[JudgeAV]

Here's the scenario:

-I messaged a girl I'd put at a 9 on an online dating site and she messaged me back the same day. We sent a few messages back and forth and I told her to add me on facebook, which she did relatively quickly. I messaged her on facebook and no response for a few days (even though I could see she was "online"). She finally replied to my facebook message saying she doesn't check facebook often (a lie) but gave me her number to text her (unprompted).

-The next day I sent her a text and I don't get a reply for like 8 hours, during which period of time I noticed she posted a few things on facebook (pictures likely from her phone). After she replied I waited like an hour and texted her back my standard text game which works well with most girls, but generally got really short answers and seemingly little interest.

I'm kind of lost as to what to think is going on? She clearly thought I was good looking enough and had my shit together enough to message me back, give me her facebook, and her phone number (w/o me asking). But now her responses lead me to believe something has changed...but I don't really know what it could possibly be as we haven't even met in person. Here are my possible theories:

(1) She's trying hard to not come on too strong and play hard to get. I literally hate this so much I usually just move on.

(2) I noticed on Facebook we have a relatively large number of mutual friends (50 or so including some of her decent girl friends). To my knowledge, I've never pissed any of them off or hooked up w/ any of them, but I guess its possible I got a negative review from one of them if she asked them about me.

(3) She's talking more intensely with someone else and is currently slow playing me.

Any advice on what you think is going on and how to handle it? I'm literally kind off stumped on this as I've never gotten such conflicting messages in such a short period of time when nothing has really changed.

[KeepMovingForward]

She's not that interested, as indicated by her actions. Generate more options and move on.

If you insist on continuing to pursue her, I'd put her on the backburner and just send casual restart texts and see if she bites, no big investment on your part.

[coverdoc]

Let me get this right, you met a chick online didn't really have a real connection with and now she went ghost? Sounds like a typical online whore to me. Solution: GO out and approach girls in the real world. Everyone knows online girls are as reliable as toddlers with attention spans to match.

-CD

[PapayaTapper]

(09-21-2015 11:50 PM)JudgeAV Wrote:  

Here's the scenario:

-I messaged a girl I'd put at a 9 on an online dating site and she messaged me back the same day. We sent a few messages back and forth and I told her to add me on facebook, which she did relatively quickly. I messaged her on facebook and no response for a few days (even though I could see she was "online"). She finally replied to my facebook message saying she doesn't check facebook often (a lie) but gave me her number to text her (unprompted).

-The next day I sent her a text and I don't get a reply for like 8 hours, during which period of time I noticed she posted a few things on facebook (pictures likely from her phone). After she replied I waited like an hour and texted her back my standard text game which works well with most girls, but generally got really short answers and seemingly little interest.

I'm kind of lost as to what to think is going on? She clearly thought I was good looking enough and had my shit together enough to message me back, give me her facebook, and her phone number (w/o me asking). But now her responses lead me to believe something has changed...but I don't really know what it could possibly be as we haven't even met in person. Here are my possible theories:

(1) She's trying hard to not come on too strong and play hard to get. I literally hate this so much I usually just move on.

(2) I noticed on Facebook we have a relatively large number of mutual friends (50 or so including some of her decent girl friends). To my knowledge, I've never pissed any of them off or hooked up w/ any of them, but I guess its possible I got a negative review from one of them if she asked them about me.

(3) She's talking more intensely with someone else and is currently slow playing me.

Any advice on what you think is going on and how to handle it? I'm literally kind off stumped on this as I've never gotten such conflicting messages in such a short period of time when nothing has really changed.

(4) This is a girl you've never met, and you know nothing about but , she messaged you back because she thought you might be "interesting Mr Tingles" but after you exchanged enough boring messages with her in a short enough time to demonstrate that your aren't... she is now positively 100%, guaranteed thinking way way way (ie: not at all) less about you than you are about her.

She's done...learn from it

[OO7]

(09-21-2015 11:50 PM)JudgeAV Wrote:  

We sent a few messages back and forth and I told her to add me on facebook, which she did relatively quickly.

Adding her on Facebook before anything went down: for me that’s the “friendzone” of online game.

[Gmac]

(09-22-2015 02:36 AM)OO7 Wrote:  

(09-21-2015 11:50 PM)JudgeAV Wrote:  

We sent a few messages back and forth and I told her to add me on facebook, which she did relatively quickly.

Adding her on Facebook before anything went down: for me that’s the “friendzone” of online game.

Ding ding ding!

You shouldn't be adding anyone but friends and family to facebook. Sure there are guys with higher level game with completely scrubbed profiles, tailored to that sort of thing, that can use FB to their advantage but for the most part it will only work against you in the worst way.

What do you get out of adding her? Do you think that's getting you closer to a date? That getting her number will be easier? I don't even add exclusive girlfriends, much less some random internet slore I've never met. Why give them ammo to use against you later? It's like handing the keys to the castle over to someone so they can backstab you when you're least expecting it. It's also the quickest way to drying up that vaj when she sees some post, photo, or video of you that puts her off. Less is more. The less they know about you, the less pictures they've seen of you, the less insight into your life and the way you interact with others. You lose all control when you give away information for free like that. You lose all the mystery. And she moves on to the "next potential Mr. Right."

Stick to messaging online to get the number and set up the date. This one was dead on arrival.

[Rawmeo]

Asking her to add you on Facebook = Instant one-way ticket to the friendzone. No matter how much of a cool guy you are, if she clicks 2010 and sees dumb shit, she will still see you as dumb.

Family and friends saw you evolve over time, know you personally, and know that you aren't a lame guy, but a new girl doesn't know you, and uses her judgements (often wrong, they're girls) based on what she can see.

Never add girls / dates to your facebook. If asked, you can make a seperate account just for that, but don't mix your dates and your family / friends on the same account.