Quote: (12-17-2015 03:30 PM)DVY Wrote:
Id love a breakdown on broken heart game.
You're talking about something very different.
Fuck, I wouldn't even know how to break it down. I'll try?
My heart is eternally broken in some ways. lol Yeah I know how gay that sounds, but I just mean I've had enough dysfunction in my past that all it takes is a few beers and the wrong mood and I'm there - alcohol is great for supporting your illusions or bringing old ones back.
And all self pity aside, my past is pretty heavy, to be honest.
Digging for food in the dumpster with dad as a kid. Growing up in a shattered home with pops in prison ten years. Drugs and booze around you every day. Overdosed father and uncle - good old heroin. Then break out of that only to lose everything twice and have a hit put on your life and flee the country. Among other things....
I mean, I don't wear it on my shoulder but there's always something you can dig down and dredge up to feel gloomy about when that's your past.
I'm (usually unconsciously...okay, halfway unconscously) emotionally manipulative enough to play it up when the opening presents itself. It has also allowed me to get away with some dirty shit and blame it on my emotional state. And in the past I've been known to post up somewhere to have a few drinks and drown it down. To be clear, it would be very rare for me to play it up all night - you've still got to be a fun person.
I think Laner was referring to my post about showing up to completely local Filipino spots by myself and when tables full of girls inevitably ask me why I'm there alone looking at them and saying "Maybe I'm heartbroken," with an ambiguous enough look so they can't tell if I'm joking or not.
And maybe part of me isn't on those particular nights - that's what Laner was grabbing on to. Not like you really need to do that kind of thing here anyhow, as you know, but the response is entertaining, to say the least.
I do think even in the western world there's this sweet spot of heartbroken game where women want to catch "the catch" just after he left a relationship, though. There's a certain romance to that. A chance moment you might read about in a sappy love story. Much like we know high quality women aren't normally single, I think women believe the best guys are already taken, so that's a small window of opportunity in their mind.
And women are nurturers.
Think about all the times you just got out of a relationship and were suddenly buried in pussy for a short time if you just nutted up enough to jump in there. Probably helped that you didn't give a shit how the night ended. Wait too long and let the moment pass, and you're just another single guy again.
Unless...unless you're a sensitive sap and can play any rejection or failed fuck buddy or mini relationship up as a heart break, of course, or life in general. I find myself doing that sometimes half consciously when it suits me...That moment when you're almost looking down at yourself from above and thinking, "You shameless Motherfucker." Haha
Then the possibilities are endless.
I remember one time I was upset about something I heard about an ex girlfriend, even though I already had a new girlfriend. And I hooked up with this little whore I knew and just jizzed in her mouth...and without a word stood up and walked into the living room, cracked a beer, sat on the couch, and turned on some music. haha
A little while later she was in there crying to me about how much of a whore I made her feel like. "Sorry, I told you I'm in a bad mood tonight. Maybe you should leave." A little bit later she was sucking my dick again.
That's drunken a-hole heartbreak game, I guess. I mean, she was the town bike, so it was no big accomplishment. haha But still...
As Laner said, if women believe it, it's possible there's some truth to it, and I would agree I take even short term encounters with women pretty personally. I don't cater to them but I connect with them enough that even when I leave them by my own accord, which is most often the case, I don't easily forget and sometimes I reel a bit in the aftermath even if I'm waist deep in pussy.
Maybe catch myself in a bar listening to sappy love tunes until some slut walks in and snaps me out of it....
I guess I'm a sensitive guy, but I don't know if my game is conscious enough to break it down to be honest, so I'm kind of shooting from the hip here and mentally masturbating. But that's the best I can recollect. In any case, I would say a newly single guy who needs some attention is an attractive potential for certain women, and at the very least he can slip some ahole behavior by the radar.
And a guy that's got a slight enough dysfunction to seem fixable but not enough to be a loon, I think that has its appeal too. These broads do enjoy a fixer upper, in my experience.
Growing up with a single mom, I watched those broads throw it all away on fixer uppers my whole life, so I guess it's a style of game I came to know intimately without really thinking it through.
So yeah, heartbreak game. I don't know if I'd prescribe it to anyone as something they should fake, but it's got a nice ring to it.
Maybe one of you guys who some
actual game can play around with it and report how it unfolds.
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