Quote: (04-18-2016 05:35 AM)Rawmeo Wrote:
Just give her an ultimatum: "You flaked a lot on me and keep talking, I find that weird. Anyway, what day are you free? I'll need a clear answer right now or I will have to move on."
This is clearly a popular school of thought in dealing with flakes that I dont entirely subscribe to.
On one hand it shows you being a man and setting up boundaries.
On the other hand this is probably just wasted energy, in the same vein of calling out girls who flake/their mistake. It shows her you are already invested in the situation.
I like your reply though Rawmeo, though I would cut the last sentence. The first part should already gives her a hint.
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On another note, this certainly wont be the first time you get systematically flaked on. The more you hit on girls, the more you will getting flaked on.
So you need to figure out a way how to systematically deal with flake. Not just with this girl.
Other posters already gave you good tips.
Biggest part of not getting flaked on, and of the game itself, is careful screening. Screen out girls who are not very reliable (ish) from the approach.
Building pre-date attraction is paramount to flake elimination.
And finally, she can't flake on you if you are doing something you enjoy anyway. Build a life so that what you do for fun are also great date ideas. If she shows up, great, if not you are out and about doing what you like anyway.
Also, some girls are just cockteasers. They like stringing guys on with a hope that they can get her on a date then never shows up. Yours seem to be one. These girls even if you go on the date, chances are it will be shitty. Deal with her accordingly.
