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I’m a quarter-way through a 100 daygame approach challenge and have had two dates so far from this. Both were good looking women, and were very open during the approach; we had a good connection, they were enthusiastic and positive. However by the time the date rolled around, it was like they were different people….
Their behaviour was guarded and cagey; one girl had one alcoholic drink and wouldn’t have any more, the other had a cranberry juice and then stopped drinking anything. Both accused me of being a PUA/PUA student and asked how many girls I’d spoke to etc etc. Their conversation was a nightmare. “Why are you desperately trying to meet women on the streets?”......was one example of an annoying question. Some of what they said was definitely shit testy......maybe all of it, I don’t know. I was unprepared for the barrage of crap that I took on both dates which probably didn’t help me handle it well. This was mainly because nothing in the approach interaction suggested they would behave in that way. In hindsight, some of the pre date texting showed hints of the change in attitude, but I didn't take heed. One of the girls refused to answer a couple of simple questions, saying, for example: “I can’t tell someone I met on the street where I work”. Both set time constraints about an hour and a half in. One girl’s hands never left her bag and coat. I ended up wondering why they agreed to meet me in the first place.
Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Is there anything I can do in the approach to mitigate this bitchy behaviour?
How should I have behaved on the date? (I actually tried to increase comfort, but may not have been the right thing to do).
I find first dates from nightgame or from meeting someone through more conventional social channels to be much smoother and fairly easy to build tension and escalate physically. Maybe this is standard shit test / bitchy behaviour and I’m just not used to it. It was clear from what both girls said that they’d spoken to their friends about the date in advance, and I believe that’s where a lot of the negativity came from. Feels to me like they’re afraid of being judged and very focused on the approval of others. Possibly feeling the pressure during the date of the inevitable questions from their friends after.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
I’m a quarter-way through a 100 daygame approach challenge and have had two dates so far from this. Both were good looking women, and were very open during the approach; we had a good connection, they were enthusiastic and positive. However by the time the date rolled around, it was like they were different people….
Their behaviour was guarded and cagey; one girl had one alcoholic drink and wouldn’t have any more, the other had a cranberry juice and then stopped drinking anything. Both accused me of being a PUA/PUA student and asked how many girls I’d spoke to etc etc. Their conversation was a nightmare. “Why are you desperately trying to meet women on the streets?”......was one example of an annoying question. Some of what they said was definitely shit testy......maybe all of it, I don’t know. I was unprepared for the barrage of crap that I took on both dates which probably didn’t help me handle it well. This was mainly because nothing in the approach interaction suggested they would behave in that way. In hindsight, some of the pre date texting showed hints of the change in attitude, but I didn't take heed. One of the girls refused to answer a couple of simple questions, saying, for example: “I can’t tell someone I met on the street where I work”. Both set time constraints about an hour and a half in. One girl’s hands never left her bag and coat. I ended up wondering why they agreed to meet me in the first place.
Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Is there anything I can do in the approach to mitigate this bitchy behaviour?
How should I have behaved on the date? (I actually tried to increase comfort, but may not have been the right thing to do).
I find first dates from nightgame or from meeting someone through more conventional social channels to be much smoother and fairly easy to build tension and escalate physically. Maybe this is standard shit test / bitchy behaviour and I’m just not used to it. It was clear from what both girls said that they’d spoken to their friends about the date in advance, and I believe that’s where a lot of the negativity came from. Feels to me like they’re afraid of being judged and very focused on the approval of others. Possibly feeling the pressure during the date of the inevitable questions from their friends after.
Thanks in advance for any advice.