I've decided to take the plunge, and start approaching solid for at least two weeks.
I'll briefly include the interactions, and write my thoughts on how I could've improved my style, etc. Please feel free to add any comments, and any criticisms are welcome.
About myself: I'm in my early forties, and I've been mostly a introverted type which has impacted my social life and skills badly. 6'1 and muscular, and about 4 in looks.
Socially, was always withdrawn and came across as very awkward. But am addressing this now by hopefully joining groups (like meetup.com). I'm starting to practice on checkout clerks, by just talking about general stuff and it's starting to pay off. Also beginning to relax, and not really give a monkeys if I say something stupid!
Day 1.
Spent a few hours rolling solo. Began by asking people the time, etc, to get me into an approaching mood.
Although I don't smoke, I'm using cigarettes as a prop (ask for a light).
Asked several women for 'a light', and tried to engage but was tongue tied, so thanked them and went on my way. But met up with a Swedish chick who obliged in giving me a light. We spoke about travelling in Europe, and I then suggested that we meet up for a drink. But she used the 'I'm married' line, and I kinda teased her about that. My first real blowout!
Started to approach women in sets (usually two), who were stationary and stood around smoking. So I did my cigarette routine with a couple of youngish goth/rocker chics, and used elderly conversations re the best cafe to eat, etc (as one of them mentioned they were about to eat). Should've asked re the night life, and best places to drink and then transition onto a meet up.
Made my way into the centre, and striked up a conversation with an older chick in her early thirties. She mentioned that her car was due for an MOT, and we spoke about finding a decent garage, etc. She seemed interested in the convo (some IOIs), but I missed an opportunity as we spoke about the night life in the city (and how she preferred quite pubs). I should've made a suggestion to meet up, but I missed it by a clear mile!
Some thoughts. I need to slow down when speaking, and to also find a nice pace to fall into. Noticed that I sometimes come across as too friendly, and that's got to stop as it's kinda creepy (especially with the younger females). Just need to slow down a bit, and also noticed some stuttering (which surprised me, as I never really suffered from this).
My eye contact wasn't too bad (trying to find the right balance), but I sometimes catch myself staring (been told I come across as serious), so need to keep it casual.
Also seem to laugh at inappropriate times (too forced, trying too hard to appear relaxed?), so need to work on that.
But, managed to get some females to laugh and mostly felt comfortable (don't really want to fall into clown game, as I'd rather come across as genuine). Feeling optimistic after today, so will keep on ploughing on.
I'll briefly include the interactions, and write my thoughts on how I could've improved my style, etc. Please feel free to add any comments, and any criticisms are welcome.
About myself: I'm in my early forties, and I've been mostly a introverted type which has impacted my social life and skills badly. 6'1 and muscular, and about 4 in looks.
Socially, was always withdrawn and came across as very awkward. But am addressing this now by hopefully joining groups (like meetup.com). I'm starting to practice on checkout clerks, by just talking about general stuff and it's starting to pay off. Also beginning to relax, and not really give a monkeys if I say something stupid!
Day 1.
Spent a few hours rolling solo. Began by asking people the time, etc, to get me into an approaching mood.
Although I don't smoke, I'm using cigarettes as a prop (ask for a light).
Asked several women for 'a light', and tried to engage but was tongue tied, so thanked them and went on my way. But met up with a Swedish chick who obliged in giving me a light. We spoke about travelling in Europe, and I then suggested that we meet up for a drink. But she used the 'I'm married' line, and I kinda teased her about that. My first real blowout!
Started to approach women in sets (usually two), who were stationary and stood around smoking. So I did my cigarette routine with a couple of youngish goth/rocker chics, and used elderly conversations re the best cafe to eat, etc (as one of them mentioned they were about to eat). Should've asked re the night life, and best places to drink and then transition onto a meet up.
Made my way into the centre, and striked up a conversation with an older chick in her early thirties. She mentioned that her car was due for an MOT, and we spoke about finding a decent garage, etc. She seemed interested in the convo (some IOIs), but I missed an opportunity as we spoke about the night life in the city (and how she preferred quite pubs). I should've made a suggestion to meet up, but I missed it by a clear mile!
Some thoughts. I need to slow down when speaking, and to also find a nice pace to fall into. Noticed that I sometimes come across as too friendly, and that's got to stop as it's kinda creepy (especially with the younger females). Just need to slow down a bit, and also noticed some stuttering (which surprised me, as I never really suffered from this).
My eye contact wasn't too bad (trying to find the right balance), but I sometimes catch myself staring (been told I come across as serious), so need to keep it casual.
Also seem to laugh at inappropriate times (too forced, trying too hard to appear relaxed?), so need to work on that.
But, managed to get some females to laugh and mostly felt comfortable (don't really want to fall into clown game, as I'd rather come across as genuine). Feeling optimistic after today, so will keep on ploughing on.
