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Having problems escalating
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Having problems escalating

Hello gents,

So here is my biggest sticking point, it seems to be escalating and I feel like it's my biggest obstacle. So I just got out of a 4 year LTR a year ago, since that time I've been brushing up on my game and trying to put myself out there, raising my value as a man, and just becoming an overall bad ass. What I've noticed is that with some girls they come on stronger than others, IOI's are pretty obvious and things escalate at a good pace. My problem has been with a girl recently, cute chick, she's a waitress at a local diner and I got her number. I took her out on a date in downtown with her friend, my wing and roommate took her friend home early leaving just us together, so we ended up having a blast and I just kept focusing on the fun. I took her home that night but I didn't really "feel" like their was any obvious opportunities to escalate. Is this my fault? On Date 2 we wen't out to eat, her and her friend and my roommate again. We end up finishing up and take my car to a parking lot to teach her how to drive (she's not from the States and just turned 19) afterwards my roommate drops us off and takes her friend away, I show her my motorcycle and we go for a cruise. When we come back it's just the two of us standing in the car port alone. In my head, I know I should escalate, I ask her if she wants to go upstairs and wait for our friends to come back, she doesn't want to because my other roommate is up there. I took it as kind of a mixed signal, I felt like if I got her to my room I could escalate, but at the same time I didn't get the same vibe I've gotten from other chicks. Plus she didn't want to leave and I wasn't sure if it was because she was separated from her friend or she didn't want to disrupt my roommate. Either way, here I was, alone with her, not knowing what to do next, feeling like a total beta because my mind didn't know what to do. I feel like if I can get over this hurdle, it will all be down hill from there.

LTR; Brushing up on my game for over a year after LTR, biggest sticking point seems to be physical escalation

- Slim
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Having problems escalating

Quote: (10-02-2015 06:05 PM)slimcognito Wrote:  

Hello gents,

So here is my biggest sticking point, it seems to be escalating and I feel like it's my biggest obstacle. So I just got out of a 4 year LTR a year ago, since that time I've been brushing up on my game and trying to put myself out there, raising my value as a man, and just becoming an overall bad ass. What I've noticed is that with some girls they come on stronger than others, IOI's are pretty obvious and things escalate at a good pace. My problem has been with a girl recently, cute chick, she's a waitress at a local diner and I got her number. I took her out on a date in downtown with her friend, my wing and roommate took her friend home early leaving just us together, so we ended up having a blast and I just kept focusing on the fun. I took her home that night but I didn't really "feel" like their was any obvious opportunities to escalate. Is this my fault? On Date 2 we wen't out to eat, her and her friend and my roommate again. We end up finishing up and take my car to a parking lot to teach her how to drive (she's not from the States and just turned 19) afterwards my roommate drops us off and takes her friend away, I show her my motorcycle and we go for a cruise. When we come back it's just the two of us standing in the car port alone. In my head, I know I should escalate, I ask her if she wants to go upstairs and wait for our friends to come back, she doesn't want to because my other roommate is up there. I took it as kind of a mixed signal, I felt like if I got her to my room I could escalate, but at the same time I didn't get the same vibe I've gotten from other chicks. Plus she didn't want to leave and I wasn't sure if it was because she was separated from her friend or she didn't want to disrupt my roommate. Either way, here I was, alone with her, not knowing what to do next, feeling like a total beta because my mind didn't know what to do. I feel like if I can get over this hurdle, it will all be down hill from there.

LTR; Brushing up on my game for over a year after LTR, biggest sticking point seems to be physical escalation

- Slim

Look at the bold. She wanted you to escalate. If you took her for a ride on your bike, that was your golden ticket. I'm sure your back seat was dripping when she hopped off. You had multiple chances. Next time, invite her over, pick her up by her ass, and plop her over a table or your kitchen sink and make out with her. She will love it. Don't hesitate. Sounds like you had everything going but you didn't close. No worries, it happens to the best of us. If she goes out with you again, go for the gold. Role in on your bike and take her to your place.

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Having problems escalating

I understand your fear.
She was in to you.

Escalate next time. Just do it.

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