Hi guys
thought i'd post this in the newbie forum since maybe i m not so good in dating...
Here is the situation , I am married for a few years and im happy in couple. However I want to challenge myself and get better socially and gain some more self-confidence. I am already much better but I yet have to progress , one of my friend and colleague is a proper casanova (he is married too) and gets almost all girls , since he works under my command and he likes me , i feel like he is ready to help me on this , and I must admit that I get inspired from him.
My goal is not necessarily to get into relationships but just to play with fire and get some numbers , get the self confidence and keep the testosterone high , knowing that if i want i can get this girl ,that one , and that one .
In the past and before my wedding i used to have one girl a year m, and usually a drunk one or a fat one , and even though i ve never really been a real beta i ve always been downgrading myself with all sort of stupid women having zero level of self-confidence.
Now I have a good job and i live in another country , and the only reason why nothing happens at work is because everyone knows i am married and no girl dares to do anything since I behave quite dominant.
Without being extremely nice looking I dont think I look ugly , so I am probably average , with a few good features ( very good job + blue eyes + very tall). I yet have to lsoe some weight but i am still decent.
So here it is , I often play outside my own country and get numbers and stop , then I often sabotage myself saying im married or saying that I dream about platonic love , but somehow the girls keep writing me since I am such a lyrical maestro , I always make them understand that they are not good enough for me and that i have the biggest choice ever and that she has to step up to keep on talking to me , and they believe it , even if it s not true.
So , now straight to the point. My colleague invited me to play volleyball and I am a beginner . Last week , two of her friends came to our friendly match , both were former semi-pros , and one of them was in our team. I came to the match in excellent mood (not sure why) and I had some chit-chat with her with a few strong jokes. But that's it , I didn't chat her up , asked her some stuff about volleyball etc since she was tactically so knowledgeable (as a former pro).
Later going back home , my friend in the car told me that this girl asked him (they are childhood friends) about me , because she liked me. Of course , at that moment , I thought my friend is trolling me so I didn't pay attention. We were even laughing about it ( we regularly do such jokes to each other at work)
The next day my friend show me some proof that it was true and I was under the shock , because clearly she is out of my league. So I was at the same time extremely happy. Then I started to ask my friend about how is this girl (since he knows her from childhood) , if she is a bitch , a serious one ,etc etc
He told me many good things about her , and she is kind of serious , still single at 27. The reason why she is single is probably because she has too high standards , she comes from a good family and struggles to find someone of her level (that's my personal theory). Maybe that s why she is interested in me , besides my physical side. (she knows i m my colleague's boss)
Another thing is that she is a good friend of my colleague's wife so i have to be careful since my colleague s wife also knows my wife. So I told my friend anyway , tell her that i like her but mention that i am married and a father of two(let's play with fire and still keep appearences clean)
At that point , she got mad at my friend and even had bad words about me ( I didnt even ask her out or asked her number or behaved like i want her , i ve just had a normal chit chat , even though i was very impressed by her i didnt let it reflect) .
Before to go further m, I would like to know why this hysterical reaction , while I did absolutely nothing wrong. Let me help understand this feminine reaction.
Thank you,.
thought i'd post this in the newbie forum since maybe i m not so good in dating...
Here is the situation , I am married for a few years and im happy in couple. However I want to challenge myself and get better socially and gain some more self-confidence. I am already much better but I yet have to progress , one of my friend and colleague is a proper casanova (he is married too) and gets almost all girls , since he works under my command and he likes me , i feel like he is ready to help me on this , and I must admit that I get inspired from him.
My goal is not necessarily to get into relationships but just to play with fire and get some numbers , get the self confidence and keep the testosterone high , knowing that if i want i can get this girl ,that one , and that one .
In the past and before my wedding i used to have one girl a year m, and usually a drunk one or a fat one , and even though i ve never really been a real beta i ve always been downgrading myself with all sort of stupid women having zero level of self-confidence.
Now I have a good job and i live in another country , and the only reason why nothing happens at work is because everyone knows i am married and no girl dares to do anything since I behave quite dominant.
Without being extremely nice looking I dont think I look ugly , so I am probably average , with a few good features ( very good job + blue eyes + very tall). I yet have to lsoe some weight but i am still decent.
So here it is , I often play outside my own country and get numbers and stop , then I often sabotage myself saying im married or saying that I dream about platonic love , but somehow the girls keep writing me since I am such a lyrical maestro , I always make them understand that they are not good enough for me and that i have the biggest choice ever and that she has to step up to keep on talking to me , and they believe it , even if it s not true.
So , now straight to the point. My colleague invited me to play volleyball and I am a beginner . Last week , two of her friends came to our friendly match , both were former semi-pros , and one of them was in our team. I came to the match in excellent mood (not sure why) and I had some chit-chat with her with a few strong jokes. But that's it , I didn't chat her up , asked her some stuff about volleyball etc since she was tactically so knowledgeable (as a former pro).
Later going back home , my friend in the car told me that this girl asked him (they are childhood friends) about me , because she liked me. Of course , at that moment , I thought my friend is trolling me so I didn't pay attention. We were even laughing about it ( we regularly do such jokes to each other at work)
The next day my friend show me some proof that it was true and I was under the shock , because clearly she is out of my league. So I was at the same time extremely happy. Then I started to ask my friend about how is this girl (since he knows her from childhood) , if she is a bitch , a serious one ,etc etc
He told me many good things about her , and she is kind of serious , still single at 27. The reason why she is single is probably because she has too high standards , she comes from a good family and struggles to find someone of her level (that's my personal theory). Maybe that s why she is interested in me , besides my physical side. (she knows i m my colleague's boss)
Another thing is that she is a good friend of my colleague's wife so i have to be careful since my colleague s wife also knows my wife. So I told my friend anyway , tell her that i like her but mention that i am married and a father of two(let's play with fire and still keep appearences clean)
At that point , she got mad at my friend and even had bad words about me ( I didnt even ask her out or asked her number or behaved like i want her , i ve just had a normal chit chat , even though i was very impressed by her i didnt let it reflect) .
Before to go further m, I would like to know why this hysterical reaction , while I did absolutely nothing wrong. Let me help understand this feminine reaction.
Thank you,.