Relationship wasn’t quite working, so why do I feel so bad about being dumped !?
09-09-2015, 06:15 AM
I was seeing a girl I met online for maybe 5 weeks or so , she was massively into me and pushed things along. Even though we got on well, had great sex, we were both very different people. I decided to give things a go for a few months, but knowing full well it probably wouldn’t work out long term. I guess I was happy to have a mini relationship based on the good points we had.
Anyway a few days later she said we are too different and thinks it won’t work out so dumps me. My insecurities kick in and I go all beta (my bad) and go on about how I really like her and we should give things a shot blar blar . I had to text her later saying I was a bit overdramatic and maybe catch up in a few months trying to be very relaxed about it all.
Now the love sickness has kicked in heavy, but I’m struggling to understand why I’m feeling so bad about a relationship that almost certainly wouldn’t have worked out and that I would have ended eventually anyway.
I think its maybe because she ended things on her terms, I don’t like not being in control, then all my insecurities bubbled up. The same scenario happened to me about 7 years ago in almost identical circumstances.
She’s a super cool girl and I’d love to be friends with benefits but not sure I can risk getting feelings for her or jealousy etc. Think it’s a dead duck but she’s first girl in a very very long time that I thought about having a relationship with all be it short term one so it’s kinda knocked me!
Anyway a few days later she said we are too different and thinks it won’t work out so dumps me. My insecurities kick in and I go all beta (my bad) and go on about how I really like her and we should give things a shot blar blar . I had to text her later saying I was a bit overdramatic and maybe catch up in a few months trying to be very relaxed about it all.
Now the love sickness has kicked in heavy, but I’m struggling to understand why I’m feeling so bad about a relationship that almost certainly wouldn’t have worked out and that I would have ended eventually anyway.
I think its maybe because she ended things on her terms, I don’t like not being in control, then all my insecurities bubbled up. The same scenario happened to me about 7 years ago in almost identical circumstances.
She’s a super cool girl and I’d love to be friends with benefits but not sure I can risk getting feelings for her or jealousy etc. Think it’s a dead duck but she’s first girl in a very very long time that I thought about having a relationship with all be it short term one so it’s kinda knocked me!