Me and this girl had a 3 month affair behind her boyfriend's back and then we broke up and she moved away. I got attached to her and fell into depression when she left. I just found out through social media she is engaged. Thing is she emails me from time to time and wants to meet up soon. In our email exchanges she never mentioned a boyfriend or a fiancé. Anybody have experience with this? Does she want to cheat, her fiancé is unattractive she might be settling for beta bux, or does she want to flaunt her engagement in my face, or does she want attention and validation? Any of you guys have experience with this sort of situation that could help me decide how to proceed?
Engaged Ex Wants to Meet Up
Clarification: She is engaged to a different guy than the boyfriend she cheated on with me. We broke up a little over a year ago.
A seasoned player could turn this into a bang, but one in your situation would have a hard time seeing clearly.
WIA
WIA
I have a few schools of thought on this.
Thought 1:
Calling this bitch out on it and expose her - especially if you're single and can't be fucked with.
Why ? We need less cunts in this world doing shady shit behind a man's back. Granted the fiance OBVIOUSLY has a lower SMV than you and hardly any frame.
Thing is the fiance will probably white knight and deny everything and take her back or never dump her.
Honestly, I'd want a dude telling me, hey man she fucked me, I didn't know, blah blah blah.
Thought 2:
She has Alpha Widow syndrome - you being the Alpha she pines for and makes her Gina' tingle.
Why ? She fucked you behind her boyfriends back and she's reaching out to you again.
Go balls deep in her again, wrap the fuck up. There's stories here where a girl gets knocked out by the alpha and the beta fiance/husband has to raise it. Don't be that guy.
Thought 3:
She's attention whoring and wants validation.
Why? Because she's reaching out to you to meet. She wants to know if you're still attracted to her. Basically seeing if she's "still got it".
In this case, you can disregard her.
Notes:
-You can't "break up" with someone if she's already in a relationship.
-You put her on the pedestal and got sad.
-You need to realize how devious females can be, she's cheated on her BF, and now wants to cheat on her fiance.
These are lessons about game and women, learn them well and use them wisely.
As WIA said, this sounds like a lay up bang.....but you already banged her before. Your emotions might get in the way and fall back into the same cycle as before, then she'll leave your ass, and you'll be sad again.
I'd get her to text you, probe and find out exactly what she wants. Strike while the iron is hot - if she wants to hangout.
If she gives excuses, flakes, or won't give you a direct response on hanging out, it means she just wants attention/validation. NEXT her.
If she confirms the meet up, make sure your logistics are locked down, and bang the fuck out of her.
Thought 1:
Calling this bitch out on it and expose her - especially if you're single and can't be fucked with.
Why ? We need less cunts in this world doing shady shit behind a man's back. Granted the fiance OBVIOUSLY has a lower SMV than you and hardly any frame.
Thing is the fiance will probably white knight and deny everything and take her back or never dump her.
Honestly, I'd want a dude telling me, hey man she fucked me, I didn't know, blah blah blah.
Thought 2:
She has Alpha Widow syndrome - you being the Alpha she pines for and makes her Gina' tingle.
Why ? She fucked you behind her boyfriends back and she's reaching out to you again.
Go balls deep in her again, wrap the fuck up. There's stories here where a girl gets knocked out by the alpha and the beta fiance/husband has to raise it. Don't be that guy.
Thought 3:
She's attention whoring and wants validation.
Why? Because she's reaching out to you to meet. She wants to know if you're still attracted to her. Basically seeing if she's "still got it".
In this case, you can disregard her.
Notes:
-You can't "break up" with someone if she's already in a relationship.
-You put her on the pedestal and got sad.
-You need to realize how devious females can be, she's cheated on her BF, and now wants to cheat on her fiance.
These are lessons about game and women, learn them well and use them wisely.
As WIA said, this sounds like a lay up bang.....but you already banged her before. Your emotions might get in the way and fall back into the same cycle as before, then she'll leave your ass, and you'll be sad again.
I'd get her to text you, probe and find out exactly what she wants. Strike while the iron is hot - if she wants to hangout.
If she gives excuses, flakes, or won't give you a direct response on hanging out, it means she just wants attention/validation. NEXT her.
If she confirms the meet up, make sure your logistics are locked down, and bang the fuck out of her.
The only relevant part:
You have a weakness for her. She knows this. Guys always underestimate women's ability to read them. You are an open book.
My advice is contrary: don't bang. Yes, you want to bang. Yes, you probably can bang. But your personal development would improve if you don't bang. What is to be gained? You hit it already multiple times.
You have to understand and accept one thing: this woman cannot bring any more value to your life. She offers you nothing. Even her pussy is of no value in my opinion. Don't even think about motives, or whatever. Who cares.
Find more new women.
Quote: (12-03-2015 12:31 PM)Dawn_Snow Wrote:
... I got attached to her and fell into depression when she left. ...
You have a weakness for her. She knows this. Guys always underestimate women's ability to read them. You are an open book.
My advice is contrary: don't bang. Yes, you want to bang. Yes, you probably can bang. But your personal development would improve if you don't bang. What is to be gained? You hit it already multiple times.
You have to understand and accept one thing: this woman cannot bring any more value to your life. She offers you nothing. Even her pussy is of no value in my opinion. Don't even think about motives, or whatever. Who cares.
Find more new women.
Don't over think, take the pussy if you can get it applying everything you've learned and read here. You have a weakness for her? Get strong, use this as your test case of your new found power.
My thoughts are this...
First off, she's a smut. She was cheating on her boyfriend with you. She's also engaged to someone she has only been with for less than a year. Two huge red flags right off the bat. I wouldn't exactly consider this smutbag long term relationship material, no matter how well she sucks a cock.
That said, you're looking at it the wrong way. Who cares what she wants? That real question is what do YOU want?
Look, women don't really have a master plan. They often don't have a reason for the things they do, and to the extent they come up with a "plan", they'll change it based on their emotions at any given time.
She might say to herself that she's not going to bang you prior to the date and then end up doing it anyway. She might show up with the intention to bang but you fuck it up and she changes her mind.
You know why? Because she's a woman and that's what they do.
Stop playing into her frame by trying to figure out what she wants. Do what you want.
First off, she's a smut. She was cheating on her boyfriend with you. She's also engaged to someone she has only been with for less than a year. Two huge red flags right off the bat. I wouldn't exactly consider this smutbag long term relationship material, no matter how well she sucks a cock.
That said, you're looking at it the wrong way. Who cares what she wants? That real question is what do YOU want?
Look, women don't really have a master plan. They often don't have a reason for the things they do, and to the extent they come up with a "plan", they'll change it based on their emotions at any given time.
She might say to herself that she's not going to bang you prior to the date and then end up doing it anyway. She might show up with the intention to bang but you fuck it up and she changes her mind.
You know why? Because she's a woman and that's what they do.
Stop playing into her frame by trying to figure out what she wants. Do what you want.
If you feel like banging her and the meetup doesn't take too much time and energy I would just go and see what happens.
Based on the facts she's probably looking for some casual dick and liked the way you put it on her in the past.
If the date isn't going that direction just tell her it was nice to see her and bail out early.
Based on the facts she's probably looking for some casual dick and liked the way you put it on her in the past.
If the date isn't going that direction just tell her it was nice to see her and bail out early.
"If anything's gonna happen, it's gonna happen out there!- Captain Ron
Is a "been there, done that" EX really worth the potential drama and time? Or do you just want to see her again for some silly salve of "closure?"
Logistics are key here. I met an ex of mine in the past and fucked it up by agreeing to meet her at all in a neutral venue heading back to her hotel when as it turns out she wouldn't even kiss me (she has/had a boyfriend at the time).
Meet her close to your place or at your place. If she wants to meet in a neutral venue just forget about her. You already fucked her and she sounds like a bit of a yoyoing mental case, you either meet her for "coffee" or "to catch up" in a convenient location to bang her, which is the only thing it seems you want from each other in any case, or not. Do not invest time in her. I'd invite her over and insert some bait of having recently bought some fine coffee from South America or such other nonsense (she'll deep down be able to read right through it but gives her the denial plausibility she's craving for).
Personally I would do as WIA says above - as in part 1 and not go through with potentially fucking her behind her fiances back and not meet her. Call her out for what she is. Unfortunately it may only have the effect of wanting you more (you can always block her).
Meet her close to your place or at your place. If she wants to meet in a neutral venue just forget about her. You already fucked her and she sounds like a bit of a yoyoing mental case, you either meet her for "coffee" or "to catch up" in a convenient location to bang her, which is the only thing it seems you want from each other in any case, or not. Do not invest time in her. I'd invite her over and insert some bait of having recently bought some fine coffee from South America or such other nonsense (she'll deep down be able to read right through it but gives her the denial plausibility she's craving for).
Personally I would do as WIA says above - as in part 1 and not go through with potentially fucking her behind her fiances back and not meet her. Call her out for what she is. Unfortunately it may only have the effect of wanting you more (you can always block her).
I've flirted with this type of scenario but it never went through.
Just be careful. Men have been killed over these type of situations before.
Just be careful. Men have been killed over these type of situations before.
Menace nailed it, you have feelings for this slut.
Don't contact, don't think about her, don't check her social media, move on.
She won't be married long.
Don't contact, don't think about her, don't check her social media, move on.
She won't be married long.
Quote: (12-03-2015 05:32 PM)The Wire Wrote:
I've flirted with this type of scenario but it never went through.
Just be careful. Men have been killed over these type of situations before.
Not to mention if the slut has regret or if she gets caught, she'll have her fiance white knight, press charges, or worse.
This is very common among some broads getting married. She wants to meet up with her old cocks to see if she's making a mistake marrying this dude, try to convince herself there's nothing better out there.
Americans are dreamers too
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