[Remington]

If you ever ask yourself if you should dump a girl, you should listen to your gut and move on with your life and leave her in the past where she belongs.

[Thomas the Rhymer]

(09-17-2015 09:24 PM)Bodhisattva Wrote:  

Sorry for the late response guys. The advice is all much appreciated. I just wanted to add every time I brought up having an issue with her behavior, her first reaction was to deny doing any wrongdoing and fabricate a story. In example, the Instagram scenario, her defense was her phone "accidentally" liked the guy's pictures...I've since moved on. Cheers gents and thanks again.

While it always feels terrible to break up with an LTR, even if that LTR was toxic to you, I think I speak on behalf of the forum when I say well done, you did the right thing, and good luck for your further adventures. It may take a while for the heartbreak to settle, but in the end you will realise that it was the right thing to do.

[travolta]

(08-08-2015 12:37 PM)Bodhisattva Wrote:  

Ok Gixxy my girlfriend's behavior has nothing to do with women being hard-working, driven, ambitious and successful. This is about behavior that I find disrespectful coming from a girlfriend. If you're one of those individuals who believes it's ok to be friends with an ex good for you, I do not. However I do understand if there are certain situations where an ex may currently still be in the picture such as children in common or owning a business. And I do not have a problem with the woman I'm seeing having male friends. You're misconstruing what I constituted as red flags in my relationship.

1) With modern day social media it has become the norm that people may often "like", comment, and basically interact heavily with someone when their is genuine interest and/or attraction. Anybody correct me if you think I'm wrong or think otherwise. While I was single I knew if a girl was interested by how often she would "like" or comment on any status or photos I put up. It's basic common sense and anyone who's ever hooked up with someone via social media can contest that that is how basic flirting begins. If you caught your girl liking some other guy's photos, exchanging comments back and forth, when this guy isn't a "good friend" and you know he's trying to hit on her, you're going to raise some suspicion. Sorry but I just don't find that appropriate. Hell that's how she began flirting with me before we got together.

2) If you're out and about with your girlfriend and you introduce her to somebody and two minutes later she's not "looking" at him as how you put it, but rather obviously checking him out while attempting to be discreet about it. Maybe you wouldn't but I would feel slightly disrespected. I don't think it's ok to check somebody else out in front of your partner. Maybe you do and I'm too old fashioned.

3) I leave her alone at the table while at the wedding. While I'm gone she thought it was appropriate to ask some guy for a cigarette and join him outside as he had one. Perception is reality and I'm aware of how things can be perceived and apparently so was he. Otherwise I don't think he would've stopped and asked her, "Is your boyfriend ok with that?". This wasn't a mutual friend of mine. The groom was a mutual friend of ours, mine and the other guy at the table. I did not know this guy and neither did she. I'm not implying there's a double standard here. Anything I've noticed her doing I've done my part not to do it to her because I don't want her to feel disrespected.

I agree with these points. Disregard the guys on here telling you these points are false. These points are very subtle, and I believe you can only understand them fully if you've been with a girl who was actually in love with you. If a girl is really into you and fully committed, she wouldn't do these things, even something as small as "liking" another random guy's post on social media. Girls having too many male friends is a bit of a red flag for serious relationships. It's more normal for a girl to have lots of female friends.

[easternwomenrule]

Always trust your gut!

I always do a positive vs negative as well. When the negatives out weigh the positives, move on!

[godzilla]

Is exchanging instagram likes really modern day flirting?

Serious question..though I wouldn't have broke up with someone over that.

[Ruivinho]

Distance yourself from her as subtly as you can.
Dont use facebook or instagram for a week or 2.

Flirt very subtly with other girls so that she can see, but not so much so that she can accuse..

If she starts to notice something is up and asks to talk about it then tell her how you feel about the situation.

If she doesn't recognize and respect your point of view, then tell her you think you should move on from her..

[Bodhisattva]

Depends in what context. In this scenario I became upset because I knew what her intention was. This was a guy who was clearly after her. He would like her pictures as well as comment on anything she would post. Any dude knows when another dude is trying to get at your girl. When I saw her replying to his comments and liking his pictures back, it was obvious she was reciprocating the attention he was giving her. That's flirting with another man in my book. In hindsight I should've ended the relationship there. Like a previous poster mentioned, to which I agree, a truly devoted woman would neve reveal a wandering eye. Live and learn.

[Off The Reservation]

did you keep her dumped?