So recently I have met this forum member that another forum member has been recommending me for some time. This other forum member said that he is a really interesting guy and that I should meet him. At first I didn't want to meet him because he has very few posts and I don't usually like to meet forum members that have not contributed much. I usually assume that if they have not contributed much to the forum, they probably won't be that much of value in real life - how wrong I was.
Anyway, so I decided to meet up with him. I was going to meet these two girls and I wanted a wingman, I invited this dude to come out with me. The girls flaked on us (or me should I say) and we just hanged out and talked for some time.
This guy knew LOTS of my forum posts. I was shocked, in a good way. He would ask me questions or make a comment about one of my posts and then we would talk about it, I would expand on whatever I had said here on the forum.
I was shocked that he knew so many of my posts because I am not even one of the top guys on the forum and sometimes I just think that nobody is really paying attention to what I am writing here and it was nice to know someone that knew my posts so well in different subjects here on the forum (not just DR related stuff - We met here in DR). If our meet up was a job interview, this guy would get the job for sure haha.
I am just creating this thread to reinforce something I have been saying on this forum for some time. Listening gets you more out of life than talking. Since I started listening more to people, my relationships became way better. I wouldn't be surprised that this guy has read ''how to win friends and influence people'' by Dale Carnegie, if you haven't read the book, it's mandatory for you to read it, buy a copy of it, you will not regret it.
My sister recently went to a job interview and she asked me for some tips. I told her, just make sure you listen more than you going to talk, look out for something at his office and make a comment about it, when he starts talking about that thing, make sure you ARE REALLY listening to what he is saying. Everybody just wants to talk, nobody is listening, whoever knows how to listen has an advantage over other people.
I wasn't surprised when she told me she got the job, she thanked me so much and said that I have lots of experience relating to job interviews. I told her that I only had one job interview in my whole life, this has nothing to do with having experience in jobs interviews, it's just understanding human behaviour/nature.
Remember guys, when going to a job interview, when approaching a new chick, when meeting with a new valuable person or just anybody, try listen more, forget trying to impress others with how much you have accomplished, listening to them will get you better results.
I forgot who the player was but a interviewer once asked this playboy ''what's the secret of you having so many women''? He answered: ''I just listen to them''!
Anyway, so I decided to meet up with him. I was going to meet these two girls and I wanted a wingman, I invited this dude to come out with me. The girls flaked on us (or me should I say) and we just hanged out and talked for some time.
This guy knew LOTS of my forum posts. I was shocked, in a good way. He would ask me questions or make a comment about one of my posts and then we would talk about it, I would expand on whatever I had said here on the forum.
I was shocked that he knew so many of my posts because I am not even one of the top guys on the forum and sometimes I just think that nobody is really paying attention to what I am writing here and it was nice to know someone that knew my posts so well in different subjects here on the forum (not just DR related stuff - We met here in DR). If our meet up was a job interview, this guy would get the job for sure haha.
I am just creating this thread to reinforce something I have been saying on this forum for some time. Listening gets you more out of life than talking. Since I started listening more to people, my relationships became way better. I wouldn't be surprised that this guy has read ''how to win friends and influence people'' by Dale Carnegie, if you haven't read the book, it's mandatory for you to read it, buy a copy of it, you will not regret it.
My sister recently went to a job interview and she asked me for some tips. I told her, just make sure you listen more than you going to talk, look out for something at his office and make a comment about it, when he starts talking about that thing, make sure you ARE REALLY listening to what he is saying. Everybody just wants to talk, nobody is listening, whoever knows how to listen has an advantage over other people.
I wasn't surprised when she told me she got the job, she thanked me so much and said that I have lots of experience relating to job interviews. I told her that I only had one job interview in my whole life, this has nothing to do with having experience in jobs interviews, it's just understanding human behaviour/nature.
Remember guys, when going to a job interview, when approaching a new chick, when meeting with a new valuable person or just anybody, try listen more, forget trying to impress others with how much you have accomplished, listening to them will get you better results.
I forgot who the player was but a interviewer once asked this playboy ''what's the secret of you having so many women''? He answered: ''I just listen to them''!