[RexImperator]

OP is already jacked and wants to do steroids. He might want to watch this short film.

[Rontgennurz]

(01-01-2016 10:32 PM)Red_Pillage Wrote:  

[quote] (01-01-2016 10:20 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

^Are you motherfucking serious?


You've gotten really good advice from some very experienced, worldly, highly respectable people not only on this board but in LIFE (quintis doing a podcast for you benefit), and all you can say is that you want a bigger dick? And then lash out yet again when you're told that's fucking stupid?



Yes, bitches like bigger dicks.



No, using a penis pump isn't a good idea.


You should aspire to have the wisdom to know what you can change, and what you can't, and act accordingly.

Oh Im very serious, and I do appreciate the help Ive gotten from some people, as I have made posts thanking them. However, a disrespectful attitude will be met by one, as one shouldnt tell me what I should and shouldnt do - If I want a bigger dick, along with other things, I will try get one. Now I dont care what person X does with his penis, so he shouldnt care what I do with mine and the argument: "its stupid" is the worst if I ever heard one.

Isnt it quite interesting tho, how one latches onto the fact I mentioned increasing my cock size, trying to lecture me on how stupid it is, instead of spending the energy to maybe help out with the other questions I had. Sometimes it feels like people on internet forums give "advice" to boost their own ego and take an imaginary authority role instead of actually helping out, oh well.

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Honestly I could give a real response here, but you don't seem to be worth it. Let's break it down.

Oh I dont seem to be "worth it" ? Im so sorry about that dear majesty, I hope you do find some minions whom which are worthy of your godly advice.

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1. You come here saying your life sucks

That is correct.

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2. You get lots of good advice, harsh though it may have been

That is correct aswell, something which Im thankful for.

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3. You get angry and lash out.

I suggest you re-read the thread then, I do get angry when people take things out of context and try starting some pathetic internet war, getting the action they lack IRL.

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4. You come back talking about depression

Yes.

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5. People still, for some reason, take you seriously enough to address your concerns, despite you having to be indignant the whole time.

Why would they NOT "take me seriously" ? Cause I dont submit to the holy members of the knighthood?

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6. Nobody cares what you do with your dick. It just shows that the things you are focused on are superficial and trivial, which is not an attitude that will benefit you in the long run.

My dick is one example out of many, the biggest thing I have to do is to GET GOING, aka get positive momentum - I do that with goal setting, what the goal per se is, is really irrelevant, the most important thing is that I get into the positive momentum cycle. I suggest you stop whining about my cock now.

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All that said, I really do hope you get your shit together. Hell, I'm not in the best place in my life right now either. But I'm not looking for a pity party as you seem to be. You said that people on forums who give advice are only doing so to feel like they have authority. In that case, what does that make guys who come here asking for said advice?

No pity party here, and what does it make guys asking for advice? It makes them guys who asks for advice, not a daddy figure wanting to stroke his authority-ego on an internet forum. Thankyou

[Rontgennurz]

(01-02-2016 03:37 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

You don't live with your mom. Your mom lives with you.

If you're stuck in the situation for the time being, then I'd say that's the first step towards having the right mentality.

Some of the guys 'I've known' who were still living with a single parent at that age had the following dynamic going on: they'd work their butts off in their free time to keep the household going like a surrogate spouse, but their parent would still try to lay down all sorts of "rules" like they were 12 years old, because "this is my house/you live under my roof/I pay the mortgage". Because they were a boomer who made out like a bandit in fucking 1976 or whatever when you could buy a place for a song, but their kid can't earn a living wage. And now they get an indentured servant out of the deal as well.

Wot a racket.

Yeah this is so true. I need to get out, asap.

[Rontgennurz]

(01-02-2016 03:57 PM)eatthishomie Wrote:  

Son, you gotta get your life together before you even think about lengthening your dick. Besides, if you're between 3 and 8 inches, your dick size is probably perfectly fine. Obviously being toward the upper end of that spectrum is best, but it isn't as big of a deal as the media and porn makes it out to be.

If you want to try jelqing a bit in the spare time you have after doing all the other things you need to do, fine, but this should not be your primary concern.

Besides, you should be in monk mode right now devoting your time to getting your money and life situation right. Get a fleshlight if you need a release. Girls are the cherry atop the life sundae, build up the sundae first.

Thanks. Yes ofcourse the dick is not my primary concern lol, Its just one of many things that I wrote up as goals for the new year. My primary goal at the moment is the move out and get a place for my own for a couple of months before I start university.

[Rontgennurz]

(01-02-2016 05:18 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

OP is already jacked and wants to do steroids. He might want to watch this short film.

Seen it. However you comment shows you obviously arent part of the "culture" when it comes to body building. You are never satisfied, Its never enough. When you have done this for almost 10 years you just dont simply quit, you are ALWAYS looking to improve and after 10 years the natural gains are basicly almost non existant, you come to a point where the gains you get from working it 4-5 times a week, counting the proteins, buying all the food, the gym membership, everything that revolves around it, is simply not worth it no more.

Thats the point when you start looking for something to boost you, so you can enjoy making good gains again as you did the first couple of years.

[eatthishomie]

(01-02-2016 06:32 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

(01-02-2016 03:57 PM)eatthishomie Wrote:  

Son, you gotta get your life together before you even think about lengthening your dick. Besides, if you're between 3 and 8 inches, your dick size is probably perfectly fine. Obviously being toward the upper end of that spectrum is best, but it isn't as big of a deal as the media and porn makes it out to be.

If you want to try jelqing a bit in the spare time you have after doing all the other things you need to do, fine, but this should not be your primary concern.

Besides, you should be in monk mode right now devoting your time to getting your money and life situation right. Get a fleshlight if you need a release. Girls are the cherry atop the life sundae, build up the sundae first.

Thanks. Yes ofcourse the dick is not my primary concern lol, Its just one of many things that I wrote up as goals for the new year. My primary goal at the moment is the move out and get a place for my own for a couple of months before I start university.

Fair enough. My next question now is, why are you starting university again at 27? Have you found a solid profession to aspire to that is going to make you money and get you in a good life situation, and that you absolutely need university to get to? If you think going back to university for any old thing is going to straighten your life out, you have an Aaron Clarey book to read.

[RexImperator]

I can sympathize a lot, actually. Since you seem to know what your doing with your training, you probably should try them (responsibly) if you really want to, for yourself, and with that understanding. But I agree with the other posters that since you are way past the point of diminishing returns as attracting girls go, you are much better served by focusing energy on your weaknesses instead of on what is already strong.

But back to the movie. It's fiction, but what do you think is the message/lesson?

[Rontgennurz]

(01-02-2016 07:12 PM)eatthishomie Wrote:  

(01-02-2016 06:32 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

(01-02-2016 03:57 PM)eatthishomie Wrote:  

Son, you gotta get your life together before you even think about lengthening your dick. Besides, if you're between 3 and 8 inches, your dick size is probably perfectly fine. Obviously being toward the upper end of that spectrum is best, but it isn't as big of a deal as the media and porn makes it out to be.

If you want to try jelqing a bit in the spare time you have after doing all the other things you need to do, fine, but this should not be your primary concern.

Besides, you should be in monk mode right now devoting your time to getting your money and life situation right. Get a fleshlight if you need a release. Girls are the cherry atop the life sundae, build up the sundae first.

Thanks. Yes ofcourse the dick is not my primary concern lol, Its just one of many things that I wrote up as goals for the new year. My primary goal at the moment is the move out and get a place for my own for a couple of months before I start university.

Fair enough. My next question now is, why are you starting university again at 27? Have you found a solid profession to aspire to that is going to make you money and get you in a good life situation, and that you absolutely need university to get to? If you think going back to university for any old thing is going to straighten your life out, you have

Well there are 2 reasons, with the absolutely heaviest one being that It will grant me a great fucking situation where I get to work for 50% of the year, getting 50% of the year to free time (work 6 months, then no work 6 months) while getting paid for all the months, even when I dont work. Great pay and a probably pretty adventourous job, compared to your regular desk job atleast.

The second reason, which is not as big, but still of importance: An optimal opportunity to "start fresh" and build a strong social circle with friends and girls, parties, get to live the years I missed out on isolating myself from the world, basicly.

It is ofcourse very possible to meet new friends and girls outside of college aswell, however given my current situation I would argue a college enviroment would be very very good for me.

[Aurini]

(01-02-2016 06:35 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

(01-02-2016 05:18 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

OP is already jacked and wants to do steroids. He might want to watch this short film.

Seen it. However you comment shows you obviously arent part of the "culture" when it comes to body building. You are never satisfied, Its never enough. When you have done this for almost 10 years you just dont simply quit, you are ALWAYS looking to improve and after 10 years the natural gains are basicly almost non existant, you come to a point where the gains you get from working it 4-5 times a week, counting the proteins, buying all the food, the gym membership, everything that revolves around it, is simply not worth it no more.

Thats the point when you start looking for something to boost you, so you can enjoy making good gains again as you did the first couple of years.

Does body building make you money? Are you competing in bodybuilding competitions or acting in movies? No?

What good is having a bigger dick if you're not sleeping with girls in the first place?

Is it really self-improvement if, after years of it, you're still in a hole? What's the functional difference between an autodidact who reads every book on string theory, but never does anything with it, and the crazy person who stacks years of old newspapers around their apartment?

Nothing.

What we are trying to point out to you is that you're confusing symptoms and cause, and the dick thing is such a perfect example. Brother, EVERYBODY wants a bigger dick, or they want to be taller, or they wish they didn't have a receding hairline.

But you know what? None of those things are the real problem; they're just an excuse. Yes, tall guys with full heads of hair with huge penises have an advantage, but focussing on your short comings aren't going to help you succeed.

Let's say you add 50lbs to your bench press; if I did that, it would substantially improve my luck with women, because it would have a multiplier effect on my base-level of game. Your present base level is 0 - so it doesn't matter how much more you bench press.

You've put yourself into a trap, where you burn energy on things that do nothing for you, ignore the real problems, and wind up getting defensive when people try and point you in the right direction.

I didn't make fun of you for using 'hella' because I was trying to start a flame war, but because it makes you sound stupid. This not only is bad for you in real life, it's bordering on violating the rules of this forum, where a certain level of diction is expected.

You're in a rut, you've become addicted to it, you're defensive about it, and you're focussing all your energy on things that don't matter.

[Rontgennurz]

Alright thanks but what should I be focusing on then? I already know I have to build a bigger social circle and move out, get a career going. Im working on the moving out part, not quite sure how to go about getting new friends with my current living situation, and the career part will start in august.

[Aurini]

(01-02-2016 08:10 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

Alright thanks but what should I be focusing on then? I already know I have to build a bigger social circle and move out, get a career going. Im working on the moving out part, not quite sure how to go about getting new friends with my current living situation, and the career part will start in august.

That's up for you to decide.

We can offer you descriptions of your problems - but we cannot offer a prescription. If you expect a doctor to prescribe pills to make you healthy, you'll be ill your entire life, until you take command of your own health. Heck, you know this already - you're a body builder! You don't get a prescription on how to become buff, you teach yourself as you work out.

Same thing goes for you life. What do you want to be doing? What does your perfect day look like?

When you can answer that question, you'll have answered all your questions.

[Rontgennurz]

I want more girls, an active social life, friends to do things with. Go on vacations, just experience the world. I have the life experience of a 19-20 year old tops, and Im 27.

I want to learn "game" and be pretty good at it, I dont want an exclusive relationship but a couple of fuck buddies. Travel, see different cultures, I also want to start a blog and make money of but that will be very very difficult given my english is far from perfect and for a blog to be popular it has to be in english.

I also want to compete in team sports, and feel a sense of "brotherhood" and camradery with other guys.



But I have no idea how to start, I feel paralysed just sitting here and I dont know what to do.

[RexImperator]

What kind of gym do you train at and is there any socializing there?

[Rontgennurz]

(01-03-2016 11:33 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  

What kind of gym do you train at and is there any socializing there?

Not really. Its a small gym and almost no one works out that much here. The place I live is maybe ... 5000 people? At most, Its not even a town, just a little .. "village" (?).

Most guys working out there are like teenagers or retired old men from time to time.

[RexImperator]

(01-03-2016 11:38 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

(01-03-2016 11:33 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  

What kind of gym do you train at and is there any socializing there?

Not really. Its a small gym and almost no one works out that much here.

Most guys working out there are like teenagers or retired old men from time to time.

Ah OK. That's very similar to where I go. Well, if you could find a gym that was more of a weightlifting or powerlifting club, and if Sweden is anything like America, I guarantee that there would be some fitness girls who would be into you, but that would require getting closer to a city.

Regardless, I really think the addressing the mental aspects is far more important. Everything in life flows from that. On that note, you didn't answer my question about the movie above...

Your idea of taking up meditation is a very good one.

[Agreddor]

You say you have a passion for strength training. Why not find work as a personal trainer?

Youll be around attractive women, and people who share the same hobbies as you. If anything, itll keep you out of your mothers house.

Its the start of 2016. You've wasted enough time already. Write down some things you want to achieve and then develop a plan to achieve those goals.

The first thing I would invite you to do is to brush up on your vocabulary and grammar. Pick some books off the RVF book list, start the roosh programme. Buy Bang, the rational male for starters.

Get rid of the computer. You seem to be addicted to it. See a counseller if you have to.

[straightarrow]

Yes your fixable..
Standby till im finished dont choke.
Go to air force rec station. Talk to them and take the ASVB test.
See how you score.
If you score good enough great pic your mos...say 25bravo your objective is to get trained and work in job that get you a TS clearance.
Go do your job learn keep mouth shut. Leave in 4 yrs with exp and training.
Get job at booze or Jd or some other big govt contractor. $$$$
I can tell you more. I know fat kids that sat on the couch joined army became 10th mtn div...now live american dream.
Btw while your punk puke friends are beggin chicks to bang them you can fly in a looking glass flight at 15k feet and hear enemy chatter. Bang german chicks and see shit your friends cant even dream of.

[Byzantium]

(01-03-2016 11:26 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

I want more girls, an active social life, friends to do things with. Go on vacations, just experience the world. I have the life experience of a 19-20 year old tops, and Im 27.

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Travel, see different cultures...

No matter where you go, there you are.

[Hannibal]

You said you live in a town of 5,000 people. There's your problem.

Of the fifty or so friends I know who "stayed" at my old hometown, I can count on one hand how many have attractive, bangable girlfriends, an enviable social life and a middle class lifestyle (not even upper middle class). For friends that have one of those things, I can count maybe a dozen. The odds are not in your favor.

Unrelated, but some of the best gamers in the world are Swedes and I believe this is because there are a lot of bright young men who live in the middle of nowhere and have nothing better to do with their time.

In a town of 5,000 people, maybe 9% of the population is between the ages of 18 and 24. This means there are 225 women in their prime, an optimistic 180 of them are bangable and out of those, 50 are actually hot.

I think many of your problems are related to the fact that you live in a village with few opportunities for young men. In the past, your parents would set you up to marry the girl next door. The problem is that the girl next door went to college in Malmö and decided to stay there. Don't just plan to travel, move to a larger city.

[Phoenix]

(01-03-2016 11:26 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

But I have no idea how to start, I feel paralysed just sitting here and I dont know what to do.

Got that driving license yet? Done anything towards getting it?

[UlteriorMotive]

I was in a very similar situation to the OP a year ago.

I had nothing life-threatening going on in my life but I was stuck in a spiral of self doubt and pity, what helped me the most (besides jogging first thing in the morning) was working my ass off to change my mindset first before anything.

Get a pen & paper and write down your vision for your life a year from now, then 2, all the way up to 5 it does not need to be finely written it could be scribbles on a pad or on your phone.

Then write down a time you succeeded in life, you felt on top of the world and indestructible.

Every morning go outside of your house to somewhere quiet and sit down and read the time you felt on top of the world, genuinely recall it as clear as you can and try to feel what it was like at the time (as with anything it will be hard at first but will become easier and more profound the more you stick to doing it)

After that think of your vision and do the same thing. Close your eyes and picture it, go into detail, do not just think of yourself in a mansion with 5 bitches naked snorting coke off your soldier. Imagine waking up in your own environment. Getting out of bed and wanting to get up as soon as possible, having a meaning. Looking out your window and seeing a place you want to be in. Walking outside your door, feeling the sun hitting you and knowing the world is yours for the taking (as with the other it will take time for you to truly internalise these feelings but it will become stronger as you continue)

You've worked your body and you know what you are capable of, now it's time to work your mind and bring it on par with your body.

I'd recommend grabbing books like "Gorilla Mindset" and in general giving Danger & Play a read as well as checking the pod-cast as well as the others mentioned in this thread.

I'd also say I strongly recommend moving out ASAP. I am the type of person that is affected immensely by my environment. Every 6 weeks or so I get sick of the layout of my room / style and switch it up. You might be the same as me in that aspect. Start looking at rooms to rent, go see them and try to picture if this is the place you can take your next step.

I don't think I'd recommend going to University as you can learn everything on the internet and wont have the debt that comes with it.

This is only my take on it, everything else I would have mentioned has been covered already by more experienced posters.

Remember at the end of the day the choice is yours. Develop a hunger for knowledge, knowledge that can turn you into who you believe you really should be.

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Also be very conscious of your breathing patterns, when I was getting anxious and depressed I could feel it in my body. My breathing would become shallow and I would also hold my breath which in turn would make me feel even worse.

I fixed it by using resources like Elliot Hulse's "Breathe into your balls" as well as spending time looking into deep breathing.

[Caribou]

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[Rontgennurz]

(01-03-2016 01:33 PM)Agreddor Wrote:  

You say you have a passion for strength training. Why not find work as a personal trainer?

Youll be around attractive women, and people who share the same hobbies as you. If anything, itll keep you out of your mothers house.

Its the start of 2016. You've wasted enough time already. Write down some things you want to achieve and then develop a plan to achieve those goals.

The first thing I would invite you to do is to brush up on your vocabulary and grammar. Pick some books off the RVF book list, start the roosh programme. Buy Bang, the rational male for starters.

Get rid of the computer. You seem to be addicted to it. See a counseller if you have to.

Hello. Yes I actually applied for some personal trainer jobs this week, however it seems like most of them want you have an education in personal training. I searched for some educations and it was like for 1-2 months, cost money tho which I dont have now. Given the fact Ill move to a new town in 8 months Im not sure Its worth saving up to an education in personal training and applying for jobs trying to find one when Ill be out of here soon enough.

[Guitarman]

I would say you need to set yourself some goals and the first one is find a way of moving out from your Mums.

[Rontgennurz]

(01-05-2016 07:13 AM)Hannibal Wrote:  

You said you live in a town of 5,000 people. There's your problem.

Of the fifty or so friends I know who "stayed" at my old hometown, I can count on one hand how many have attractive, bangable girlfriends, an enviable social life and a middle class lifestyle (not even upper middle class). For friends that have one of those things, I can count maybe a dozen. The odds are not in your favor.

Unrelated, but some of the best gamers in the world are Swedes and I believe this is because there are a lot of bright young men who live in the middle of nowhere and have nothing better to do with their time.

In a town of 5,000 people, maybe 9% of the population is between the ages of 18 and 24. This means there are 225 women in their prime, an optimistic 180 of them are bangable and out of those, 50 are actually hot.

I think many of your problems are related to the fact that you live in a village with few opportunities for young men. In the past, your parents would set you up to marry the girl next door. The problem is that the girl next door went to college in Malmö and decided to stay there. Don't just plan to travel, move to a larger city.

You are probably right man. I cant do nothing here, really. I almost dont know anybody my age here no more, so I dont get invited to parties. And people in small villages just dont "invite new people" to their social circles for no reason.

I look out of my window now and all I see is snow falling down, my neighbors farm and nothing else. Nearest store is 10minutes walking, and its a store for groceries. If I wanna buy clothes for example, I have to take the bus for 1 hour in to the "nearest town" Which is only 12.000 people population.

There is literally nothing here. There is one resturant where you can buy pizza and burger, one grocery store, one small gym and one place where you can go get your haircut.