Quote: (10-09-2016 11:54 PM)wi30 Wrote:
I've been using a "what's up" opener on tinder almost exclusively. Anyone fretting about openers is full of shit.
I usually go a little more high-effort than that, but I don't use canned openers or worry about it too much. I think the opener does matter a small amount; girls get a lot of "hey what's up" openers and I'm not the most devastatingly conventionally attractive guy in the world, perhaps slightly above average and in decent physical shape. I'm not going to be able to coast in on my male model pics, so I try to do a little something to set me apart.
I've peeked at a few girl's app inboxes, and they get a LOT of low-effort openers like "Hey there" or "omg heeey" or "Damn girl sexxxxxy" and so forth. Some of the guys weren't bad looking at all, but it's me who's lying in her bed after a SNL, while their opener has gone to the bin. Game does matter, even right from the start.
Aside from that, though, I don't worry about it too much. I try to include something referential to her profile since, again, I know from a couple experiences that I likely got the lay because the girl in question knew I was sniping on her, not just spamming the same message to the masses.
Two sentences is plenty, and with experience I can jump into a girl's profile, skim it, and "bang out" something slightly clever in about 90 seconds. It helps to have read a lot and have a lot of experiences to draw from for novel material.
My profile is mostly whack-out nonsense (but well-written.) I'm a mad scientist from the future, come back to find a beautiful co-pilot for my time-zeppelin. There's a pic of me with some WW2 aircraft to go along. That sort of thing.
I think one of the high-repped users whose user name I'm blanking on said in an online game datasheet that the goal of a good profile shouldn't be to DHV or necessarily talk about your job or real hobbies. It should be to generate an emotion, a feeling. To tell a story.
I started hitting it up again more seriously over the weekend, grabbed two #'s and if all goes well I've got two meets on the books. This strategy has worked pretty well for me overall. YMMV.