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Ukrainian girls problem
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Ukrainian girls problem

I put it in the newbie Forum because I consider it more personal then a general experience.
I don't have direct a question or a need for an advice, but I would like to hear opinions about my conclusion and suggestions.

Situation:
I meet two Ukrainian girls, both separate from each other but at almost the same time. Girl A is 25 and Girl B is 21. Both do an Au Pair year in Germany. Girl A is in Germany for 1 month and Girl B for already 6 months. Both are younger then me. Also they did both study in Ukraine before their Au Pair and want to study in Germany after they did their Au Pair.

How do I meet them?:
Girl A
I meet Girl A (25) online, about 1 year ago, not at a dating site. She did contact me to talk about Germany and speak to German speakers. So we had time by time Skype talk and get along quite well. Never with the intention that I fall in love, go to Ukraine or bring her to Germany. The talks had be nice and it was interesting to talk to a women that share similar points of view on relationship, family, politics and so on. She is attractive, but again no deeper intention do create something like an online relationship. Even more she told me she is married to a guy from NZ but is now back in Ukraine because it did not work. About a month ago she contact me, that she is now in Germany as Au Pair, if we want to meet and hang out. So we did. We hang out twice. At both days we had nice talks, did some walks and get along.

My issue is now, is she worth the effort?
She give me mixed signals. One one side she is very distant, next time she grab my arm. She say she enjoy my company also the messages between the two meetings said that she looking forward to meet me, still all in a low emotion way. My issue is now, yes she likes me but how? Do she like the company and entertainment and nothing more? Because there was no deeper flirting. Also she is still married even that her husband do not know that she is now in Germany. She told me so far everything about their relationship. If she don't lie this guy was her first and only. They did meet for one year before become a couple and then marry.

I have two conclusions about her, the first is, she is using me for company and entertainment but nothing more. That she try to get as much out of me for give nothing in return. (I did read bang Ukraine)
The second, she is very careful, want to keep it slow. She said to me, when she is into a man she want to last it for forever, the best man for her and she was disappointed that her first marriage did not work. This means, a quick bang is hard and even if so, she then expect that we become a couple. I wouldn't mind that so far. All in all it will be a super long and slow process till she open up more.
I never had something like this before, a women that calculate so serious if she want a man or not. Still I spot that she is kind of nervous and check my opinion on many issues.
So in this case I'm not sure if the effort is worth it. She look good, is nice, we share similar values and her company so far is good. I can imagine a relationship with her. On the other side at the moment she just give little positive signals, what is confusing, even more when I think about Girl B.
I will spent some more time with her, have a nice day and see if she open up more in the future. Till then I will focus more on Girl B.

Girl B
She did contact me also online, same website, again not a dating portal. We had nice talks and then switch to whatsapp. Had even some dirty talks and she made very clear that she is into me. So about 1 week later we spent a day together. She is very sweet, charming. Did grab my hand, we did kiss and make out. She told me ahead she want sex but not at the first date. Now we have to set up a second one where I'm sure I get the bang. Her company is also nice I can imagine also to see her regular.

Girl B is a way more into me, on the other side I don't know much about her past, seems like she is a wild one but I could be wrong. This need a deeper questioning of her after I got the bang. Her company is also a little bit more joking. About Girl A, I'm not sure of her intentions, if she just like me or if she just want to be sure if I'm the right one for her and a LTR.

When I compare them:
I consider Girl A more mature, deeper conversations, more serious, still a great company. She can for sure push me to make the best out of me, support me. But I feel that she want to see ambition in my eyes. Or at least I think so, she give me this, I want to fight for her feeling.
Girl B more sweet, less serious even if she is not stupid and also has plans and like that I have ambitions. She is more: I'm fine with our ambitions compare to Girl A. I'm sure she will be also loyal. The great benefit with Girl B is, how she look at me, almost glorification. That is a big ego booster. She is also more playful.
With Girl A it would be all a little bit more serious, with Girl B more joyful.We did laugh more. Still never any negative pressure or serious acting with Girl A, she is also easy going.

Both are attractive, and nice to have around. I did enjoy the looks we got when we walked on the streets. At the moment I will keep dating both, see where it goes with Girl A or maybe choose Girl B by time if I know her better. I don't mind a LTR because my Age of Strife is so far over. The feeling to settle down rise inside me.

Question:
As I said, I made my conclusion so far already. I would like to hear opinions about the situation that give me maybe new information or points of view for my decision.
I will close the deal with Girl B, and keep on seeing Girl A till I made a final solution.

We will stand tall in the sunshine
With the truth upon our side
And if we have to go alone
We'll go alone with pride


For us, these conflicts can be resolved by appeal to the deeply ingrained higher principle embodied in the law, that individuals have the right (within defined limits) to choose how to live. But this Western notion of individualism and tolerance is by no means a conception in all cultures. - Theodore Dalrymple
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Ukrainian girls problem

First of all, PM me that site where you can find those Ukrainian hotties wandering around in Germany.

Second: I guess you think too much or looking for a girlfriend. Girl A sounds like trouble. Married. Why not divorced already? Some guy from NZ? Was she a mail order bride?

Listen to you gut. Try to get the bang from both. Only way to be sure.
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