How to be less direct/more playful when responding to a girls question?
07-01-2016, 01:34 PM
Women are natural surrealists. There is nothing so outlandish that they won't take it in stride if they like you. A good way to take the pressure off yourself is to treat it as a opportunity for you to develop a part of your mind you haven't been accessing much, and the woman is there to help you.
I find that the trick is to loosen up, but that, as Don Meredith used to say, "It ain't easy being easy."
What if you just let yourself say whatever popped into your head, before your logical and socially appropriate inclinations took over?
I find that I am at my best when I don't have much filter, except for the insulting and truly negative, and that often, in situations where I didn't know what to say, that if I look back on it, my mind actually did provide a response, but I dismissed it as irrelevant or illogical.
Women thrive on the irrelevant and illogical, and nonsense, up to and including the Lewis Carroll sort of nonsense, has a place in life. It loosens you up, lets you have a good time, and gets you back to the untroubled vibe of childhood, so it is a good goal in and of itself, a social goal, even if it doesn't get you a bang right away.
I am still learning, and don't claim to be a master player, so I can only go so far as to say that playing around with playing around at least makes social dealings with women a lot more fun, and even if you just throw out a non sequitur, often it will spark an equally goofy reaction from the girl, and that will spark a fun and playful reaction from you, and it is on.
A few examples. I was in a waiting room once, and a woman next to me moved a plant off a table next to her so she could use the table. Without thinking, I said, "No, don't move it there, move it to the other table where the other plants are, or it will get lonely." I had no idea how she would respond, but she took it in stride, as if it were the most natural thing in the world, and put her stuff down, got up, said, "Of course, it will be lonely," went across the room, picked up the plant, and moved it over to be with the other plants.
Another time, during a period where I was watching a lot of Ali G videos, and he is the king of nonsense, of taking the simplest situations and spinning them off onto tangents of surreality, and I practiced asking Ali G sort of questions whenever I had any dealings with women. I was ordering coffee at a Starbucks, and the barista asked what size coffee I wanted, and I asked what size tasted the best. Quick upseller that she was, she said large. Again, thinking before I spoke, I said, "So you believe that the larger something is, the better it tastes?"
This led to the both of us laughing loudly in a half embarrassed way and enjoying the hell out of a mundane situation.
So, it isn't easy for some of us, but how about loosening up that filter, and letting whatever comes out come out, before the analysis sets in. It might already be in there waiting for a chance to come out and mess the world around.
If you are looking for examples, or need inspiration, you could do a lot worse than watch Ali G videos.
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