Quote: (04-18-2016 03:18 PM)Aggelos Wrote:
I don't usually write on this forum but I don't know where else to turn, maybe the manosphere can help. I was in a relationship for about a year and a half, and things were going good, didn't have too many fights, we were happy, or so I thought we were. One day my ex meets up with me and ends things, now I was devastated, this was a girl that I fell in love with, never had feelings for another like her. Anyways here I am 8 months later, in a new city, Montreal, which might I add has some of the best putang I've ever seen. Basically since the breakup I don't feel like myself around chicks anymore, I'm a good looking dude, and quite intelligent, but for some reason i can't get over the fact that things ended so shitty and that a girl that i fell for was with someone 3 weeks after she dumped me. I'm pretty sure she was seeing him before but it's made it hard to find a girl that i trust. I've been turned off from putting myself out there and it's getting to me, I've never been in this position and I wanna get out of it, I wanna get through this and end my dry spell.
Thanks
I feel you. I've been there.
Nearly every man that dates women must go through this. You are going through it for your own good. For growth. It is such an epochal event that requires a man to question females, himself and the world.
Many use this devastating 'betrayal' by a woman to fall further into simpdom, further into "what did I do wrong" In actuality, often it is the man that did something wrong. What did he do? He didn't employ game. He called too much and exhibited needy behavior. He got too comfortable with the relationship and the woman, like all women will, lost attraction.
Others, a minority, will use something like this to seek out why this is and why would my snowflake do this? They will learn about hypergamy, relationship game and avoiding needy female behavior (that is, the man exhibiting female behavior in the relationship) They will date and bang as many other women as possible. They will develop a harem. These elect have taken the red pill.
Date other women. Bang as many as you can over time. Bang so many this former girlfriend of yours is out of your system. Interact with and date so many that you not only know, but come to accept without malice, their flaky, wind blown natures. It won't happen overnight, but over years. It will help inoculate yourself, as much as is humanly possible, to the female's wiles and ways.
Will it harden your heart some? Yes, it will. But a man with too tender a heart is no masculine man. Take the pill.