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Stuck in a bad situation, advice needed.
#1

Stuck in a bad situation, advice needed.

I am 20 years old and I used to do OK with women. Had my share of girls, nothing exceptional but still.
I live in a conservative country by Europe / US Standards.
Cold approaching seems to be very hard here, unless you are very good looking or maybe unusual looking, like being covered in sleeve tattoos etc.

Social proof and looks are pretty much the whole "game" here. Facebook is big and everyone seems to be showing off, going to expensive nightclubs to take pictures and having any less than 10-20likes on your profile picture can be a handicap, like anti-social proof.
This is not a college town by the way, it is a big city without a college scene/bars, just mainstream venues. Mostly social proofed people like the ones who work in venues or that frequent them 5 days a week seem to be having success.
Online dating sites are almost non existent here, very few users.

What should I do to get some women in my life again?
I am thinking of finding a job that would help with that, like at a cafe or something, but I wouldn't like to delay my studies since i don't want to live in this shithole of a place for any day longer than I have to.
How could I create a good social circle almost from scratch?
Should I approach people just to create acquaintances?

Thanks.
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#2

Stuck in a bad situation, advice needed.

Tap ALL your social connections.

Then you need to build and add more social circles to ur life. Join local groups, take dance lessons, go to other universities and look to meet girls ect. Go play tennis (i meet girls all the time at the local courts) Get a dog and take it to the park, girls will open you if ur dog is cute. There is alot of ways to meet people and build social circles. Oh another way is the GYM. Go workout. I meet girls there as well as dudes all the time there. Maybe other ppl can add to what I have suggested.

If you get blown out 80% + of the time on cold approaches you are doing something wrong.

1) Figure out the proper way to approach the local women.
2) You might be approaching women out of your league. Remb baby steps, then work your way up

How is dress game? You need to be dressed nice and also need to have a nice proper haircut.

All this stuff can be fixed, so no worries
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#3

Stuck in a bad situation, advice needed.

Would help if you actually mentioned the city you are in! [Image: smile.gif]

However, based on your post I'd say get the hell out of dodge city man!

You are obviously in the wrong fishbowl!

Can't leave yet? Start making dome new guy friends, and dis any woman that tries to facebook close you! You should be laughing abd putting down Facebook at the very mention of the word from a girls mouth. Facebook is a real killer fir many guys simply because you should NEVER lay all your cards on the table. You are robbing the girl of her genetic fantasy of slowly unfolding who you are. Once she has it all, what is there to know by being with you when she can look it up on FB?


Mixx
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#4

Stuck in a bad situation, advice needed.

I live in Athens, Greece, and I would advice any player looking for a good time to steer clear.

The few guys that are pulling consistently use good looks and social proof.
From what I see their game is: work (or hang out a lot) at an expensive nightclub or study at a college with lots of chicks.
Show off a lot, have pictures of you without a shirt and pictures in expensive nightclubs. Add a shitload of chicks on facebook and throw likes on their pictures. Get lots of likes in return until you become a mini-celebrity with your social proof. Then reap the benefits.

I hope game does not work like that in the rest of the world, that would be disappointing. I will be stuck here until i get my degree.

Thank you for your advice, more is always welcome [Image: wink.gif]

EDIT: I found this post in the forum. Good to know I am not the only one who thinks girls here are a bit unreceptive. It seems I have no choice but to try and expand my social circle
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RE: Easiest and hardest countries in Europe to pull?
I'm new here... first day I heard about this site.. and it's awesome.
I've spent past 10 years traveling around Europe trying to pull. I
have the whole tall handsome Latin type down. I'm well-educated and
speak 5 languages.

Hardest... I agree with others.. Spain, Italy, Greece were so
difficult. In Greece, I was with local guy friends who were very
wealthy and the girls simply refused to speak to random strangers even
at the most cosmopolitan clubs.
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#5

Stuck in a bad situation, advice needed.

If you're an engineering student, blow through the classes as quickly as you can. Accept the suck. Try to minimize the amount of time there.

Do NOT work on campus as a bartender, at a cafe, or other job with food or drink. You do not want to clean up after sick students. Worst job ever.

Do look for student intern positions for engineering students. These pay well for little responsibility and are a nice break from classes. They also really look good on your resume when you graduate.

Find where the Education classes are for teachers at your University. These are normally 95% female and desperate for male company. Hang out on their side of the University campus. Act like someone new there. Ask for directions to places on campus, where to buy the cheapest books, what are the best cheap cafes to hang out at. Use the "An old classmate from my last school is visiting and I have no idea where to go." story.

Get involved in anything that mixes the sexes: A choir, a drama group, a waltz club. The volunteer emergency workers for sports events have a large amount of female nursing students and the training class is usually only one weekend. Plus you get into home sports events for free.

Concentrate on getting into small parties with other students in apartments and dorm rooms. Hanging out in campus bars is a waste of your time. Those guys will be washing your car after you graduate.

And you're in Athens! Learn where the youth hostels are and become the friendly local that hangs out with all those exotic visiting student tourists. Pick up a copies of "Lonely Planet" and "Let's Go" and read the student tourism sites about your city. Hang out in those places, and you'll find cute tourists quickly.

Watch for people reading maps. 90% of the time they will have it pointed the wrong way and have no idea where they are. Take the time to point where they are on the map and make turning motions until they orient it the right way. Help them get where they want to go, usually by pointing. Start with a couple older families with children first and just smile and be helpful. Most of the other tourists will then see you as the expert and ask you for help. Interesting girls ...where they want to go everyone always gets lost, the subway's too hard for outsiders, etc. etc. Make an excuse while you have to guide them there yourself in person. Avoid museums, restaurants and shopping, but fountains and other things tourists love to photograph themselves in front for free, try to reserve these for time with you. And always tell them some sights are best seen at night. Tourists really appreciate a local helping them find their way through a strange dark city at night.

Germans think everyone in the world is a pickpocket, so be ready for weird responses from them. Everyone else is pretty cool. Even the Japanese as long as they're not in groups.

As for the "headless horseman" pictures, that gets old fast past age 20. This guide shows men get far better response rates by taking a picture of themselves not smiling and looking off to the side of the camera:
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.html/the-4-...-pictures/

"Alpha children wear grey. They work much harder than we do, because they're so frightfully clever. I'm awfully glad I'm a Beta, because I don't work so hard. And then we are much better than the Gammas and Deltas. Gammas are stupid. They all wear green, and Delta children wear khaki. Oh no, I don't want to play with Delta children. And Epsilons are still worse. They're too stupid to be able to read or write. Besides they wear black, which is such a beastly color. I'm so glad I'm a Beta."
--Aldous Huxley, Brave New World
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