted some male attention, without any intention to meet.
Lots of girls online are like that.
Better luck with the next one.
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09-12-2016, 03:13 PM
Thanks guys, you all gave me the smack in the head that I needed, I have moved on.
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Girl goes cold after number request on POF, what to do?
09-14-2016, 02:32 PM
Well, are you talking to other women online, because she is probably talking to dozens of other men online. Most women get hundreds of messages a day from men. So, 1) either she was bored and just looking for an online flirtation, 2) she has a real-life boyfriend/husband and goes online for fantasies and validation (like anthony weiner), 3) she is talking to other guys and thinks those guys are hotter. Maybe she doesn't see you as that hot, and doesn't want to meet in real-life, and prefers an online flirtation. (4) It could be a catfish and she could be a dude and (5) she could be a working girl looking for a sugar daddy.
You are probably right about rushing for a meeting, some girls need more time to get mentally ready for a meeting. Unless they are DTF for a ONS - then those girls want immediate meetups.
With online dating, some girls play the long-game and just want the online fantasies. Then maybe a few weeks later, they get the courage to meet in real-life. Hang-in there and she might come back to you, but move on to other girls in the mean-time. Play up the jealousy card and see if she comes crawling back to you. Or if she is looking for a sugar daddy, bribe her with an expensive dinner.
Also, you don't really need a phone number - just ask for a date and location meeting. Most people have mobile apps so you don't even need a phone number to text her.
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Girl goes cold after number request on POF, what to do?
09-14-2016, 03:16 PM
"Also, you don't really need a phone number - just ask for a date and location meeting. Most people have mobile apps so you don't even need a phone number to text her. "
Exactly. No need to go for the number before you've even suggested potential plans together. You need to do that first, otherwise they are likely to freeze up and reject you.
Also they're more likely to give you their number if you both actually have a reason for her to give it to you, like a date.
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Girl goes cold after number request on POF, what to do?
09-14-2016, 05:48 PM
A lot of women (married/have boyfriend/fat/ugly/social issues) use online dating services as a social outlet, validation tool and to meet their emotional needs.
You can pick these by excessive talking/messaging, too many phone calls and an absolute reluctance to ever meet you.
Don't be used as an emotional tampon by these women.
Screen them out and bin them if they will not meet after a few messages, one phone call.
Don't forget, there are billions of women in the world, move on and find one that wants to actually meet you!