This post comes from the introspection I did today about some recent events in my life.
I had a hard time growing up as a child because of my dysfunctional family and being bullied. I carried alot of rage and agression with me when I was a teenager and channeled that agression into the gym as I got older.
I found RVF, learnt game and focused on self-development. I read as I much as I can, learn foreign languages, travel, game whenever I can etc.
The membership advocates stoicism and part of that stoicism involves the management of one's emotions. I appear calm and composed when I encounter stressful/ unpleasant people/ circumstances, but I'm deep down I realise that I'm not as stoic as I thought.
Alot of things we do as adults come from behaviours we had as children. As a teenager, I was spiteful and harboured alot of resentment for the world. Despite all the personal development I've undertaken, this flaw in my character has followed me into adulthood. Deep down, my refusal to let things go and my lust for vengeance has made this boulder on my shoulder harder to hold. It feels heavier and heavier as I get older. Im in my early 20s and now that Im mindful of this, I dont wish to carry this constnat need for revenge any longer.
As individuals, our personality traits make us unique and individual. Many of you came to this forum as a result of the frustration that plagued you. For those of you who are excessively spiteful, constantly having revenge at the back of your mind is not healthy and will only strain your relationship with those around you. This is not to say that you shouldnt keep mental tabs on those who've fucked you over. Rather, a healthy balance is important for one's mental wellbeing.
I had a hard time growing up as a child because of my dysfunctional family and being bullied. I carried alot of rage and agression with me when I was a teenager and channeled that agression into the gym as I got older.
I found RVF, learnt game and focused on self-development. I read as I much as I can, learn foreign languages, travel, game whenever I can etc.
The membership advocates stoicism and part of that stoicism involves the management of one's emotions. I appear calm and composed when I encounter stressful/ unpleasant people/ circumstances, but I'm deep down I realise that I'm not as stoic as I thought.
Alot of things we do as adults come from behaviours we had as children. As a teenager, I was spiteful and harboured alot of resentment for the world. Despite all the personal development I've undertaken, this flaw in my character has followed me into adulthood. Deep down, my refusal to let things go and my lust for vengeance has made this boulder on my shoulder harder to hold. It feels heavier and heavier as I get older. Im in my early 20s and now that Im mindful of this, I dont wish to carry this constnat need for revenge any longer.
As individuals, our personality traits make us unique and individual. Many of you came to this forum as a result of the frustration that plagued you. For those of you who are excessively spiteful, constantly having revenge at the back of your mind is not healthy and will only strain your relationship with those around you. This is not to say that you shouldnt keep mental tabs on those who've fucked you over. Rather, a healthy balance is important for one's mental wellbeing.