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07-21-2015, 02:45 PM
So this weekend I met this cute girl at a huge music festival. It was going pretty well.
We ended up in her tent and started to make out. While making out she got pretty nervous. She also told me that she is shy. I teased her for being nervous and shy. However, she would also put on lots of LMR‘s in between the make outs.
I wonder is it good that she was nervous?
How would you calm a nervous girl down?
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07-21-2015, 02:50 PM
When in doubt, whip it out...
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07-21-2015, 07:07 PM
If a chick is nervous don't tease her about it. I understand or I am too is much better than making fun of her. Even if you are not nervous say you are. Act as if. Most of the time people can get away with messed up things pretending it's normal and ordinary. If you get last minute resistance from making out she was probably scared her boyfriend or husband or her friends would walk in on her.
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07-22-2015, 12:45 AM
Do not neg a low esteem or shy girl. It just means she's not a total slut (maybe) and is inexperienced. Act as her sexual guide and turn her on with a long makeout that leads to your your hand rubbing between her legs and her shirt and bra off. Proceed accordingly. Shy girls are great fun because you can showcase dominant Alpha skills that they probably haven't seen but naturally will succumb to. Be Alpha but hit the kill switch on negs.
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07-22-2015, 03:25 AM
Create a team vibe. You're on the same team with the goal of getting laid. Create a bubble of one-ness.
Some vulnerability is good here.
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07-24-2015, 02:29 AM
For nervous girls, it's best to be more of the talking until they crack out of their shell. this is usually after you bang them!
Just like how Rooshv explains it in 'Day Bang' treat women like a cat. You don't want to scare them away.
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07-24-2015, 01:27 PM
The best way to calm a nervous girl is balance going for the lay and building a connection. This means for every 2 steps you take forward (physically) take a step back and make sure there's comfort and trust.
A nervous girl isn't going to appreciate someone who is just trying to push for the bang without pausing to make sure you guys like each other. Nervous girls usually aren't the type to be pushed into sex just based on physical attraction and lust - they need to be at ease with you.
Something else that has worked really fell for me with shy girls is letting them know you don't expect sex and that you won't be disappointed if you don't get it.
I tell girls all the time, "Don't worry I don't want to do anything you're comfortable with," "you're a sweet girl we don't have to rush," "we don't need to have sex, let's just cuddle and makeout."
Meanwhile, after relaxing and trying to comfort her I will ramp up sexually and go for the bang.
Rather than a girl simply being down to fuck, it's much more common for her to say no, play shy, let you convince her you don't just want to fuck (but that you actually kinda like her), and then wind up banging you.
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07-24-2015, 01:38 PM
Am I the only one who hears 'nervous girls' and thinks it must mean 'inexperienced girls'?
I would think a nervous girl is inexperienced, though an inexperienced girl is not necessarily nervous.
Or maybe even experienced girls could appear nervous, but just as a facade, a front. It's just her way of LMRing.
Slow down. It's more love-making than fucking. More togetherness (bodies pressed against each other making love), less observing.
That said, it seems like with the right frame you might be able to take the lead and push boundaries and get away with almost anything...once she's warmed up.
It's all about getting her turned on.
If you can get her feeling instead of thinking, if you can get her engine started and revved up, even a nervous girl will do anything you want.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
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07-24-2015, 01:48 PM
Appreciate your responses guys. Reading your posts while thinking back, makes me realise all the mistakes I did. Well, at least the next time will be better now.