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Fun fact about me? I'm a 23-year-old virgin.

Bleh. For many years I've been perfectly content with never having had sex, but recently acknowledging the above fact it has been crystal clear to me just how pathetic it is.

How have I gone so long without even through compete dumb luck have my dick stumble its way into a pussy? I'll look into that below but to end this introduction: this thread is an act of commitment to make the absolute best of my penis whilst it still has blood flowing through it, and shall Roosh strike me down with lightning if I fail to make my goal into my reality.

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Reasons I am not getting laid, in order of severity:

1. Not approaching enough women

This is what it all comes down to. Being too comfortable with my own company or with the company of my current friends and family, not willing enough push against my limits often enough, not taking up opportunities and chances etc. Spending too much time in evenings watching movies, playing videogames and jerking off to porn.

I don't drink and I suck in clubs, so getting lucky in night game has never really been an option. But I've read Day Bang and have had a few painless and even fun approaches on the street and in book-stores and that's the route I'll be taking.

Thankfully, this most severe factor is also the easiest to rectify, hence this thread. My goal is to hit 100 approaches in the next ten weeks, take every approach as far as I can at learn as much as I can from them.

2. Watching too much porn

"Content" was the word I used above for my opinion of my continued virginity until recently. Porn, I think, is the reason. Jerking off every day had kept my libido, motivation and energy levels low. Worse, when I did get horny it's not being inside another person I craved, but the images I could bring up on a whim on YouPorn.

Recently I started a no-fap, no porn challenge, and it has been quite revelatory. Among many benefits, I started to really desire real-life girls, which led me to do my first few approaches in recent months. This initial burst of aspiration trailed off, and then a few nights ago I heard my new younger neighbours having loud, passionate sex in the next flat, and that was when it really hit me — all I was missing, all the time I was wasting etc.

3. Social Awkwardness

It's not so bad, and I won't ramble on about this one, but there is a lot of room for improvement in how I get into the flow of conversations, how I come across as friendly but not creepy or eager, in being confident enough to make approaches even with the fear of them going wrong, and so on.

I hope to learn a lot in these 100 approaches. I figure that you grow your muscles my lifting challenging weights, and you grow your social skills by facing challenging social situations. For this reason I hope game will be helpful in many areas of my life. Still doing it to get laid, though.

4. Not being good looking

Okay, so, I'm, like... a 5? Maybe? 4 to 6, anyway. I look about 6 years younger than I am, but less in a boyish good looks way and more of a slightly weird growth defect way. Maybe I jerked away all my testosterone.

I've got a healthy BMI but have always looked skinny-fat underneath the clothes. This is changing slowly thanks to the gym routine and bulking diet I have been following for that last few months, and very slowly my skinny arms are showing some bicep and tricep definition and my chubby lower leg is showing some calve muscle. They are tiny changes that probably only make a difference to me but it has shown me a distant light and I believe that in 16 or 24 months time I could look genuinely good naked. I think it's had a positive effect on my face, also.

Fashion is also an issue. Need better clothes.

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Anyway, it's all stuff to work on but I'm not going to let anything slow me down. I feel like as long as I have this thread, this commitment, hanging over my head, daily, I shouldn't have too much trouble encouraging myself to approach one or two girls each day. I'm not a complete retard. I'll update as often as needed to keep that goal in my head and keep myself on track.

Regards!

[Travesty]

I have seen a ton of newbies maybe 95%+ fail to finish a 100 thread.

I'd recommend starting with asking directions if you have trouble getting started from girls you want to bang anything to just get in the habit of going up to attractive women and stopping them getting their ear buds out, phones down etc.

The most important part of approaching in the beginning is simply making it a habit. Your job is to get girls to stop whatever they are doing and talk to you. Once this becomes habit and you get bored of your low risk approaches you will push yourself into upping the ante without even thinking about it. You will start commenting about them, rambling, dropping bait almost naturally because you get comfortable and more sociable.

I've said it a bunch of times now. For an absolute beginner getting a raw number of approaches in is more important than the quality of how the approaches end up for the first 200 or so. Getting sex should really be an afterthought until you are simply comfortable with stopping girls and commanding their attention if you want to build a strong game foundation.

[Captain Gh]

While you do want to get results and get laid, make sure to enjoy the ride and learn along the way. Now that I've been Daygaming for about 4 Years on and off, I laugh at the stuff that I used to do and remember the interactions, the hugs and the awful rejections. They seemed painful back then, but now I'm actually thankful for them since they made me stronger and better. You'll fee the same believe me, and you'll get laid too if you keep at it

[BambiNotForLong]

Good luck bro!

[Gmac]

Sounds like you are taking the right steps to improve yourself. I recommend finding other like-minded men in your area to go out with and start conversing with women so you can learn to improve by critiquing each other. It's a lot easier to get comfortable with a wing and it will allow you to approach sets of girls instead of just one.

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Nothing to report yet, but I do want to say thanks to Travesty, Captain Gh, Gmac for the tips, and to Bambi for the encouragement. I'm glad Travesty mentioned the importance of making it a habit, an idea I appreciate in theory though I struggle to work consistently and thus solidify the habit.

Finding game partners is also something I believe will be very helpful and key in making progress as effectively as possible, but I honestly don't even know where to start in finding these people -- how to bring it up with people I already know or find strangers based on that quality.

Why haven't I done any approaches yet? Being busy is a shitty excuse, but though I've could have squeezed in an hour of game here or there during past attempts it has taken me longer than that just to psych myself up! So I've put it to the side whilst still making time for the gym and pimping out my apartment and other self improvement such as buying a car. The goal is still in my mind, and I will be making time in the coming weeks to act towards it, including taking some time of work if needed.

Thanks again, and I'll have more to post soon

[Virtus]

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I'd start with an attitude adjustment. just look at your own definition of yourself. be fucking bright and shining, interested in something. define yourself.

http://www.rooshv.com/what-is-your-project

http://www.rooshv.com/what-is-your-campaign

[nondescript]

It's the name I use on sites I don't want to be identified on. I'm nondescript like a spy is nondescript.