[LucaEU]

Hello guys! Please excuse my grammar mistakes as I am not a native speaker.

I am 27, and I have spent the last 8 years of my life doing almost everything except focusing on girls and relationships. I have a good degree, I have visited many countries throughout the world, I have friends and I am sociable, I can't say I am a total failure. 8 years ago I was dumped by a girl, and, even if we hadn't been together for a long time, it shook my confidence and subconsciously paralyzed me and stopped me from pursuing other options (I assume hookers or minor relationships don't count).

But this is not my point. Four months ago I met a girl on an online dating site, we were together for almost 2 months and afterwards it all ended. Almost everything reminds of her, and I avoid walking through certain places because they all remind me of the moments I spent with her. I didn't text or called her after the breakup and I am not in despair, I just try to be rational and ask myself this question: had I been more experienced, would I still feel this pain? Because it seems to me that after so many years of pause, it's impossible not to get enchanted at the prospect of a cute girl liking you and giving you her attention. But if she was, let's say the twentieth girl who'd done so, would the pain still be so high? I can't turn back time, but I need to understand the root of these tough feelings, while focusing on the future and trying to improve. Thanks!

[LA Savage]

You are suffering from a severe lack of pussy. You've been going 8 years without pussy or having a intimate relationship with women; you might ass well been living in Jail.

I gurantee if you were out there approaching women in real life and getting sex from them you would not be thinking about some bitch from 8 years ago.

You need to spend the next couple of months absorbing all the game material on this forum and go out in real life and talk to women with the goal of trying to get laid.

[Merenguero]

Take a trip outside of Italy to anywhere besides England, Ireland, Scotland, Spain, Portugal, Argentina, Australia, English speaking parts of Canada outside of Calgary, and the southern and midwest United States, outside of Miami. Problem solved, at least temporarily. I say leave out Spain, Portugal, and Argentina, because they're difficult and leave out those other places because the women are low quality.

[jake1720]

Start cold approaching. In 2-3 years you'll be extremely good.

[LINUX]

(10-12-2015 07:01 AM)LucaEU Wrote:  

I didn't text or called her after the breakup and I am not in despair, I just try to be rational and ask myself this question: had I been more experienced, would I still feel this pain?

Yes. You would still feel the pain.

If you get to the point where you never remissness about a person you cared about, you've got some serious fucked up issues. People think that being sad is a "beta" trait. It's not. Tears show you have the greatest courage of all, the courage to suffer.

[LucaEU]

(10-12-2015 02:50 PM)LA Savage Wrote:  

You are suffering from a severe lack of pussy. You've been going 8 years without pussy or having a intimate relationship with women; you might ass well been living in Jail.

I gurantee if you were out there approaching women in real life and getting sex from them you would not be thinking about some bitch from 8 years ago.

You need to spend the next couple of months absorbing all the game material on this forum and go out in real life and talk to women with the goal of trying to get laid.

Thanks for the reply, I've already started reading about game here and on other manosphere sites. However, I'm not thinking about the girls I went out with 8 years ago, I'm thinking about the one who dumped me this summer

[LucaEU]

(10-12-2015 09:12 PM)LINUX Wrote:  

(10-12-2015 07:01 AM)LucaEU Wrote:  

I didn't text or called her after the breakup and I am not in despair, I just try to be rational and ask myself this question: had I been more experienced, would I still feel this pain?

Yes. You would still feel the pain.

If you get to the point where you never remissness about a person you cared about, you've got some serious fucked up issues. People think that being sad is a "beta" trait. It's not. Tears show you have the greatest courage of all, the courage to suffer.

Ok, I get the point, but it dissapoints me that it happens with a girl I've been for such a short time, and for whom it's not normal to develop these kind of feelings...

[LINUX]

(10-12-2015 10:05 PM)LucaEU Wrote:  

Ok, I get the point, but it dissapoints me that it happens with a girl I've been for such a short time, and for whom it's not normal to develop these kind of feelings...

There is nothing abnormal about developing feelings for a girl you've known for a short amount of time. Society will try to tell there is. But it's bullshit. Time will heal you. And then you'll forget and meet someone else and it'll happen again.