I basically practice "laid back & friendly" game, and mostly day game in real life places like grocery stores, etc., with some evening events through in. Some I think have called this 'indirect' game, though I don't call it anything in particular; my old wing told me his style is to just have a conversation and "see where it goes", if she's not biting, just try again. That's what I do: let me call it 'cool' game.
I however want a higher closing rate than I am currently getting. I wonder if I can increase the amount of physical attraction by warming up the interaction by going more emotional and more direct.
I saw a clip from Lance Mason, (normally I don't like 'dating coaches' but he strikes me as authentic) who describes the 'movie moment' approach, which might be translated as "get in state" first and build up the energy and then approach 'fired up', preferably with direct eye contact with the girl before even speaking to her, ramping up the 'sexual tension' as much as possible. He contrasts it to the standard 'banter' approach, the conversational method of building attraction. He says the movie moment (I'll call it 'warm') approach has his highest closure rate, and when done correctly has women flipping out that 'it finally happened!'
I find this idea very fascinating but am unsure how to do it in my own game. I think my personal style leans rather laid back ('cool') though; so when I approach I am more about preparation (fitness, dress) and subtlety and smoothness instead of being 'in state' with higher, bolder (but possibly not calibrated?) energy/sweeping the girl off her feet.
However I do notice that once I open I sometimes feel a surge of energy, where the social interaction and closeness with the target girl pumps up my state; I am not sure what to do with the energy, normally I just maintain my composure instead of heating up, dominating, or 'sexualizing' the engagement, turning it into more direct approach. I wouldn't mind 'blowing out' girls that aren't really interested either.
Is it beneficial to 'switch' modes after starting a "cool" conversation game to make it "warm" game, once my energy fires up? Or should the first interaction simply be kept casual (cool)? Maintain composure/frame or go for the prize?
I however want a higher closing rate than I am currently getting. I wonder if I can increase the amount of physical attraction by warming up the interaction by going more emotional and more direct.
I saw a clip from Lance Mason, (normally I don't like 'dating coaches' but he strikes me as authentic) who describes the 'movie moment' approach, which might be translated as "get in state" first and build up the energy and then approach 'fired up', preferably with direct eye contact with the girl before even speaking to her, ramping up the 'sexual tension' as much as possible. He contrasts it to the standard 'banter' approach, the conversational method of building attraction. He says the movie moment (I'll call it 'warm') approach has his highest closure rate, and when done correctly has women flipping out that 'it finally happened!'
I find this idea very fascinating but am unsure how to do it in my own game. I think my personal style leans rather laid back ('cool') though; so when I approach I am more about preparation (fitness, dress) and subtlety and smoothness instead of being 'in state' with higher, bolder (but possibly not calibrated?) energy/sweeping the girl off her feet.
However I do notice that once I open I sometimes feel a surge of energy, where the social interaction and closeness with the target girl pumps up my state; I am not sure what to do with the energy, normally I just maintain my composure instead of heating up, dominating, or 'sexualizing' the engagement, turning it into more direct approach. I wouldn't mind 'blowing out' girls that aren't really interested either.
Is it beneficial to 'switch' modes after starting a "cool" conversation game to make it "warm" game, once my energy fires up? Or should the first interaction simply be kept casual (cool)? Maintain composure/frame or go for the prize?