From Jet Set Exec to Homeless - How Divorce and White Knighting destroyed a life
06-11-2015, 07:00 AM
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Quote: (06-11-2015 07:00 AM)DickDastardly Wrote:
Then he loses his job again. Honestly I don't know why but all I can think of is that whatever personality trait that leads to his white knighting must be translating into something else at work that is rasing some red flags.
Quote: (06-11-2015 09:24 AM)DickDastardly Wrote:
Looking at his story as a whole though I would have to say that his choice in women was exceptionally poor.
Quote: (06-11-2015 02:36 PM)DickDastardly Wrote:
His industry is notoriously fickle, particularly concerning age.
However I suspect that what happened is the first divorce affected his performance at work and couple this with the fact that his wife worked with the same company remember and well...a woman scorned etc
Then with the second marriage, I think the problems in the relationship may have started before he lost his job and whatever problem was there was exacerbated when he did lose it.
Regardless of what happened however, two things stand out to me.
1) Even before he got to the very top of the game job wise he was on to a good thing, the high status social life was there from the get go due to the nature of the job, when he rose to the top he got the money to go with it.
2) His choice in women considering the above left a lot to be desired. The first wife was below average, he definitely could have pulled better. The second wife made even less sense, she was average looking but ticked the wanting kids box. As he did for her. She had money, so had he (though less than before). She still left him and I suspect just used him. She had her fun and wanted a beta sperm donator. His white knighting marked him out from the beginning.
After the first divorce he was still young enough, successful enough and rich enough with a high status job to plunder all round him with younger women.
It doesn't make much sense to me. The one thing he wanted was kids. Now he looks set to lose them too.
Quote: (06-11-2015 03:09 PM)Menace Wrote:
After the first divorce, this man should have been in the office of the top asset protection attorney in his state getting his act together. All his assets (tangible and intangible) into LLC's and trusts. He owns nothing. Of course, you need to have a killer instinct which this guy totally lacked. If someone is in a prison of his own mind, there is very little that can be done. The first time was tragic, so there is no excuse for the second time.
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This is my plan before marriage, but I always hear that this shit isn't bulletproof.
Anyone here do take these steps and survived a divorce?
Quote: (06-11-2015 04:45 PM)Gringuito Wrote:
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=8101209
He spent 14 years in jail. He said he lost the money, the judge didn't think so (but had no proof) and off to jail for 14 years he went. Welcome to marriage 2.0.
Quote: (06-11-2015 04:24 PM)Aenigmarius Wrote:
In other words, if you put all your assets into a corporation or LLC just to hide them from a divorce court, the divorce court can (sometimes) pierce the corporate veil and still get those assets.
Quote: (06-12-2015 01:30 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:
So you are telling me that some US states have conditions in place that would give all of the money to his ex-wife, because he hid it?
Quote: (06-12-2015 07:46 AM)Gringuito Wrote:
Quote: (06-12-2015 01:30 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:
So you are telling me that some US states have conditions in place that would give all of the money to his ex-wife, because he hid it?
Yes, this is a case from California:
http://articles.latimes.com/1999/nov/17/news/mn-34537
Another from Michigan:
Sands v. Sands. The landmark Michigan 'hidden assets' case is Sands v. Sands, 192 Mich. App. 698, 482 N.W.2d 203 (1992), aff'd 448 Mich. 30, 497 N.W.2d 493 (1993). The case explains the procedural steps necessary to find and use hidden assets to increase the marital estate. The defendant, Mr. Sands, deliberately hid assets during the primary trial period. When assets were found after the trial, the court reconsidered the property division at a new partial trial. The Michigan appellate court awarded Mrs. Sands all of the found assets. The Supreme Court later affirmed the judgment for Mrs. Sands. Nevertheless, the Supreme Court cautioned that in each individual divorce case the circuit court must equitably divide the assets. The burden is on the party seeking redress to show the opposing party behaved so egregiously that the court should award the complaining party the value of the entire found asset. No automatic rule exists requiring the party concealing the asset to forfeit the entire concealed asset to the other party. What about attorney fees in the case? Mrs. Sands had increased attorney fees and costs because of her husband’s behavior in failing to cooperate with discovery and engaging in devious and deceptive conduct. While the court divided the known assets equally, it directed Mr. Sand to pay 70 percent of his wife’s attorney’s fees in order to compensate for the time spent uncovering the hidden assets.
Quote: (06-12-2015 08:31 AM)Dr. Howard Wrote:
I'm going to ask Gringuito to correct me if I'm wrong, but the reason why you see these cases where found assets are awarded to the wife despite the husband not legally owning them etc is because of this:
- divorce judgments are at the complete discretion of the judge.
I think its pretty easy to piece together who is in control of a business or trust, even if they don't legally own it. If it rubs the judge the wrong way, then bam she'll just say "you owe 100k to your ex wife" she won't specify that you've got to sell half of company x to do it. There doesn't need to be proof that you actually own it, because the judgement doesn't need to be tied to your assets, income or anything like that...its just how the judge feels that day. It seems that way with childsupport as well, that its all just guidelines, not law so the judge can choose to ignore it and just make up judgements as they feel like it.
I'd also imagine that family court judges, are like family court lawyers...they are the bottom rung of their peers in the legal profession and so are prone to doing whatever they feel like vs. thinking about reasonable, sound judgement based on precedence and circumstances.