[RexImperator]

Serious. Got groped on Friday night. This "self improvement" has not gone in the direction I was hoping for.

[Anabasis to Desta]

Groped where?

How did you handle it?

[RexImperator]

I was hanging out drinking with an extended social circle of fellow students and this one guy among them gets more plastered than I've ever seen him. While I was sitting down having a conversation with some other students, he snuck up from behind and then squeezed my pecs. (I was about to use the unfortunate turn of phrase "reached around" there...)

I pushed him off and said "Dude what the hell are you doing?" But in a somewhat laughing way since everyone was in a jovial mood and I don't usually get rattled. It was not unlike this but I was more chill about it:

He said, "Sorry...well, not really."

I didn't even realize he was gay before but now that I think about it, he looks overly well-groomed.

[Geomann180]

   

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[CaptainChardonnay]

Weird you brought this up. While walking to the grocery store the other day, a car full of dudes slowed down as it drove beside me. The driver lowered his window and started flexing with his free arm and said, "nice arms man".

[Moma]

Do you lot have beards? i'm wondering what can encourage such behaviour. What part of the world do you reside?

[mikeymike]

All the time, the bigger and leaner you get the more attention you get. It doesn't help that I'm in a city with a huge gay population but they almost always know I'm not gay, they usually say shit like I know you're not but if you ever get curious call me and shit like that. So I'm sure they knew you weren't just knew they could get away with it at the time. Arms are grabbed a lot, but depending on how brazzen they can go for the pec, the ass, but they tend to know when to do it cause it's almost when I'm with a chick or they've got a big crew or the crowd and atmospheres very gay friendly so it's a spot where you can't go off if they cross the line. As long as they keep it to comments it doesn't bug me.

[samsamsam]

The question is - did you enjoy it?

Sorry - couldn't help it.

On a positive note, that means you are in pretty good shape. So it is sort of a compliment.

[Razgriz]

Thought jonbozz was unbanned at first. Haha.

[Recovering Beta]

I was under the impression that gays really liked skinny guys.

[rhodey]

[Fortis]

One reason I started trying to put on muscles was to dissuade those types from hitting on me.

[Valentine]

I thought gays had a gaydar too to avoid this sort of thing?

I've only found gay guys hitting on me when I wear vests and dance/rave. So maybe avoid that situation too.

[cascadecombo]

(05-08-2016 07:27 PM)Valentine Wrote:  

I thought gays had a gaydar too to avoid this sort of thing?

I've only found gay guys hitting on me when I wear vests and dance/rave. So maybe avoid that situation too.

Gay dudes have that fantasy of fucking a straight guy.

I quite hate having a drunk gay man in the same bar as me.

[cubanlinx]

I'd say if a guy tries for PROLONGED physical contact, then he's probably gay.
Sometimes your boys do gay shit like squeezing your ass for the fuck of it.
However, since you weren't really on close terms with this guy before, he's probably gay.

[Tytalus]

When I was younger, bulkier and leaner I occasionally noticed a gay guy checking me out. Generally I was such a rubber necker checking out girls all the time they left me alone.

[PapayaTapper]

(05-08-2016 12:56 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I didn't even realize he was gay before but now that I think about it, he looks overly well-groomed.

[Tex]

Every time I go to the city I run into some kind of homo.

It happened when I was big, it happened when I was small.

It happens less to me now, but I think it's more because I shaved my head and got big. But it still happens.

Hey you know faggots gonna fag.

[Beyond Borders]

Fags even hit on me a lot when I was a fat bastard, the degenerates.

[Rico Ramon]

All the time man , the other day at the gym this older guy in the locker room sees me and starts chatting, I'm getting ready to go in the sauna and then he decides to go back in , afterwards he asks if I have a girlfriend and I say yeah and then he asks if I'm busy the rest of the day and I say yes, then the dude asks if I want to come over and watch a movie and wishing that Redbox rented porno's ( you gotta laugh at that) . I just ignored him and said later. I'm thinking, fuck women deal with this shit almost everyday...

I've noticed that when you are muscular and cut/defined, women are much more likely to let you know they are interested on the street and straight guys are admiring you more, some guys are vocal and cool about it, while others give you those glances and looks when they think you can't see them or they act insecure around you with no eye contact, recognition;

[Stallion]

Gay dudes have been hitting on me/approaching me since I was a teenager, even before I bulked up. I think I have the "cute innocent boy" face they like. It doesn't happen often, once or twice per year at most.

Generally if you politely decline they just leave you alone. A simple "No offense, but I'm not into guys, don't waste your time on me" is enough every time.

I think where I grew up most of them had bad experiences in the past, and are afraid of crossing the line and getting into trouble. One even told me "Ok, I won't bother you anymore, I don't want to be beaten AGAIN".

Groped is a different story, no idea how I would react. I got fatties do that in the past, but just ignored.

[eatthishomie]

I think I put out a masculine enough vibe that gays don't fuck with me most of the time. They ain't about to waste their time on a lost cause. Masculine gay dudes generally go for feminine gay dudes, and feminine gay dudes generally don't make the first move.

[mikeymike]

(05-09-2016 10:47 AM)eatthishomie Wrote:  

I think I put out a masculine enough vibe that gays don't fuck with me most of the time. They ain't about to waste their time on a lost cause. Masculine gay dudes generally go for feminine gay dudes, and feminine gay dudes generally don't make the first move.

lol or they just don't think you're good lookin

If youre in a city with a huge gay population that is overwhelmingly gay friendly like San Fran and Vancouver, you're going to get hit on by dudes if you're good looking. It's just a fact of life. They know we're not gay they just don't care. There is no real harm in there taking a shot. Much like we hit on women and if we strike out we don't give a shit. Guys are gonna be guys, just different targets for gay guys.

[kaotic]

Wednesday night, I was with a date, in a nice fitted polo shirt.

I have alot of facial hair as well. He flat out called me "hot".

I haven't been the same since, I can't go out on dates, I can't even anything.


While a gay dide hit on me, in all seriousness, it's only happened I think 3 times in my life.

I simply said thanks, turned to my date to say something, and he took off.

I made a joke about I'm THAT good looking I attract everyone, laughs were had.

[Anabasis to Desta]

I've noticed that a lot of guys pretend to be annoyed and outraged at gay guys hitting on them while at the same being extremely flattered. Why else would they bother letting everyone know? I chuckle whenever some guy goes ...

"Dude this fucking fag straight up came up to me last night and asked me for my number. Next time this happens imma knock a homo out."