For some reason, during the past few months I've met a number of people, here and there, at meetings, at networking events, at work, at the gym... generally in the same position as me in life - similar career, similar social status, similar life situation, similar physique, etc - and so many of which have just been... so fucking miserable! And in speaking with them, discussing our relationships, work, life, whatever, I've come to realize: its very important to have a strong frame in life and be the protector and designer of your happiness, satisfaction, and general pleasantness of your life, outlook, and day-to-day feelings.
There are so many people out there that are miserable because of their past choices, bad decisions, fuck-ups, and people miserable because they believe that they made all the right choices but still, for whatever reason, the universe is acting against them, and that they'll never get ahead. And in speaking to them, and comparing my life situation to theirs, I came to realize that, despite our often similar station in life, I'm really not one of these fucking miserable-ass people! I came to realize that (often with the help of the skills that I have learned on this forum and like-minded individuals), I know that there is a whole fucking world of life out there, and I can make the rational choice to be happy with and enjoy my life.
These people, they are miserable because they are fat, ugly, going bald, because they drink too much, because their boss sucks, because they don't have enough cash in their pocket, because their children are indifferent to them and so forth and so forth. But looking at them from the outside, you look at these people, and you realize that few of them are really doing anything to remedy their situations! And you think, hey man, I could be you (...if I didn't take the past decade taking the necessary precautions...) And you wonder - Why?? Recently, I met a successful lawyer... this guy was making, somewhere around $200,000+ I believe, and you know what this guy was saying? He was saying that he hates his life, and he hates his job, and that pursuing his career was the worst personal decision that he has ever made. He is telling me all this, and I don't even know this guy! Next, he tells me that hes heard of associates contemplating suicide. These people, they make $200k+ a year! And I think to myself... "What the fuck is the problem here man! If you are so miserable in your job, hey man, you make good money, you are young, you (for now) have your health, (most people don't even have an emergency fund in the bank), then... just leave! Do whatever you want to do! Network, meet people, take a programming bootcamp - I mean, you are in this unique opportunity to save a huge fuck-you fund and then just do whatever that you want to do!"
But none of them ever leave! They stay and they are fucking unhappy with their position in life. And when you talk with these people about actual actionable things that you have done, or you can do to really improve your life and be happy (goto the gym, learn a new language, read books, learn new skills) they look at you like YOU are fucking crazy.
This miserableness that people live with, it steeps into all aspects of their lives. You can see it when they goto work, you can feel it when you speak to them, they can't leave their jobs because their interviewers feel it... they stink of it! They don't respect themselves enough to take pride in the work they spend 16 hours a day doing, to spend 0.1% of their paycheck to tailor their clothes or buy clothes that fit, to work out, to eat less shit, to drink less coke, they goto massage parlors because they don't want to leave their comfort zone and learn game, they ignore their families, they don't sow their friendships, and they spend hours talking about fantasy football, and then they fucking complain more and more that their lives suck! But at the end of the day, these are very smart people! And maybe thats the problem? They come up with intricate ways to make themselves unhappy.
Looking at all this, Ive come to the conclusion that, hey, maybe I'm not in the same financial position as some of these guys, maybe my girl is not a 10, maybe... but I'm happy with my life, and Im happy with myself, I take pride in what I do, and I feel free to leave shitty situations and to continue living my life.
And so from all of this I've really learned the importance of the message that this forum/community brings, and the message that we really need to communicate to our close friends, and to our kids, and the world around us: hey man, you don't have to be miserable! That when you meet these shitheads, you can really say to yourself "Hey, I'm really not like this!" and that, in fact, that would be the rational thing to do -because no matter what happens you always have a choice: you can leave the country, you can meet infinite amounts of people, slay some pussy) that the world is has filled with infinite knowledge, wisdom, and experience, and that you really can, and need to make the rational choice not to be fucking miserable. But that building your understanding of this choice is a skill, and a skill that takes time and extreme effort, and takes leaving your comfort zone, and takes walking up to random girls throughout the day, and traveling the world by yourself, and forcing yourself to read books, and forcing yourself to hit the gym and understand the feeling of hitting a PR after months of work and realizing that... eventually it gets easier, and eventually you'll realize that your investment has given you the opportunity to chose to be happy.
When you are feeling down and out, take a deep breath - you still have your arms and legs, you can make money, you can hit the gym, you can approach that girl, the hard times will pass.
There are so many people out there that are miserable because of their past choices, bad decisions, fuck-ups, and people miserable because they believe that they made all the right choices but still, for whatever reason, the universe is acting against them, and that they'll never get ahead. And in speaking to them, and comparing my life situation to theirs, I came to realize that, despite our often similar station in life, I'm really not one of these fucking miserable-ass people! I came to realize that (often with the help of the skills that I have learned on this forum and like-minded individuals), I know that there is a whole fucking world of life out there, and I can make the rational choice to be happy with and enjoy my life.
These people, they are miserable because they are fat, ugly, going bald, because they drink too much, because their boss sucks, because they don't have enough cash in their pocket, because their children are indifferent to them and so forth and so forth. But looking at them from the outside, you look at these people, and you realize that few of them are really doing anything to remedy their situations! And you think, hey man, I could be you (...if I didn't take the past decade taking the necessary precautions...) And you wonder - Why?? Recently, I met a successful lawyer... this guy was making, somewhere around $200,000+ I believe, and you know what this guy was saying? He was saying that he hates his life, and he hates his job, and that pursuing his career was the worst personal decision that he has ever made. He is telling me all this, and I don't even know this guy! Next, he tells me that hes heard of associates contemplating suicide. These people, they make $200k+ a year! And I think to myself... "What the fuck is the problem here man! If you are so miserable in your job, hey man, you make good money, you are young, you (for now) have your health, (most people don't even have an emergency fund in the bank), then... just leave! Do whatever you want to do! Network, meet people, take a programming bootcamp - I mean, you are in this unique opportunity to save a huge fuck-you fund and then just do whatever that you want to do!"
But none of them ever leave! They stay and they are fucking unhappy with their position in life. And when you talk with these people about actual actionable things that you have done, or you can do to really improve your life and be happy (goto the gym, learn a new language, read books, learn new skills) they look at you like YOU are fucking crazy.
This miserableness that people live with, it steeps into all aspects of their lives. You can see it when they goto work, you can feel it when you speak to them, they can't leave their jobs because their interviewers feel it... they stink of it! They don't respect themselves enough to take pride in the work they spend 16 hours a day doing, to spend 0.1% of their paycheck to tailor their clothes or buy clothes that fit, to work out, to eat less shit, to drink less coke, they goto massage parlors because they don't want to leave their comfort zone and learn game, they ignore their families, they don't sow their friendships, and they spend hours talking about fantasy football, and then they fucking complain more and more that their lives suck! But at the end of the day, these are very smart people! And maybe thats the problem? They come up with intricate ways to make themselves unhappy.
Looking at all this, Ive come to the conclusion that, hey, maybe I'm not in the same financial position as some of these guys, maybe my girl is not a 10, maybe... but I'm happy with my life, and Im happy with myself, I take pride in what I do, and I feel free to leave shitty situations and to continue living my life.
And so from all of this I've really learned the importance of the message that this forum/community brings, and the message that we really need to communicate to our close friends, and to our kids, and the world around us: hey man, you don't have to be miserable! That when you meet these shitheads, you can really say to yourself "Hey, I'm really not like this!" and that, in fact, that would be the rational thing to do -because no matter what happens you always have a choice: you can leave the country, you can meet infinite amounts of people, slay some pussy) that the world is has filled with infinite knowledge, wisdom, and experience, and that you really can, and need to make the rational choice not to be fucking miserable. But that building your understanding of this choice is a skill, and a skill that takes time and extreme effort, and takes leaving your comfort zone, and takes walking up to random girls throughout the day, and traveling the world by yourself, and forcing yourself to read books, and forcing yourself to hit the gym and understand the feeling of hitting a PR after months of work and realizing that... eventually it gets easier, and eventually you'll realize that your investment has given you the opportunity to chose to be happy.
When you are feeling down and out, take a deep breath - you still have your arms and legs, you can make money, you can hit the gym, you can approach that girl, the hard times will pass.
