[Agastya]

I just landed in a new college and I've so far gotten three girls back to my room through daygame and tinder. My approach is simple; I just hit them with some light banter over text then caveman once they're alone in my room. I banged two of these girls and got to second base with the other one. Here's where the problem occurs...

These girls do get a little sketched out by the fact that they've hooked up with me after literally a five minute conversation. One is down to meet up again, but the other one I smashed is very ambivalent about hooking up again, since she "doesn't know me" and "doesn't want to be with someone who only wants her for sex". The one I got to second base with straight up left after we hooked up...she was super chill and receptive in the beginning, but seemed to get sketched out by the end.

What can I do to counter this and retain these girls? I didn't have problems getting fuck buddies at my old college. Here, it's a lot easier to get laid, but it's definitely harder to actually retain women. I'd like some advice since constant daygame/tindering is pretty distracting. I'd like a fuck buddy so I can concentrate on school without worrying about pussy.

[Special1]

1. If they have slept with you (especially after such short time knowing you), they were/are attracted to you. The base is set.
2. If the sex was good, better than what they normally have, they will come back.
3. Accept that girls in college will ride the cock carrousel. Most/all of them do. It is their time to play around and try shit. They just want none to know that they do this. When riding the carrousel, maybe they find someone where the fit is stronger than with you, maybe not.

The one thing that you should not do is run around and chase them in an effort to retain them. If the first time sex was not enough to retain them, then talking to them for ages/chasing them will only be counterproductive. Don't listen to what they say - girls say a lot of bullshit. Look at how they behave and how they have behaved when they were in your bed and right after. A girl saying she does not want to be with somebody that only wants to have sex with her is in my eyes a test to see if she can control you to do what she wants you to do (hang out with her under her conditions = betaization). I recommend you to be relaxed about it. Either they come back or they don't. If not, you go for other ones and eventually months later some of them come back even if you thought they would not. After all, they ALL want (rough) sex and if they say they don't, they fucking lie or they test you to see if you are a real man who stands with his (biological needs) and does not put himself below her.

[LA Savage]

Don't waste your time trying to retain these college sluts. You could be using that time more productively on academics, self improvement, and finding other girls that are DTF. Trust me when I say if a girl wants to fuck you again she will reaxh out to you to make arrangements. Other than that you are wasting your precious time and energy on these short attention span having emotional girls who bullshit alot and change their minds more times than they change their panties.

For example the bitch who you had sex with once and who is now saying she's not sure because she doesn't know you. What kind of logic is that to fuck somebody you don't know the first time then say you don't knkw someone when it's time for round 2. These bitches make poor desicions all the time and are not worth tour trouble. Stop trying retain these hoes and build an abundance mentality. Always be replacing not chasing these hoes. And remember it's not your pussy. It's just your turn especially for the college sluts.

[Travesty]

I'd up your time talking alone in the room to 30 minutes or so, get a few comfort laughs in, and have at least a 15 minute hang out just talking and laughing in bed or dressed on the couch again after the bang. I think it is too much to bang a girl that quick then just have her get dressed and leave.

If you aren't I'd also text them within a few days after the bang or even call.

A great great strategy that BlurredSevens left behind (RIP) is that you want to go for sex as fast as possible to avoid the friend zone. I'd say you are almost going too fast.

He would text and call the girl for a week or so after the bang being too busy to meet, but showing interest while not giving off any sort of relationship vibe. Then take her out somewhere fun for a short date, come back bang.

Now the next 2 or 3 times you have tided her over for short hang and bangs with her comfort there.

The key for my long term fuck buddies over the years has been you need 1 fun get together short date out in public for every 2 or 3 quick hang and bangs. It seems like the price to pay to keep girls around with minimal effort.

Also once you bang them you really need to contact them once week and bang them once every week or week and a half, maintenance fees. Going over two weeks is too long they will find a new guy in most cases.

[jamaicabound]

The whole thing with girls kind of being embaressed not wanting to see you again after fucking you after knowing you for 5 minutes is easy to overcome. Just be very non-judgemental and like its not a big deal. I think chicks are worried your gonna think their a whore. You don't even really have to address the issue head on just have a very nonjudgemental attitude, if it ever comes up just be like were two people who find each other attractive and enjoy each others company and were having fun no big deal. Let her know you dont think less of her etc and that issue goes away.

As far as "retaining" girls, my advice is don't try to retain them. Seems like when I dont' give a shit girls stick around forever and when I try to keep someone around they leave. Plus at teh end of the day some girls are looking for a boyfriend and not just a hookup and your intentions don't match up so it's not even worht trying to keep them around.

Personally I'm not really one to lead someone on or blow smoke up anyone's ass, I'm not trying to deceive anyone or waste anyones time, in the long run it's going to be a headache for you anyway doing that so just be upfront about what your about, what your intentions are, some girls will be down for the same thing or will respect that and stick around, some won't but there's always more girsl.

[kaotic]

Trav & Jamaica just dropped solid advice for you Agastya. Listen to these cats !

Don't trip on these girls, you banged them already and won.

I don't really have anything else to add besides:

"Don't chase em', replace em'"