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01-29-2016, 03:32 PM
Monogamy is a healthy way to keep betas productive and invested in society instead of having alpha man harems and constant conflict. You could call it a sort of sexual redistribution. That being said, the goal of any society which is healthy is to teach betas some alpha traits, that way a larger percentage of betas have both beta AND alpha traits. A combo of which, is very attractive to the average woman, in the absence of the artificial Beta State Husband Government Handout.
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01-29-2016, 03:34 PM
They're losers because they're losers, not because they're married. Implying marriage caused it is ignorant. Those men were weak before they got married.
The weak frame, poor actions you describe many men taking these days is whats going on in society in general. All of those things you describe happen outside of marriage, so of course they do in it as well.
Getting married doesn't turn a man into something different, it only tests and lays bare what he already is.
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01-29-2016, 04:59 PM
Anti Trace's thoughts on this I found pretty lucid.
As I roll this around my head it's pretty sobering to realise how much I've changed.
If I was married, and came home to this news, I'd get some evidence of the transgression, for insurance, and then change the scenario American Beauty style, along the lines of: Let's stay married, keep the house with both of us and the kids in it, and not do that whole clusterfuck.
I'm going to do my thing, whatever that is, date , see other women, or not, you do the same.
I'd get a flat to keep some bachelor shit separate, but still put in a good appearance around the house.
Keep the kids out of it as much as possible, and keep on keeping on.
I just don't care anymore, I've detached my ego, my self worth and any notions of "my performance" from what the women in my life do or do not do. Women will be women, you can trust them to do that. Hopefully you get one that's adverse to this shit, if you don't? Ahh well.
We're married and you fucked someone else? Well that's inconvenient, we've got all this shit and these kids. Don't ask me what I'm doing or where I'm going ever again, show me the std lab results before you get in bed with me and I'll see ya round the house sometime.
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01-29-2016, 10:10 PM
It's not really my experience with married guys.
In my experience, most marriages that have "stood the test of time" (and LTRs as well) fall into two camps - successful men who have a lot going for them happily married to successful women who have a lot going for them, and loser men married to loser women in wackadoo marriages full of conflict where they keep on with each other because it's the only thing they know.
Marriages that are just "meh" don't seem to last very long. "Beta Bucks" marriages often fall into this camp, or evolve into the final type.
Sounds like these experiences fall into the latter two camps. These guys weren't pussified by marriage, they were pussies going in and never changed.
I know a guy in his early 60s who was married for 30 years - he's certainly not a pussy, and if you ask him if he regretted at all being married all those years he'll look at you like you're crazy. His wife got cancer and she died with him holding her hand. What did he do then?
He took time to grieve, and then got back in the game. I think he's dating a pretty sweet 40-something hairdresser these days.
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01-30-2016, 06:23 AM
I don't judge married men as I have never been married.
I have wondered how much the threat of alimony, financial ruin, having one's children abducted causes a husband to become the submissive simp walking on egg shells.
No-fault divorce must be like living under the Sword of Damocles.
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01-30-2016, 07:10 AM
Quote: (01-25-2016 11:02 AM)Khan Wrote:
What does this mean for men? Just like during caveman times, the majority of men in today's world are sexually unattractive to women.
Well I wouldn't put it that way - it's more like there is such a clear lack of suitable young, well-intentioned, in-shape, motivated prospective loving mothers in the Anglosphere that the average guy with little game simply has not choice but to settle for an unsuitable wife & mother of his children. Most modern "liberated" Western women simply don't deserve a good man - they are overconfident, entitled, fat, lazy spoiled princesses who add ZERO value to a man's life other than being the mother of his children (and even then they mostly fuck it up as many are also slutty carousel-riders who spent their prime biological childbearing years banging unattainable guys who never considered them as "partners").
And unfortunately, society sends such horrible mixed-signals and bad advice to women in their prime child-bearing years that many of them simply confuse their priorities and wait until it's too late.
Quote: (01-30-2016 06:23 AM)N°6 Wrote:
I don't judge married men as I have never been married.
I have wondered how much the threat of alimony, financial ruin, having one's children abducted causes a husband to become the submissive simp walking on egg shells.
No-fault divorce must be like living under the Sword of Damocles.
Yep. But the power to have a legacy and be a father is so primordial and strong that most men still want to do it even despite the bad deal marriage and divorce laws have become and the horrible options & lack of suitable wives we now have in the West. I think this is also a big part of how many "good guys" turn into pussies as their marriages go on - they basically are "doing it for the children" + as you said the repercussions of a breakup are too draconian to contemplate.
I know countless guys like this. But even so, many of them eventually break and just say "enough" after it slowly dawns on them what a bad deal they've been given and how miserable they are (even if they willingly accepted it early on - they know they made their own bed and have to lay in it, but at some point "enough is enough" and they will do anything to get away from a manipulative woman). It might take 5,10 even 15 to 20 years but eventually it happens.
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01-30-2016, 07:20 AM
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I always wondered who would get all the cash if lesibains divorced? With two pairs of tits, how would the judge know who to give all the money to?
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02-04-2016, 10:32 AM
We all know western women are the lowest quality women in the world hence why betas marry them!
Remember betas rarely get sex so they basically take any girl that shows interest in them. They also fall in love so easy!
70% chance of divorce if you marry a western woman
80-90% of divorces in the west are by the woman
90% of men get raped in the family court afterwards
80% of sucidals are men where 3/5 are due to relationship breakups/divorce
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02-04-2016, 10:59 PM
Marriage and children sap your testosterone levels. That's my hypothesis.
I'm married and definitely noticed the effects of low T when my wife was pregnant with our first. Now that we have another one on the way, I'm being pro-active about keeping T levels up; I'm banging other chicks.
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02-08-2016, 10:35 PM
I know plenty of married men who are still alpha, still strong, the head of the household types who haven't been made into a bitch.
I frankly think it just depends on the man. If you're true alpha when dating and the woman you end up marrying is/was attracted to that, for the most part I don't think the guy changes all that much. But if you're beta when dating or beta in general, the woman will usually have more control both when dating and after you tie the knot.
Do I think some of the younger guys getting married, say late 20s and early 30s who trend towards being pussy whipped, are more common than the 40+ generation? Indeed I do. But I don't think that's due to marriage so much as a generation full of pussies, lacking father figures who don't know what hard work or real men are, ultimately getting married. These women know many of these guys are pussies so they had control and had them eating out of their hands before they ever got hitched.
I think it's also who you're surrounded by. As a former athlete and personal trainer, I knew a number of alpha guys who ran the show. Women respect that. Now working in IT I'm surrounded by betas with little to no social skills, let alone the ability to game.
But when I look at my father who was alpha through and through, and most of his friends who were the same whether they're in their 40s, 50s or 60s, marriage didn't negate their masculinity. That's because of how they were raised, just who they are. Given the pussification of modern culture, it's no wonder there's more guys who lack basic masculinity who let their GFs or wives run the show. That's however due to who they were and are before marriage, not marriage itself.
I've spent far too much time with the older generations of alphas or in Eastern Europe where men are still men to blame marriage for it. If marriage changes who you are for the worse and chips away at your manhood, you weren't much of a man in the first place as women deep down want a leader, want to be protected, want to be provided for, want their stone, want their lion, and if you offer that type of personality from the start, no problems. That all happens during dating though, true alphas make clear their intentions and whatever role they'll have from the start. It's like anything in life, some are natural leaders, others natural followers. You naturally fill your role.
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02-09-2016, 12:42 AM
I was married. I turned into a pussy due to fear of child support payments. Also, got out of shape, so then I really wasn't able to pull hot girls. Rather jerk off, than bang an ugly chick. Then, for whatever I went on about a 6 months period of working out, and eating a shitload of chicken. Lost 45 lbs, gained a lot of mass. It was incredibly easy to get women. I told the bitch to pack her shit I'm done. I'll pay the child support.
So, for me it was a combination. Child support, losing my son, and really not knowing how to pick up women. Life was less dramatic back then, but I also had a boring life.
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02-11-2016, 01:02 PM
Fear of the alternative:
1) losing 1/3 of his money to his wife,1/3 to lawyers,never seeing his kids again.
2) Has been too long out of the dating market, no dating skills.
3) Lousy marriage has made himmistrustful of women, doesn't think the alternative is better.
4) Social isolation: since marrying, hiswife has become his"best" and only friend and is afraid of losing her.
5) She's crazy/psycho and he's learned that it's notworth it to confront her.
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02-11-2016, 03:14 PM
I think the biggest mistake men make with regards to marriage is that they do not fully and objectively read the contract before signing on the dotted line. In this day and age, in the USA, marriage is not a contract that is in the best interest of a man but every day men are signing on the dotted line.