Quote: (01-22-2016 12:19 AM)Robert Plant Wrote:
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So basically discipline yourself to behave like you're not attached even if mentally you are.
Nice, I agree 100% and have gotten decently good at this. There are some downsides however, if you go too hard it can become difficult to connect on a deep, genuine level. So, even when gaming it is important to be very honest to yourself. If you really like one woman, admit it to yourself. At the same time, try to see her as a very real and flawed person.
Sort of. That's tinkering these dynamics on the basic level and will get the same effect...short term.
But long term, you can be attached and even be honest you have strong feelings about her. If she's a long-term or your wife, in fact, she needs to be confident in your bond and know you are committed. Women have to know they can depend on you, and as I've mentioned before, there's a certain point where faking you're not invested comes across more try-hard than being straight up and thus becomes self-defeating.
If they can't, there's no stability in what you provide, which works on it's own level but will always be dysfunctional.
My point wasn't necessarily to feign indifference but that your attention needs to have other things to rest on besides just her. A man should be focused outward, looking to conquer the world (or his small corner of it), while his woman scurries around the nest or sits at his side.
Yes, give her your full attention at times and be sincere in your relationship together, but if she becomes the center of your universe, you seem weak and incapable to her, and the draw disappears.
Due to the emotional nature of women, any bond dissolves with it. Women may have the legal power in a relationship in the West, but it's the man's pschological power that holds the thing together.
In my opinion.
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To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
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