Rules of Money and Game
Thankfully, God hath blessed your buddy Hank, and he has a couple dollars. When I first got into game, I figured that alone would set me apart. To my surprise, having money isn't all that helpful. In fact, when done wrong, it can inhibit your game.
Nowadays I run mostly social circle game. I keep two main groups of friends - my "professional" friends, and my "degenerate" friends. Surprisingly, my degenerate friends tend to get laid a lot more by way hotter girls. I still find myself learning game from them.
It's my professional friends who are usually coming to me with questions like "Hank, how do you score so much poon? You just get laid all the time because you have money!" Nothing could be further from the truth.
These are generally my rules of engagement when it comes to money and women:
1. Only take women who you've already banged out to a nice dinner or on vacations. Not to impress them, but because you feel like having a nice dinner or going on vacation. It's not beta to want a steak and some company to enjoy it with. I'll pick up the tab because I know she can't afford it, and I'm dying for a good steak. That said, fancy dinners do not get you laid. They do drain your wallet.
2. Do not ever lead with money, especially early in the relationship. Some cool chick on OkCupid responded to your message and agreed to a date? You look like the biggest fucking dork by making reservations at the City's finest restaurant, getting a bottle of fancy champaign, and blowing $500. When you start throwing cash at her, it sends the message that you're such a dork that you have nothing else to offer than your wallet. Take her to a dive bar near your house or a coffee shop. I don't care how much money you have.
3. You do not need money to get laid. Plenty of bartenders, servers, tattoo artists, skateboarders, "I don't have a job", and generally lovable degenerates consistently score top notch poon. There are many women who will spend the evening eating steak with you, and then spend the night over at the bartender's house. If you're broke, don't let that stop you from gaming chicks even for a second. My most broke buddies get laid all the time. "Hank, I banged that hot chick last night." "Bro, nice!" "Um, dude, can I borrow your car? Mine ran out of gas..."
4. Life isn't fair. I know, you went to school for a million years and worked hard for that six figure career. Women should be throwing themselves at you, your BMW, and your cool house. Instead she's still dating that guy who kinda sorta has a job. Well, guess what? If you're only as cool as your possessions, chances are she sees that. Having a few dollars and being professionally successful does not directly translate into bangs. It just doesn't.
5. Women have no respect for a guy who indulges their every whim. She wants a Coach bag? Tiffany jewelry? Vacation to the Bahamas? Great, she can get a real career and buy it for herself. If you're trying to "buy her love", chances are you're overpaying for what the bartender gets for a few shots of Fireball and some laconic humor. If she likes your BMW, but not you, expect to be cheated on. Any idiot can buy a BMW.
6. Money can actually inhibit your game. One of the biggest mistakes I see with my professional friends is this - on the inside, they're dorks, so they try and make up for it by throwing around cash. While they think it makes them look cool, it actually makes them look dorkier. They take average looking women out to fine dinners, buy them jewelry, and even take them on vacations. Sometimes prior to even getting the bang. Oddly, one of the biggest ways to turn off women is to throw money at them. Take them out to lavish dinners, buy them presents, etc. If you're throwing money at women, it sends the message that their time is so valuable that you're willing to pay for it. Are you that big of a loser that you need to throw cash at 7s just to keep their attention? Instead, focus on getting in shape and learning game. Otherwise you're overpaying for poon.
7. Women are ruthless. True story - I'm on a trip to Vegas with some hot lady friends. We go into a bar, and some guys bring them into VIP, bottle service, all that jazz. These dudes must have dropped $1k, at least. The girls enjoy their drinks, have a great time, and then leave with the guys they came with. Case in point - women have no scruples about enjoying that steak dinner or bottle service and giving up nothing in return. As far as they're concerned, they're entitled to presents and free drinks from men willing to foot the bill for it. Are you that guy?
8. White Knighting. Her phone is going to get shut off, electric is going off, and her car is going to get repossessed. If only some masculine male would step up and "do the right thing" by helping her out from her own bad decisions. He would be a savior! Just... no. Paying a woman's bills just makes you a giant blubbering vagina. Do not ever do this under any circumstances ever for any reason ever. If you want to throw money away, donate it to the RVF (an actual good use of your money). Paying a loser women's bills isn't a ticket to get laid. Chances are she will enjoy your money while banging the baby daddy who put her there in the first place.
9. Three date maximum. "Hank, bro, I've taken this girl out on ten dates, and I've paid for everything. Do you think I should move in for the kiss?" If you haven't banged a girl after three dates maximum, you're DOA. She's either attracted to you, or she's not. First or second date should result in a kiss, third a bang. Anything more and you're wasting time and money. Sorry. I've seen my professional friends take girls on dozens of dates with nothing but a peck on the cheek. Stop wasting your money.
10. Your money is for you. Got cash? Buy that AR-15, new set of speakers, or a motorcycle. Better yet, save it and invest it. Once you've got game, women are a replaceable commodity. They're not worth throwing a lot of cash it, nor is it necessary. Instead, use money to enrich your life. You can get laid with a few shots of Fireball, just like your bartender buddy. Women are simply not worth throwing cash at.
Thankfully, God hath blessed your buddy Hank, and he has a couple dollars. When I first got into game, I figured that alone would set me apart. To my surprise, having money isn't all that helpful. In fact, when done wrong, it can inhibit your game.
Nowadays I run mostly social circle game. I keep two main groups of friends - my "professional" friends, and my "degenerate" friends. Surprisingly, my degenerate friends tend to get laid a lot more by way hotter girls. I still find myself learning game from them.
It's my professional friends who are usually coming to me with questions like "Hank, how do you score so much poon? You just get laid all the time because you have money!" Nothing could be further from the truth.
These are generally my rules of engagement when it comes to money and women:
1. Only take women who you've already banged out to a nice dinner or on vacations. Not to impress them, but because you feel like having a nice dinner or going on vacation. It's not beta to want a steak and some company to enjoy it with. I'll pick up the tab because I know she can't afford it, and I'm dying for a good steak. That said, fancy dinners do not get you laid. They do drain your wallet.
2. Do not ever lead with money, especially early in the relationship. Some cool chick on OkCupid responded to your message and agreed to a date? You look like the biggest fucking dork by making reservations at the City's finest restaurant, getting a bottle of fancy champaign, and blowing $500. When you start throwing cash at her, it sends the message that you're such a dork that you have nothing else to offer than your wallet. Take her to a dive bar near your house or a coffee shop. I don't care how much money you have.
3. You do not need money to get laid. Plenty of bartenders, servers, tattoo artists, skateboarders, "I don't have a job", and generally lovable degenerates consistently score top notch poon. There are many women who will spend the evening eating steak with you, and then spend the night over at the bartender's house. If you're broke, don't let that stop you from gaming chicks even for a second. My most broke buddies get laid all the time. "Hank, I banged that hot chick last night." "Bro, nice!" "Um, dude, can I borrow your car? Mine ran out of gas..."
4. Life isn't fair. I know, you went to school for a million years and worked hard for that six figure career. Women should be throwing themselves at you, your BMW, and your cool house. Instead she's still dating that guy who kinda sorta has a job. Well, guess what? If you're only as cool as your possessions, chances are she sees that. Having a few dollars and being professionally successful does not directly translate into bangs. It just doesn't.
5. Women have no respect for a guy who indulges their every whim. She wants a Coach bag? Tiffany jewelry? Vacation to the Bahamas? Great, she can get a real career and buy it for herself. If you're trying to "buy her love", chances are you're overpaying for what the bartender gets for a few shots of Fireball and some laconic humor. If she likes your BMW, but not you, expect to be cheated on. Any idiot can buy a BMW.
6. Money can actually inhibit your game. One of the biggest mistakes I see with my professional friends is this - on the inside, they're dorks, so they try and make up for it by throwing around cash. While they think it makes them look cool, it actually makes them look dorkier. They take average looking women out to fine dinners, buy them jewelry, and even take them on vacations. Sometimes prior to even getting the bang. Oddly, one of the biggest ways to turn off women is to throw money at them. Take them out to lavish dinners, buy them presents, etc. If you're throwing money at women, it sends the message that their time is so valuable that you're willing to pay for it. Are you that big of a loser that you need to throw cash at 7s just to keep their attention? Instead, focus on getting in shape and learning game. Otherwise you're overpaying for poon.
7. Women are ruthless. True story - I'm on a trip to Vegas with some hot lady friends. We go into a bar, and some guys bring them into VIP, bottle service, all that jazz. These dudes must have dropped $1k, at least. The girls enjoy their drinks, have a great time, and then leave with the guys they came with. Case in point - women have no scruples about enjoying that steak dinner or bottle service and giving up nothing in return. As far as they're concerned, they're entitled to presents and free drinks from men willing to foot the bill for it. Are you that guy?
8. White Knighting. Her phone is going to get shut off, electric is going off, and her car is going to get repossessed. If only some masculine male would step up and "do the right thing" by helping her out from her own bad decisions. He would be a savior! Just... no. Paying a woman's bills just makes you a giant blubbering vagina. Do not ever do this under any circumstances ever for any reason ever. If you want to throw money away, donate it to the RVF (an actual good use of your money). Paying a loser women's bills isn't a ticket to get laid. Chances are she will enjoy your money while banging the baby daddy who put her there in the first place.
9. Three date maximum. "Hank, bro, I've taken this girl out on ten dates, and I've paid for everything. Do you think I should move in for the kiss?" If you haven't banged a girl after three dates maximum, you're DOA. She's either attracted to you, or she's not. First or second date should result in a kiss, third a bang. Anything more and you're wasting time and money. Sorry. I've seen my professional friends take girls on dozens of dates with nothing but a peck on the cheek. Stop wasting your money.
10. Your money is for you. Got cash? Buy that AR-15, new set of speakers, or a motorcycle. Better yet, save it and invest it. Once you've got game, women are a replaceable commodity. They're not worth throwing a lot of cash it, nor is it necessary. Instead, use money to enrich your life. You can get laid with a few shots of Fireball, just like your bartender buddy. Women are simply not worth throwing cash at.
