[Mercenary]

Something that has happened to me quite often:

When a girl is really into me (and we have been together a few months or more) she starts taking a keen interest in grooming my face.

I mean things like trimming my eyebrows, putting skin creams on me, pulling out the odd in-growing beard hair, and even popping a pimple/zit (spot) if I have any on my face.
They do this with real enthusiasm…like some exciting project.

I never understood this.
I mean, a girl's threshold for something being “disgusting” is much MUCH lower than a guys, so I don’t see how they can even get the stomach to do this.

Even back in my most pathetic beta (omega) days, and no matter how much “in love” I was with a girl, I never got even the slightest urge to say “Hey, I really want to trim your hair fringe” or “Let me fix your makeup for you”.…and just the thought of popping the pus out of a pimple on girl’s face (no matter how hot she is) would still make me recoil in absolute disgust.

Anyone else experience girls doing this to them ?
Or have any theories why girls are so keen on this ?

All I know for sure is that if a girl does this facial grooming for you…she is definitely in love with you.

[Horus]

I was dating a beauty therapist once. One night, I passed out drunk at her house. I woke up with my head propped up on a towel while she was giving me a full exfoliating facial. I just went back to sleep and let her do whatever it was she was doing.

[Gmac]

[PapayaTapper]

(01-07-2016 12:50 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  

I never understood this.
I mean, a girl's threshold for something being “disgusting” is much MUCH lower than a guys, so I don’t see how they can even get the stomach to do this.

You have any idea the mucousy, bloody shit a girl sees come out of her own hooha hole every month? A pimply ingrown hair aint shit

[AneroidOcean]

(01-07-2016 01:17 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(01-07-2016 12:50 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  

I never understood this.
I mean, a girl's threshold for something being “disgusting” is much MUCH lower than a guys, so I don’t see how they can even get the stomach to do this.

You have any idea the mucousy, bloody shit a girl sees come out of her own hooha hole every month? A pimply ingrown hair aint shit

Not only this, but females have VERY different concepts of what is disgusting and what is attractive versus us guys. There's also variation from girl to girl. Some girls are scared shitless of a spider and some are not at all, as an example.

Current and past LTR have enjoyed (some or all of):
* Waxing or watching my chest get waxed (I'm not really hairy but I've done it)
* Washing my back (this is a nicety and I know it's not disgusting but they really enjoy it)
* Cutting/trimming the hair on my head.
* Wanting to shave my face (and me actually trusting them enough to let them)
* Pulling ingrown hairs out.
* Popping zits on my back or elsewhere. They seem to enjoy that it never hurts enough for me to complain.
* Helping me treat/deal with a large or infected wound.
* Helping me shower or anything else that was difficult/impossible to do with an injured limb.

I've also popped zits/dealt with an ingrown hair on girls that I've dated.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to help someone you care about. This extends to friends/family as I would readily and without question do some disgusting/nasty shit for people that are close to me. I have had family and close friends be seriously hospitalized and have helped them with everything down to being naked/sponge-bath type stuff as well as cleaning up wounds and other things that might otherwise be considered strange because I know they'd do it for me. Circumstance dictates modesty.

There's everything right with a girl wanting to take care of you. If something really bothers you set a personal boundary, but there's nothing unmanly about letting your girl take care of you in these ways, just don't appear soft too much of the time.

[Anabasis to Desta]

Love it when girls do that. But only if I'm emotionally invested in the chick. An old picture of me getting groomed by my ex ...

Quote:

Many social animals groom each other, in an activity known as social grooming. Primates provide perhaps the best example of this activity. The trust and bonding it builds is critical to group cooperation. Women, but not men, tend to think people who have groomed one another are romantically involved. People also think that if people who have groomed one another are romantically involved, they are in a long-term relationship rather than one that has just begun. Human mutual grooming plays a role in pair-bonding.

So I'm pretty sure it's one of those weird things girls subconsciously do to get you to commit like leaving scarves or toothbrushes at your place.

[BackFromTheBrink]

Horus - Hope you returned the favour with a facial for her?

[Surreyman]

It's pretty awesome getting a girl to wash you in the shower. I mean, think of her shampooing your hair, sponging your body. I'm sure Sigmund Freud would have something to say about it all, but I don't care, I love it.

On the subject of grooming, my girlfriend wanted to deal with some blackheads on my nose, and I consented (having only that minute learnt what blackheads were). She had this metal tool with a tiny loop on one end and a spike on the other. It was seriously painful, she broke skin at one point. I was reminded of American GIs being tortured by the Vietcong, and I told her this (she is Asian). Never let them do blackheads!

[Dr. Howard]

(01-07-2016 04:11 PM)Surreyman Wrote:  

It's pretty awesome getting a girl to wash you in the shower. I mean, think of her shampooing your hair, sponging your body. I'm sure Sigmund Freud would have something to say about it all, but I don't care, I love it.

On the subject of grooming, my girlfriend wanted to deal with some blackheads on my nose, and I consented (having only that minute learnt what blackheads were). She had this metal tool with a tiny loop on one end and a spike on the other. It was seriously painful, she broke skin at one point. I was reminded of American GIs being tortured by the Vietcong, and I told her this (she is Asian). Never let them do blackheads!

I agree, I dated this one girl that would bring me a scotch and scrub me down while I lounged in the bath. It was awesome.

[XXL]

Very common. Women love to take care of their man. There's nothing more to it.

[John Michael Kane]

I don't see this abnormal. If a girl loves you, she'll want to make sure you look good. I'd say this is normal, not abnormal. I'm not sure why the OP has a problem with this to be honest.

[Sam Malone]

Quote : "Horus - Hope you returned the favour with a facial for her?"

[StrikeBack]

(01-07-2016 01:34 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  

Love it when girls do that. But only if I'm emotionally invested in the chick. An old picture of me getting groomed by my ex ...

Yes it is in their feminine nature to do so. They feel the urge to groom their man.

One thing my LTR loves to do is to wash and massage my feet, then put some moisturiser on them. Sometimes it feels so good I'd take a nap, only to wake up to a BJ.

For me, my urge is to give her a banana as reward, usually metaphorically but sometimes literally if there's one in the fruit bowl nearby.

[PapayaTapper]

(01-07-2016 01:48 PM)BackFromTheBrink Wrote:  

Horus - Hope you returned the favour with a facial for her?

[Repo]

Its not that crazy when you think abour it. Women are less visual creatures then men, as must of us agree game trumps looks. So while we may be disgusted if we were to do the same thing to them, the feeling that they are doing womenly things to their rugged man overwhelms the visual issue.

[AntiTrace]

I once had a horrible ingrown hair in the crack of my ass. Really deep down in there. I couldn't even sit down.

My girlfriend at the time, being the trooper (and disgusting bitch) she was, was all too happy to pull it out for me. She grabbed a pair of tweezers and I layed face down spread eagle in the living room floor. She proceeded to start searching for the offending ingrown.

Of course it was deep down in there and I, like many men, have a hairy ass crack. The fucking thing was camouflaged. I tell her to grab a flashlight, and to get right down in there.

So she did. And there she was, hunching over the asscheeks I was spreading open, wielding a pair of tweezers in one hand and a flash light in the other. He face was mere inches from my ass crack.

What's a man to do? Sure I want this thing plucked out. Sure I want this pain to stop. But at what cost? Was I willing to miss the golden, once in a lifetime, opportunity to show complete and utter dominance over my girlfriend just so I could be relieved of some pain?

No. I chose the pain.

So trying not to give myself away I told her "Get closer, you're almost there. Get closer you can probably see it. It hurts so bad, get closer"

And she did.

Closer she got...

then closer..

and even closer...

And right before she could pluck that horrible ingrown asshair...with her face so close that my ass hairs were tickling her nostrils, I pushed out the loudest, nastiest, beer fart that I could muster.

She revolted backwards against the wall, slamming her head off the closet door in the process. Slapping at her face with one hand, like she was trying to exorcise a demon, and rubbing the back of her head with her other, screaming all sorts of obscenities. I jumped out, giggy as could be, and pumped my fists into the air to celebrate my accomplishment.

That is my fondest memory of that relationship. So yeah, them bitches do some nasty grooming from time to time. But I appreciate it.

[RatInTheWoods]

(01-07-2016 07:10 PM)XXL Wrote:  

Very common. Women love to take care of their man. There's nothing more to it.

Yep, this. Nothing to see here.

[PapayaTapper]

(01-07-2016 09:23 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

I once had a horrible ingrown hair in the crack of my ass. Really deep down in there. I couldn't even sit down.

My girlfriend at the time, being the trooper (and disgusting bitch) she was, was all too happy to pull it out for me. She grabbed a pair of tweezers and I layed face down spread eagle in the living room floor. She proceeded to start searching for the offending ingrown.

Of course it was deep down in there and I, like many men, have a hairy ass crack. The fucking thing was camouflaged. I tell her to grab a flashlight, and to get right down in there.

So she did. And there she was, hunching over the asscheeks I was spreading open, wielding a pair of tweezers in one hand and a flash light in the other. He face was mere inches from my ass crack.

What's a man to do? Sure I want this thing plucked out. Sure I want this pain to stop. But at what cost? Was I willing to miss the golden, once in a lifetime, opportunity to show complete and utter dominance over my girlfriend just so I could be relieved of some pain?

No. I chose the pain.

So trying not to give myself away I told her "Get closer, you're almost there. Get closer you can probably see it. It hurts so bad, get closer"

And she did.

Closer she got...

then closer..

and even closer...

And right before she could pluck that horrible ingrown asshair...with her face so close that my ass hairs were tickling her nostrils, I pushed out the loudest, nastiest, beer fart that I could muster.

She revolted backwards against the wall, slamming her head off the closet door in the process. Slapping at her face with one hand, like she was trying to exorcise a demon, and rubbing the back of her head with her other, screaming all sorts of obscenities. I jumped out, giggy as could be, and pumped my fists into the air to celebrate my accomplishment.

That is my fondest memory of that relationship. So yeah, them bitches do some nasty grooming from time to time. But I appreciate it.

[Sam Malone]

Well done, sir...

[Sourcecode]

(01-08-2016 12:51 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

(01-07-2016 07:10 PM)XXL Wrote:  

Very common. Women love to take care of their man. There's nothing more to it.

Yep, this. Nothing to see here.

Going on third on this.
Why is it gross that a woman wants to groom her man? She wants you clean.

I also don't see anything alpha or dominant over a chick by farting in her face.
That's honestly sounds disrespectful, extremely childish at the least.

[PapayaTapper]

^^^^Youre absolutely right


But his telling of the story is pretty fucking funny...no?

[AntiTrace]

(01-08-2016 02:49 PM)Sourcecode Wrote:  

(01-08-2016 12:51 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

(01-07-2016 07:10 PM)XXL Wrote:  

Very common. Women love to take care of their man. There's nothing more to it.

Yep, this. Nothing to see here.

Going on third on this.
Why is it gross that a woman wants to groom her man? She wants you clean.

I also don't see anything alpha or dominant over a chick by farting in her face.
That's honestly sounds disrespectful, extremely childish at the least.

The dominance line was a joke.

Lighten up Francis. Eat a snickers, you're a real bore when you're hungry.