Quote: (09-15-2016 07:57 PM)nidall Wrote:
Quote: (09-11-2016 06:45 PM)Lance Blastoff Wrote:
Perfectly put. OP's behavior suggests that he's got to seriously reevaluate his frame. If you get rejected, it's no big deal, it's certainly not personal, and responding angrily is likely to get him into trouble with this cold approach day game. Hostler. This reads like it was written by someone with aspergers.
You fail to understand the reason why I asked this. I need to find an approach to these 9s and 10s who keep rejecting me. Thats all.
Lets drop the name calling too. Lets be mature about this.
I agree that OP's writing suggests some sort of deficit in interpreting social cues.
1) I believe you're in the USA, one of the strongest economies in the world in your mid 40s and don't have a job. This is a screaming red flag for high value girls. Most middle class men not only have a job, but could have several other ones because they have learned some very concrete, unambiguous skills that can immediately add value to a whole class of enterprises-- being a doctor, experienced auto mechanic, licensed plumber or electrician-- the unemployment rate amongst those types is probably less than 1%. They usually have another job ready or their own business if they are leaving a job. If you are independently wealthy, as a poster mentioned above you have to give yourself a title-- "I'm a business investor" was the one a millionaire I knew used. I knew a musician who simply said when asked about his job, "I don't work," but he was playing in a band with me so I know he had something going for him.
2) Your writing suggests you are grossly oversimplifying what women ARE and what you need to be of value to them "I need to find an approach to these 9s and 10s who keep rejecting me. Thats all."
Women are kind of dumb in the area of rigorously logical pursuits like electrical engineering, but very acute in their awareness of your social status, and more importantly, your potential to IMPROVE your social status -- if you're young. They also have a keen sense of who could be FUN, and if you think of them as a sort of poster you can carry around, and you are dull....end of story. Getting pissed off at a girl who avoids you indicates a possible lack of a sense of humor...end of story.
3) Your very early initial successes indicate your appearance is above average and this got you further in the past when young women saw you as a peer and maybe gave you benefit of doubt as far as you getting it together in terms of social status. As they get a closer look, you have some mannerism or failure to relate which seems to come from some long established behavior patterns.
4) I've been through this, and when you age to mid 40s and they can see you are TWO generations away you have to have a BIG compensating factor like intellectual brilliance or big money-- and a LACK of big negatives, such as a lower class speech accent, an air of being harsh and possibly a bully ( you blew up at a girl), or lack of a college degree if you don't have a compensating artistic or intellectual credential.
5) NEVER waste 6 months and dozens of hours on e-communication, I wasted something like 100 hours texting a girl and one time I sent her a text she didn't like and I never got to meet her!!! REAL face to face is the only thing that has reliable substance, maybe cam is halfway there but still means little.