Quote: (01-05-2016 02:15 PM)GlobalMan Wrote:
I think some are confusing "over dressed" with "dressed well". You should always aim to be dressed "well", whatever that calls for, being better dressed than the average guy can have a huge positive impact. However, you absolutely can be over dressed and it can and does limit you if you do so, depending on where you are located.
Yes. Focus on being the best-dressed guy there. Don't wear a tux to a rodeo.
I agree with, but also disagree with a lot of the comments made on this thread, given that I'm using the context of being in a large city, not Omaha or Calgary.
Age of the girl is irrelevant to whether or not you are suited up. 19, 23, 27 they all like guys in suits. They don't think 'Dad,' they think new, different, interesting, and then your game shows them that you are cool and fun and can give them an experience they haven't had before. This isn't theory, this is my last 3 years of experience in suit game with dozens of college girls. Your SMV goes up immediately. Girls are intrigued by pocket squares, cufflinks, nice ties. And I've never seen the 'gold-digger' mentality in the college ranks. That's more the 28-35 range.
The two main things to focus on are fit and congruence. If suits are not tailored well, you shouldn't have bothered. If they make you feel insecure instead of confident, don't wear them.
If you think wearing a suit means having to wear a dark navy, white shirt, and repp tie you need to expand your horizons.
Avoid, especially if you're 25+, Zara and H+M. Terrible quality, poor fit. Why are you attempting to chase the fashion of the moment? Learn style, not fashion. Don't dress like the 25 other guys that just got the same clothes there. That day. Women won't give you extra points for having the latest poor imitations from H+M.
They will when you are confident in your look and better dressed than the 'fast-fashion' wannabes, and the untucked shirt, jeans/khakis, loafer/Chus squadron. Why are you dressing to blend in? Getting her attention with a really solid style makes it easy to pick up on her IOIs, and you will get approached a lot more. And you certainly don't have to spend thousands to look good.
And you don't have to wear a tie - as others have noted and posted, a great fitting jacket, shirt, nice shoes looks great in the right place. WIA posted a great photo of that look. But you should own at least one good suit and one very good pair of shoes.
Someone mentioned they were afraid of looking like they came from work. Why? Lots of people go for drinks after work. Maybe you were working late. Don't be afraid of looking better than the other guys at the bar. Have confidence. If you're afraid of standing out, you need to work on your insecurities, rather than default to a flannel, boots & jeans look.
So, summing up - wear clothes that fit perfectly. Be confident. Be congruent. Quality workmanship is important. Be the best-dressed [not overdressed] guy they see all night. Watch your SMV go up 1-2 points. Most importantly, enjoy the attention.