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12-29-2015, 05:27 PM
So I'm in Russia currently and I went on a first date with a really beautiful girl. She kept telling me how quiet and not active I am. Which is true, because I generally don't tend to be the greatest at making conversations. On the next date she wants me "to be more active." I don't know if this just means talk more or what else she could mean.
I appreciate all advice.
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12-29-2015, 05:39 PM
What was the date? Same as every other guy? Coffee? Dinner.
Here is what you do. I'm guessing you're interested in something. You take her to the place where she can see what you are interested in and you tell her about it enthusiastically. HOWEVER, mix in with that some non verbal push.
My reasoning is cuz women want to see drive and passion. Every guy has that but it is in his chosen niche. It will show when you take her.
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12-29-2015, 05:47 PM
If you don't feel like talking a lot, don't. I wasn't there, but if I may guess she was doing some drama to see if you respond. If she didn't like that about you she would have moved on or not bothered commenting on it. Instead she brought it up, and if it was in a complaining way I'm pretty sure she's trying to see if she can manipulate you.
Ignore it completely when she complains, don't reward that behaviour. She will stop doing it. And if you are a quiet guy, good. Lean back, be comfortable and show her that you want to find out if and why she is nice for you to hang out with. That attitude will help you make the most of it anyways.
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12-29-2015, 05:52 PM
We had a 6 hour date. We walked around the city a bit and then had coffee and then walked a bit more and then had dinner. Maybe she meant with "be more active" I should have kissed her earlier? I only kissed her when said goodbye.
Hmm, I wouldn't really know what place that is. I'm gonna see what there is in the city. Can you elaborate on that "non verbal push"?
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12-30-2015, 02:57 AM
I can't speak to Russian social mores, but I doubt that her order to "be more active" has anything to do with talking more. Sounds like a pretty strong hint that she doesn't see the kind of world-altering passion girls want to see out of guys - if not a signal that she wants you to be more forward sexually.
Next date, don't talk any more than you did the first date, but emphasize whatever you have or have done that suggests power, initiative and efficacy. And grab her ass and give her some serious kissing if not an invite back to your pad.
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12-31-2015, 03:51 PM
Quote: (12-29-2015 05:52 PM)Tresdus Wrote:
We had a 6 hour date. We walked around the city a bit and then had coffee and then walked a bit more and then had dinner. Maybe she meant with "be more active" I should have kissed her earlier? I only kissed her when said goodbye.
Hmm, I wouldn't really know what place that is. I'm gonna see what there is in the city. Can you elaborate on that "non verbal push"?
Six hours is definitely a huge window to at least kiss her, and at some point say "fuck this" and run underneath a bridge or find your way inside a lightly occupied building with a view, her hand in yours. It seems like you're comfortable taking it a little bit slow, which isn't bad. I'm sure she appreciated that you were respectful. Her words were clear, however: She likes you enough to date you again, but she wants to have fun. She wants adventure, and she wants you to take the lead. Honestly, this should be fun for you too. Go do something exhilarating (but not stupid) on your next date. Make it spontaneous.
When I think of non-verbal push, I think of taking her arm while walking, touching her while talking, etc. etc. to get the ball rolling. It basically means saying something that tells the girl you don't need her and might not even particularly like her in a playful way. I know that means something else in PUA speak but I save that "technique" for high energy situations when I haven't already charmed the girl. It actually works really well, to my surprise.
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01-04-2016, 10:05 PM
Go on drink dates. The first drink or two will loosen you up.