[Blake2]

You know, game is actually kinda fun.

If you go out with the idea "I gotta get a number or I've failed and wasted my time".....yah, its gonna suck. Not only will you not enjoy it, but people will pick up on your attitude and not want to talk.

I used to think getting over approach anxiety was the most important thing, but actually its not. Whats really key is getting motivated to keep going out and meeting people even if you're on a cold streak.

Here are some things I'm doing to make it fun:
1) Look for commonalities, esp. activities
When I start a conversation, I start talking about my hobbies and ask about their hobbies. I do this early on as soon as the current topic starts to slow.
"Hey, I just started doing __, its fun. Have you tried it/know of good places, etc"
Even if you end up not relating to the person in general, you still gain some knowledge.


2) Ask/tell about random shit
I started talking about wanting to be a fisherman one time. Another day, I was talking about wristwatches.
Its taking a shot in the dark, but in might be a good conversation thread....and if its a dead end, just move on.
Certainly better than resorting to interview questions.

3) Speak another language instead.
Its much easier to use your native language(s), but so much more rewarding if you use a foreign language instead.
If you already know one local language...try conversing in another! It gives you a great excuse for starting a chat -"I'm practicing my language skills."
Even if you end up meeting a bunch of horrible people and get not a single smile, let alone a phone number from a girl, you at least have improved your language skills and made the session worthwhile.

4) Reward yourself for the attempt
Right afterwards, mentally congratulate yourself. Check it off on your daily "TO DO" list.
Think of 3 things about the interaction that were positive.
Go and do something you enjoy afterwards- Turn on some good music, have a good meal, go for a walk in your favorite park, check out a new neighborhood,
And remind yourself- This is 2x as enjoyable because its a reward for my progress

5) Believe in it!
"When a cute guy in the curtain aisle of Bed Bath & Beyond asked me out for a drink, I said, "Sangria, please!""
Says the hot girl in this article:-http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jessica-biber/the-secret-to-making-frie_b_6973808.html

So, yeah, game works. There's a girl out there right now that would love to meet *YOU* and is just waiting for you to approach her and start talking.


What about you guys, how do you make daygame a fun part of your life?

Good luck, and game on!

[Phoenix]

When I do daygame chicks let me stick my dick in them. That's fun. Does there need to be some other things?

[Blake2]

Good point there Phoenix. I'll be sure to keep that in mind

[Remington]

The chase is always fun for me. I try different things to get numbers and bangs. The challenge of getting a girl back to your place for the bang is a blast. For me, honing in on a skill set and making it the best I can is always fun. Going to the gym to lift that much more weight each week is great. Learning something new and getting to be good at it also gives me a rush.

[masoud_akbari]

I basically agree with you and I think like this when I do nightgame (no one speaks farsi so I cant do the language part). Enjoying the interaction rather than putting pressure on yourself to pull helps. I do think getting over the anxiety of speaking to girls (I cant do daygame but I try night game every time I go clubbing) is vital.

Also, in life (something which I have to accept) that sometimes you have to persevere with things/activities that are not enjoyable and are tough. But nothing is ever a waste of time, as you can learn from your mistakes

[luke]

I am never going out saying to myself that I will pick up girls or get numbers. I always say that I will just have fun. The girls/numbers come naturally then. And even if they dont, at least I had fun.

[masoud_akbari]

(01-22-2016 10:26 AM)luke Wrote:  

I am never going out saying to myself that I will pick up girls or get numbers. I always say that I will just have fun. The girls/numbers come naturally then. And even if they dont, at least I had fun.

Makes you seem less desperate as well.

Desperation= instant turn off

[Rhyme or Reason]

(01-22-2016 10:26 AM)luke Wrote:  

I am never going out saying to myself that I will pick up girls or get numbers. I always say that I will just have fun. The girls/numbers come naturally then. And even if they dont, at least I had fun.

I do this also. More often than not I get unexpected action as a byproduct.


As far as the OP, I run the best game when I'm already having fun, when I'm not having fun I don't spit quality game.

[travolta]

(01-19-2016 10:04 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  

When I do daygame chicks let me stick my dick in them. That's fun. Does there need to be some other things?

You beat me to it.


What makes game fun for me is having sex. I quite enjoy sticking my penis into a warm, moist vagina hole

[Cobra]

I like the spirit of this thread.

It's about having fun rather than forcing yourself to do hundreds of approaches. When I did them, I forced myself. It wasn't fun, but it is also a common newbie thing to do.

I've developed my inner game quite a bit lately. So nowadays when I have conversations with men or women, I draw them in, the Cobra way. I also enjoy thr process. It's really fun to say off the wall shit and ramble about it endlessly. This is a skill I somehow always had but never utilized. When you can ramble with a fun vibe, not many people will walk away.

[realologist]

My main style of game is clown game, a lot of joking around, teasing and push/pull. I already have fun doing that with my friends so I have fun when I do it with women too.

I think that's why it's important to do something you have fun doing while gaming then bring that energy to the women you talk too.

Game where you already like to be and in a situation that highlights your best traits and you will never go wrong.

[chadverdad]

i tried to get into that mindset long ago but i ended up saying "its ok... i am having fun!" to myself too many times like some faggot

like with call of duty, i am only having fun when im winning. when im not, my patience and composure are tested. im eager to "respawn" and go forth with increased vigor and improved strategy each time, but i wouldnt say its "fun". it is simply a compulsion that drives me to the fun i am seeking

[Octavian]

(01-24-2016 03:01 PM)chadverdad Wrote:  

i tried to get into that mindset long ago but i ended up saying "its ok... i am having fun!" to myself too many times like some faggot

like with call of duty, i am only having fun when im winning. when im not, my patience and composure are tested. im eager to "respawn" and go forth with increased vigor and improved strategy each time, but i wouldnt say its "fun". it is simply a compulsion that drives me to the fun i am seeking

I see what you mean. Too often saying that you're having fun can cover up a lack of success, or can be used to justify not pushing yourself when you should be going for the close. Game is a skill set that you can improve. The process can be fun, but it isn't always.

[HonantheBarbarian]

One thing that made game fun for me when I was psyching myself up to do my first approaches was to make the promise with myself that after my approaches that day are done, I will find a quiet place and smoke a joint and laugh at all the stupid shit I just said.

If I get a number and possible bang, fuck yeah. If not, I got a few laughs and possibly some experience. And hey, I'm still smoking this joint, win or lose.