If you have a wife who has sex with you the majority of the times when you want it, and is pretty good in bed, how much sexual refusal do you tolerate the remainder of the time, before you make an issue of it?
Or do you just say, "Well, I'm getting what I want most of the time, so it's reasonable to just compromise and let her have her way if she's not in the mood a certain percentage of the time"?
For some reason, the way my psychology works is that I get demoralized when I'm refused, and feel discouraged from asking later, even though she might say yes. It's hard for me to not take it personally when I get rebuffed. It makes me feel like she's dominant in the relationship if she's in a position to choose when we have sex. I'm really into the creature comforts of having a woman feed me and have sex with me at my whim; it gives me a feeling of comfort and luxury. It's almost like it's more about the principle than the actual sex.
I tried the advice mentioned in the first item of 5 Lines That Potential Wives Cannot Cross, in that before we got married, I asked her (numerous times) to promise that she would have sex with me whenever I wanted. I told her it's been a big issue in past relationships with me, because I just seem to get bent out of shape more than most men when I get refused.
I don't know how many guys share this fetish, but I have a strong desire to sexually own my wife, and to be able to take her whenever I want, as long as she's not physically ill. It's one of the reasons I've pushed her in the direction of being a housewife, so that she wouldn't be able to say "I'm tired from working all day" or "I have to work tomorrow". I want her to be my 24/7 sex slave. I told her, if she's going to say "I'm not in the mood" I'd rather she make a request rather than a demand, and let me still make the final decision.
Just to give you a little background, we're newly married. She's from the Philippines; I finally decided to go with a foreign woman after getting catastrophically frivorced by my borderline personality disordered, radical LGBTQ/feminist SJW blogging, American first wife. She's more traditional than some girls I encountered from, say, Manila, although she's in her late 20s and had a couple major relationships that didn't work out before the two of us met. She's lived with her churchgoing family and the rest of her clan in a pretty traditional Filipino village most of her life, aside from a period when she ran away from home, cut her short, and went to live on her own in the city. I suspect Matt Forney is correct that the Philippines is becoming more Americanized, although there's still a lot of difference between the two cultures and how women are encouraged by their families to act.
When my wife and I first met online, my life was in pretty bad shape, but as time went on I got reestablished in my career and started reading RoK a lot. Reading forum posts like this one makes me want to ascend to the next level by getting back into a workout routine. My wife said shortly after she got to the U.S. that I should get bigger muscles, but then when I said I was going to start working out, she backpedaled and said she didn't want it to take away from spending time with her. I took that at face value and figured, "Well, my job is about to go perm anyway, and then I'll have access to the company's fitness center, so it can't hurt to put off for a few weeks getting into a workout routine."
But at this point I feel like getting big and getting some testosterone in my body for my own benefit, and to increase the masculine/feminine polarity between us. It's the same reason I've been encouraging her to grow her hair longer, wear dresses instead of pants, etc. If she had her way, I'm pretty sure that she would want to just have a small family and get a job, so she could be freer to travel around the world and post the resulting pics to Facebook. At the same time, though, she's still an order of magnitude more accommodating and submissive than any American woman I've been with.
Or do you just say, "Well, I'm getting what I want most of the time, so it's reasonable to just compromise and let her have her way if she's not in the mood a certain percentage of the time"?
For some reason, the way my psychology works is that I get demoralized when I'm refused, and feel discouraged from asking later, even though she might say yes. It's hard for me to not take it personally when I get rebuffed. It makes me feel like she's dominant in the relationship if she's in a position to choose when we have sex. I'm really into the creature comforts of having a woman feed me and have sex with me at my whim; it gives me a feeling of comfort and luxury. It's almost like it's more about the principle than the actual sex.
I tried the advice mentioned in the first item of 5 Lines That Potential Wives Cannot Cross, in that before we got married, I asked her (numerous times) to promise that she would have sex with me whenever I wanted. I told her it's been a big issue in past relationships with me, because I just seem to get bent out of shape more than most men when I get refused.
I don't know how many guys share this fetish, but I have a strong desire to sexually own my wife, and to be able to take her whenever I want, as long as she's not physically ill. It's one of the reasons I've pushed her in the direction of being a housewife, so that she wouldn't be able to say "I'm tired from working all day" or "I have to work tomorrow". I want her to be my 24/7 sex slave. I told her, if she's going to say "I'm not in the mood" I'd rather she make a request rather than a demand, and let me still make the final decision.
Just to give you a little background, we're newly married. She's from the Philippines; I finally decided to go with a foreign woman after getting catastrophically frivorced by my borderline personality disordered, radical LGBTQ/feminist SJW blogging, American first wife. She's more traditional than some girls I encountered from, say, Manila, although she's in her late 20s and had a couple major relationships that didn't work out before the two of us met. She's lived with her churchgoing family and the rest of her clan in a pretty traditional Filipino village most of her life, aside from a period when she ran away from home, cut her short, and went to live on her own in the city. I suspect Matt Forney is correct that the Philippines is becoming more Americanized, although there's still a lot of difference between the two cultures and how women are encouraged by their families to act.
When my wife and I first met online, my life was in pretty bad shape, but as time went on I got reestablished in my career and started reading RoK a lot. Reading forum posts like this one makes me want to ascend to the next level by getting back into a workout routine. My wife said shortly after she got to the U.S. that I should get bigger muscles, but then when I said I was going to start working out, she backpedaled and said she didn't want it to take away from spending time with her. I took that at face value and figured, "Well, my job is about to go perm anyway, and then I'll have access to the company's fitness center, so it can't hurt to put off for a few weeks getting into a workout routine."
But at this point I feel like getting big and getting some testosterone in my body for my own benefit, and to increase the masculine/feminine polarity between us. It's the same reason I've been encouraging her to grow her hair longer, wear dresses instead of pants, etc. If she had her way, I'm pretty sure that she would want to just have a small family and get a job, so she could be freer to travel around the world and post the resulting pics to Facebook. At the same time, though, she's still an order of magnitude more accommodating and submissive than any American woman I've been with.
