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07-04-2011, 11:48 AM
Kerouac,
How long you've been like this? Couldn't it be just a phase and you are over analysing it?
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07-04-2011, 12:19 PM
dear Kerouac,
what are u describing is a form of ONE-ITIS....the rule no # 1 before coming into game is never fall into the trap of this.
but we all do fall...the only solution of this is to game more and more and more girls...'the urge' u are talking about is come from neediness...and when neediness dies...the urge vanishes.
if you get that urge..think she is not a queen...she also shit.
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07-04-2011, 12:26 PM
Progression isn't constant. Think of evolution as progress mixed with plateaus and setbacks, but in the long run the tendency is upwards/growth. At least this is what I'm telling myself. You can't go from doing 0 situps to 100 without fallling behind and starting over every now and again. Every time you fall behind, you are still probably better off than when you first started out.
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07-04-2011, 12:54 PM
Just work out bro. It's the cure all.
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07-04-2011, 01:15 PM
Looking back on those two dates, one thing that sticks out is that I just felt like I shouldn't show my sexuality/desire. I just recently met up with an old friend (girl) who told me she remembers me being a lot more horny. I think psychologically it's important to realize that girls like knowing you're a horny guy. For some reason I got the idea in my mind that I shouldn't be so overt with my sexuality, but I guess being more "neutral" it has just worked against me.
With these last few dates, I was very good at setting up dates, but I was terrible with my execution. I didn't get physical at all (again, for some reason I've become more afraid of showing my sexuality), and I was waiting too long to get a strong sign from both of them. I should have realized that by them coming out to meet up with me that is already a strong statement of interest.
What I should have done is pumped up the kino, and taken more charge in general. I guess my post yesterday I was stuck in a weird funk where the feeling of failure tookover the logical/rational part of my brain, so I couldn't see what I was doing wrong and what I should have done differently.
I'm gonna write up a notecard soon that I can keep in my wallet, and I'll post it up here, and hopefully you guys can chime in on certain quick thoughts (like one/two word thoughts like, Kino, Venue Change) etc that we can keep on ourselves when we're getting back into the game.
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07-04-2011, 01:41 PM
Kerouac,
I wouldn't worry to much about it. We all go thru this sometimes. Just focus on yourself and your own Inner Game. Do things that increase your confidence, do things that reduce your fear, do things that make you feel good about yourself. Have fun and do whatever it is that your motivated to do. Maybe focus on your career, or start working out like crazy, or take on some project around the house, or get yourself organized, or just rest and relax.
Your drive will return. Sometimes you just gotta focus on other stuff for a while. Chasing girls all the time is not for everybody. I'm sure you have other passions that you can enjoy in the meantime.
When I need a break from the Game, I hit the weights hard, search for new music, and spend time with friends and family that I haven't seen in a while. I just forget about girls for a week or 2.
Soon you will see a sexy young honey and all your manly desires will return.
Don't overthink it. Use this time to improve yourself and get ready to come back stronger then ever.
I recommend trying something new, something scary, and something that forces you to deal with whatever insecurities you might have.
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07-04-2011, 01:52 PM
Im hitting a spot like this myself. I found game and after a month I had my first new notch, but I made the mistake of going for an LTR with this girl. After that, financially Ive been in a hardspot and not able to go out as often.
For me I've just been focusing more on improving my self. I've been hitting the gym, reading, running, doing anything to make myself better, that way when I get out of the slump I'm that much more dangerous.
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07-05-2011, 12:23 AM
I just deleted my account to see how things go from here. Although I think online dating is another way of finding dates, I just don't think it's the ideal way of finding dates.
Looking back on it, the types of girls I dated and hooked up with were not the types of girls I would go after normally, although they weren't bad. Online gaming provided a different "strain" of girl that I probably wouldn't encounter really, because I think online dating, especially free online dating, seems to attract all types of girls, and what that essentially means is that you will encounter girls outside of your typical "point of reference." So you might meet a lot of decent looking girls, they just might come from a different frame of mind than you.
I'm going to see how much better it is not having online gaming as a fall back plan. It's too easy to log in and chat with a bunch of different girls, yet the "approach" is cheap in online dating. There's no loss, and since there is no real loss, you won't feel challenged. Furthermore, when you do work to get dates, I feel, or at least in my experience, you have to deal with a lot more shit than you would deal with if you were meeting the girl elsewhere. Yet, I put up with it because it's easy, and I might be laying on my bed in my underwear, a situation that wouldn't get me anywhere in any other situation!
Overall, I think for someone who believes in living a better life, online gaming pulls you back! A good life involves challenges, and pushing forth through difficult situations, whatever they may be, to better situations! Online dating does nothing to further your situation! All the gain is short term. You might hook up here and there, but you're not moving anywhere in life.
In regular pick-up, your results correspond with your attitude towards life. If you're living a life you like, you will get good results. Online, you can play a part, and get results, but your life remains stagnant. Which is why, overall, I think online dating is an overall detriment, which is why I deleted my account. Let's see where it goes from here!
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07-05-2011, 08:23 AM
I don't think online game improves actual game. If it did, nerds would get the beautiful girls.
I wouldn't sweat it, just go approach again.
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07-05-2011, 08:40 AM
kerouac you probably need a new city in your life.