Ignoring the fact that this has now been bumped from the death; I am sure that there are ways to make your girlfriend or wife more feminine over the time.
Firstly we need to define what feminine for each one of us means. For me for instance it is feminine if a woman doesn't drink so much and doesn't smoke at all, while for others it is feminine if a woman likes to make-up a little more and John likes it if a woman uses high-heels etc.
I can speak from experience that I managed to make my wife more feminine. Sure she had pressure from her dad (who is really old-school, but with the right intentions) and her culture was a bit different than mine. When I met her:
-She liked to drink
-She smoked a bit
-She disliked cooking
-She never baked anything
-She disliked showing affection
Since the beginning of our relation I told her I disliked the drinking and smoking. I actually can't drink much alcohol due to problems with my stomach and I told her that alcohol will also cause problems with her stomach. At first she was making fun of me, but I explained her over and over again, how I disliked it. Later I also just commented how I liked women who don't drink as it is just not my thing and I want a non-smoking and non-drinking woman for a LTR and if everything goes good to have children with her. And I can tell you it started to click. Now I don't disallow her to drink alcohol, I rather have her drink only and only when I buy her a little bottle (when she did something good). She drinks now less almost nothing and does so only in my presence.
Smoking just disappeared as it was more of a social smoking with her friends. I told her how I felt bad whenever I smell it and wouldn't even touch her if she smells like that. I'd not get a boner with that smell. Problem solved in a matter of seconds.
I work, she is at home, so naturally she has to cook. She claims to be responsible so I told her, well isn't it more responsible if we save money and that you just cook my food. First weeks were hard, but she got used to it, as she was 'responsible'. Whenever she cooked average I told her how good the food tasted. She is this type of person who becomes more motivated if you give her a good critic and it worked out pretty well. She saw a few times how much I enjoyed eating good and tried to please my tummy even more. I also told her how I wanted to gain a bit of mass on my body and if she could help me by giving me certain food. She was motivated, cause well she will have a sexier version of me
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. Needless to say, she included a lot of new stuff in my diet and it pays off. I now eat healthier, she is now happy to cook for and thus more feminine. She already looked up many new recipes of food which I like and does it really well nowadays.
Baking: At first she was this type of woman who said, no I will never bake this is for grandma and blabla. Well cooking and baking aren't far off, guess what happened? she started baking too, because she was responsible. I took her to an more expansive shop a few times and commented on how expansive cakes are. Afterwards I told her, hm we should have a cake but everything is too expansive, how about we just buy the ingredients and you try to do it. I'd be happy eating a a cake of you. Now she makes pancakes, brownies, pudding, chocolate cake, fruit cake, 'Schwarzwälder' and much more.
Affection is important. A woman who doesn't show feelings is too dry for me and she won't be feminine. Sure a quick fuck is nice, but for a LTR we look for different qualities. Whenever I wanted I just hugged her or gave her kiss. She at first was like shocked and said, yeah but what will people say, how will they look at us. I showed her how people reacted by doing it more frequently; people reacted... not at all. I told her how I like a woman can be sweet and more warm. I get bored of women who are just...there and dump them very fast. And again needless to say, she improved that and now I get too much affection, but hey it's better than nothing and she now does it very naturally it doesn't seem fake and even if...well she does it for me.
Point is, be direct, don't worry if she calls you 'old-fashioned' or whatever and if she likes sex as much as you or even more, use it to your advantage. Say like you can't get a boner if you think of her doing x and y. If she claims that she has certain traits, use them to your advantage by saying how it is more 'responsible' (in my case) to cook food at home. And if nothing else works, well just initiate the talk, keep the power to your side and tell her how certain things must change or else you go. Women never like to have the mistake in a relationship, so most likely if she really digs you, she will at least try to become more feminine.
