Quote: (01-13-2016 11:47 AM)BrewDog Wrote:
I'm in Colombia now, and I'm having a super time. But yeah, it's not the wonderland it was the first time. Was "Jaws" as good the second time you watched it? Things wear out with time.
There's a difference, though, and it's so glaringly obvious it shouldn't even need mention.
"Jaws" is a two-hour and ten minute movie that never once strays from the exact same plot and dialouge every single time you watch it.
The ENTIRE WORLD on the other hand, is so vast and diverse you could spend an entire lifetime checking out a small region of it and
still not see everything worth seeing - and definitely not do everything worth doing.
Back the OP, I'll reiterate that it's very clear why he's bored with his experiences. He's living the same shallow experience out over and over again and expecting something to change. At best, it's a recipe for boredrom and dissatisfaction. Or at worst - as a wise man was once rumoured saying, it may even be the definition of insanity.
Here's the OP again for emphasis.
Quote: (01-09-2016 06:48 AM)Bananaman711 Wrote:
Like all thing in life we humans eventually get tired of everything. At what point does it happen when you don't receive the same pleasure from things that used to make you happy, in this case traveling to various foreign countries where odds of getting quality notches are in your favor compared to home turf.
I have been traveling overseas for 9 yeas now(mostly asia and SA) and I can tell you from my experience that these things dont excite me as much as I they used to.
Banging quality young chicks is fun, no doubt, but when you think about these girls you have to realize most these women who sleep with foreigner on a first or second date are slutty or loose. Morally they are not any different to local western women you find in your town or city, yes they are much more pleasant and feminine but still very loose to be considered dating or marriage material.
I don't think i banged single foreign women where i was her first foreigner, they always seem to have western exes, facebook friends, contacts in whatapp.
You might feel good about yourself thinking your game is good but remember they play the game too and maybe they play it more effectively than us
Do you eventually get bored of it and wanna settle with someone? What is endgame?
Can you not see his problem written right there in his words? His problem is that his whole focus in his wanderings is women. And the worst kind of women. I mean, I don't even travel for the women, and yet I still find it ludicrous this man has been traveling for 9 years and
not once been with a girl who hasn't been with a foreigner before.
Even if women was your sole focus in travel - and again, it need not be - this is silly and a stark proof that OP is doing even his own particular brand of traveling wrong.
I would even venture to say that, judging by the singleminded nature of his post, OP is not even trying.
Considering that he doesn't even bother mentioning any other aspect of travel, your metaphor is apt; he is essentially watching the same movie over and over again - your error, however, is insinuating that need apply to everyone's travels.
If travel to you is is going to various cities around the planet to have sex with easy girls and go to clubs, or to go from reggae bar to reggae bar in various tourist areas, or to lie on similar-looking lawn chairs on a scattering of white sand resort beaches, sure, it is the same experience over and over again and sure to lose its allure.
The same may be true of the typical pattern of going to new places and checking off all the most popular local tourist sites one by one, even though that at least offers variety.
But there's no reason why you can't change the way you travel and your why as you age. First off, travel in itself should not be thought of as a hobby - that may be enough at first, but eventually, it's a backdrop to an infinite number of actual real-world interests.
Start chasing these interests around the globe instead of the destinations.
As of now, I have no real specific interest except that I'm endlessly fascinated by the variations between human cultures, and personally, that in itself serves as an endless point of exploration for me. I studied this stuff in school and don't think it'll ever get old. I can go to any city on Earth and post up on a random corner and just sit around and marvel at the slightest dynamics that many people seem to miss.
As I said in another thread once:
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[...] you've probably played video games where you can just wander the city and you want to peek into every corner and talk with every person and try to open every door just to see what's there - to me, that's every city on Earth, and how could that be boring or lonely or leave room for depression? Why not the very city you're in right now?
And I could dig back into the literature on cultural anthropology at any time to open up a million new doorways. Or even local books in any specific destination. The variety of cultures in a place as overdone even as Thailand, for example, is simply staggering.
But even if that grew boring in itself, I can think of countless other fascinations that are interesting enough to keep me wandering around the planet - or what is more likely for me, rooting myself down in various destinations and digging in for a long period of time.
Is that trying too hard? Should you have to constantly evolve your hobbies and interests to keep travel exciting?
To me, that's looking it all wrong.
The truth is you have to constantly evolve your interests to keep LIFE exciting whether you travel or not. Travel is just a vehicle for doing that because it puts so much more possibility in your lap. I mean, are all your friends who are back home working regular jobs and never going anywhere living excited, inspired lives? Aside from the most interesting, most are probably not, and it isn't because they aren't traveling either.
My point is that if you're bored, you'll be bored, whether you travel or not, and travel is not the problem.
On top of that, the constant novelty stretches your experience of time and in a way thus prolongs your life on Earth. To me, this is the most underestimated benefit to the lifetime of novel experiences offered by global travel.
If Colombia has grown drab to you, the simple temporary fix is just go somewhere else.
Or hell, take a break for a while and focus on a more stationary lifestyle choice. Everyone thirsts for stability and roots at times.
But comparing the endless opportunities created by world travel to a 2-hour movie is a gross error in perspective.
Beyond All Seas
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling