Quote: (11-15-2015 11:53 AM)Rawmeo Wrote:
One word: prenup.
Everybody can change. Once you've found a perfect chick to marry, make a solid prenup. You never know if she will go rogue or find a Beta Joe to replace you. Make sure that if she leaves, she takes her stuff and nothing more. You don't need to share your business / house / etc. with an ex.
Regardless of how bullet proof pre-nups are supposed to be, I've heard too many cases where a high-dollar lawyer slashed through it, and nailed the guy to the wall for alimony and 50%+ split anyways.
I have a rather unique story of being once-engaged.
I was engaged to a woman I had my only child to date with. She is very, very wealthy. Family $$$. Her grandfather - daddy warbucks himself - drafted a prenup upon our decision to marry. I was never with her for the $$, and their true net worth wasn't revealed to me until after she was pregnant and I proposed. At first I thought;"Bonus, turns out I knocked up some loaded bitch who hid it pretty well." I knew they had $$, but nothing like this.
While we never set a wedding date, and I frankly learned to despise the control they wielded with their $$$ over everyone it touched, my retort was to also then propose my own prenup. What's fair is fair. Touche bitch!
She has oodles of $$ coming once she hit apx 40yo via irrevocable trust funds that ratchet up with time based on concise accomplishments of the recipient (the control).
So my prenup was to say that if any business I started with my own effort and capital unrelated to their family took off, it would be solely mine should we split. The result? Grandfather to granddaughter:"Why wouldn't he want to share that $$ with you since you'd be together, it makes no sense." Interesting.. why do the rich get richer?
My thoughts:"Because you fucking demonic jackass, I'm too wise to believe some bitch I accidentally knocked up (your granddaughter), and agreed to "try" a life with for the kid's sake and posterity (before knowing she'd be totally spoiled and began acting that way soon after, which killed the entire relationship and since fucked with my child's life badly via $$ control), would NOT take me for everything I make in my life ON TOP of the cash piles you'll be giving her, and taught her to worship.
Needless to say, the split was by far the correct move in hindsight. While various components of my life have been quite rocky since the split 4.5 years ago, the pussy I've gotten, and the reduced, but still present freedom away from that situation and dysfunctional family has been a life saver.