Hi guys,
I'm a 20 yo guy from central europe, and I guess I'm pretty much a hardcase newbie. I have zero friends at home, and was living the social outcast lifestyle for about two years. I'm moving to a new city to go to college in September, wich seems like a great opportunity to change that. The problem is, that both my self esteem and my social skills are pretty fucking bad.
Thats why I've been in SEA for a good month now, hoping to loosen up a bit and get comfortable around people.
To make it short, I was pretty successful when it comes to speaking with people in hostels and doing activities and tours with them.
On the other hand, I wasn't able to loosen up even once. I'm very bad at fun and light conversations, because I'm serious all the time, and give serious answers to jokes and stuff. I also talk by far the least in a conversation, and I don't remember an exception. I think people keep socializing with me, because they pity me and think I will eventually loosen up. We run out of topics instead.
I used to be different as a teenager, though, more like the funny fat guy. But I smoked a lot of weed since 16, and got consecutively more shy and insecure. I eventually cut all ties to my remaining friends at 18, attemting to start a new life. (didn't work, was the same only without any friends) I was pretty paranoid at that time, even when sober. I suspected my friends installing cameras in my room, and viruses on my mobile phone and pc. I was also hearing sounds, or rhythms, one paff being enough to trigger it.
It has been quite a time since then, but I quit smoking only 2 months before. I have absolutely no desire to smoke again.
To my looks: I look very young, and below average. I'm 185, but skinny with a bad shoulder/hip ratio. I have also a little bit too much fat, but only a few kg. I will go to gym as soon as I get home, and started to do pushups and crunches recently.
I think about my looks pretty much all the time, almost obsessively.
I've been friend zoned, but never talked sexually to a woman, let alone kissed one.
To be honest, I feel pretty bad right now, almost hopeless. I've been thinking about going to a hooker for years, but I don't want that.
Should I go to the Philippines and try to get some experience? Can I even score there as a guy who looks like a 15 year old kid?
I would also be grateful for general advice on my situation.
I'm a 20 yo guy from central europe, and I guess I'm pretty much a hardcase newbie. I have zero friends at home, and was living the social outcast lifestyle for about two years. I'm moving to a new city to go to college in September, wich seems like a great opportunity to change that. The problem is, that both my self esteem and my social skills are pretty fucking bad.
Thats why I've been in SEA for a good month now, hoping to loosen up a bit and get comfortable around people.
To make it short, I was pretty successful when it comes to speaking with people in hostels and doing activities and tours with them.
On the other hand, I wasn't able to loosen up even once. I'm very bad at fun and light conversations, because I'm serious all the time, and give serious answers to jokes and stuff. I also talk by far the least in a conversation, and I don't remember an exception. I think people keep socializing with me, because they pity me and think I will eventually loosen up. We run out of topics instead.
I used to be different as a teenager, though, more like the funny fat guy. But I smoked a lot of weed since 16, and got consecutively more shy and insecure. I eventually cut all ties to my remaining friends at 18, attemting to start a new life. (didn't work, was the same only without any friends) I was pretty paranoid at that time, even when sober. I suspected my friends installing cameras in my room, and viruses on my mobile phone and pc. I was also hearing sounds, or rhythms, one paff being enough to trigger it.
It has been quite a time since then, but I quit smoking only 2 months before. I have absolutely no desire to smoke again.
To my looks: I look very young, and below average. I'm 185, but skinny with a bad shoulder/hip ratio. I have also a little bit too much fat, but only a few kg. I will go to gym as soon as I get home, and started to do pushups and crunches recently.
I think about my looks pretty much all the time, almost obsessively.
I've been friend zoned, but never talked sexually to a woman, let alone kissed one.
To be honest, I feel pretty bad right now, almost hopeless. I've been thinking about going to a hooker for years, but I don't want that.
Should I go to the Philippines and try to get some experience? Can I even score there as a guy who looks like a 15 year old kid?
I would also be grateful for general advice on my situation.