[nickcheng825]

Hey guys,

I would like to seek you opinions. A girl I am dating for five months only sees me on the weekends. She is great and I could see myself taking her as my gf but but she doesn't message or call me during weekdays even though she is on WhatsApp quite often. When she sees me she says she misses me and loves me blah blah but my instinct is telling me that's just women speak, no real substance there. The only times I really remember her coming to me is when she has a problem or wants to discuss a work idea. Her excuse is guys don't like to be bothered, sure.

She told me once that she never thought shed be "this attracted to me". So I am suspecting that she isn't 100% committed and has second thoughts. What is your opinion? If I should take some kind of action what should it be?

[h3ltrsk3ltr]

You should approach other women

[Thatdude]

Agreed with the above. Keep her as a plate as long as you can but find other chicks. Once you have a couple plates spinning she'll smell it on you and hit you up a lot more. I wouldn't be pressed over this girl though. If you're in the states I'm willing to bet she's fucking other dudes anyway. Just my .02.

[Carboneraser]

Either you've got a loyal but shitty gf OR you've got an unloyal and shitty gf.

On the chance that she is in fact loyal, apply dread game and get her to commit more/ raise your value. Easiest way to do this is take her out and use her as social proof to flirt with other girls. I only say this cause you sound like you like her enough.

On the otherhand, with this forum you'll see over and over again that it's not worth it cause all women are like that. assume shes not loyal. She should be just a girl youre fucking now while you continue approaching. If she puts out, keep her. If she stresses you out/shit tests you/anything, just next her and move on to the next one.

Good luck

[h3ltrsk3ltr]

And...is the newbie forum broken or something? Let's just post there if we're new.

I'm new.

I post there.

[Rhyme or Reason]

If you're asking for advice about a specific girl then that's a problem in and of itself.

[OregonToSoCal]

You haven't provided a lot of details but I get the feeling that it's you doing the majority of the texting, messaging etc correct? If so you need to stop all contact with her immediately and wait for her to reach out to you next. When she does, only do 2-3 back and forth texts and then ask her out with a specific plan in mind. The phone is for setting dates and handling logistics.

If on the other hand you never hear from her again after going no contact you have your answer, she was never really all that into you anyway. Bottom line, you need to flip the script and get her to start chasing you rather than you chasing her.

[amusedmastery]

Agreed...Go Ghost on this chick or tell her you have a sudden business trip and will be gone for "a while". Provide no details and act evasive. Radio silence after this until she texts first. Then wait a day to text some vague, short answer back. Report back to us if it gets to this point. If she does not contact, next her immediately. She sounds sketchy anyway.

[ksbms]

(07-15-2015 12:46 AM)amusedmastery Wrote:  

Agreed...Go Ghost on this chick or tell her you have a sudden business trip and will be gone for "a while". Provide no details and act evasive. Radio silence after this until she texts first. Then wait a day to text some vague, short answer back. Report back to us if it gets to this point. If she does not contact, next her immediately. She sounds sketchy anyway.

For whatever reason it can do wonders, if you disappear. Have done it once and haven't seen a girl for two weeks (I was genuinely busy but not that busy) and she came over to my place crying. Seemed to have cemented her interest in me 100 fold than if, for example, I'd have bought her any gift.

One way to explain it, is Robert Cialdini's scarcity principle. Well, pearls are sought after and cost a fortune on the market because they are rare. A lump of coal? Not so much...

[TheChef]

Do not aim to have her be your gf. This thought will poison your interactions with a hint of needy behavior.

Kick back, and enjoy a night (not both nights) with her on the weekends. Go meet other girls. Sounds like you have a great situation onhand as long as you keep seeing her once a week, are not needy and are seeing other girls.

[Sonoma]

Be content to bang her on weekends. Empty the contents on your nuts in and on other girls during the weekdays.

Presto

[mardan]

- she doesn't see you high enough value to want to see more, or to want to give up her work/social life etc for
- she is likely hunting during the week, going out "free" of your influence

IF you want to gf her
increase your value; see all the above replies

However, you've already lost.
You would be chasing a girl who never thought you were valuable enough to give up aspects of her life for.

[barnbarn2k]

Cannot change other ppl. She's giving you as much as she wants/can. Dread or radio silence won't fix it. Plan a week long vaca with her- plan on her flaking. If she refuses to plan you got your answer. Make her pay for her part. No freebies. She should help plan and be excited for it. Otherwise you just got a fling.

[Rawmeo]

Abundance, abundance, abundance. Keep meeting other girls until you almost forget her. She will come back crawling to you if she's interested. Never stop meeting other girls because you have one in spin. If she leaves, you're left with nothing. Just hit her up "Let me know what you want to come" and go silent.

[lowside]

(07-08-2015 10:00 PM)nickcheng825 Wrote:  

Her excuse is guys don't like to be bothered, sure.

Frankly, she's right. You're too important and too busy to hear all her day to day shit. You don't have time to know that she's on whatsapp regularly. Between your routines (eating right, working out, working on your career/businesses) you can't possibly have time to spare. After 5 months she should be in love with you and doing 90% of the chasing.

[simonafc]

i dont know if this is already being said.

but fuck it.

she might be fucking someone else during the weekday lol

but who cares, you fuck her during the weekends. and she tells you some sweet things. (she'd never been this attracted)
but no call or text during the week?

You're being played buddy, but play her right back, you got the whole week