Quote: (05-15-2015 08:30 AM)heavy Wrote:
My friend's ex-wife fit many of those criteria when he met her. Regardless of the woman, there is one fact you must face if you plan on getting married:
She might divorce you. This could be one year later, three years later, 5, 10, or 20 years later, but at some point, you might get divorced.
Bingo!!!
Modern marriage has been transformed from being a steady job into being a business.
Most men will thrive with a steady long term job. They'll wake up everyday, go to work and do their job. They'll repeat this until they retire with more or less a smile on their face.
On the other hand, a small percentage of men is capable of enduring the rigors of being an entrepreneur. Why? Yes, responding to market realities, keeping up with technology, insuring adequate capitalization ... etc is hard work to be sure, but is it that much harder than all the jobs out there? I submit to you the answer is, no!
So, why aren't all men entrepreneurs? After all a successful business is much sweeter than a promotion. The answer in my experience is the difference in men's ability to handle risk. Specifically, the risk of failure.
If you think failure is a learning experience on the way to success, then you are cut out to be an entrepreneur. If not, find a job.
Back in the day, marriage was like a job. Both man and woman, knew where to be, when and what to do. It mostly worked for the best and everyone (man, woman and children) benefited. Fast forward to today and marriage has been transformed into a business that requires communication, periodic maintenance and rapid response to changes in the environment. Add to that, an irrational customer (the wife) that have to be satisfied, else someone (the husband) is not doing their job. Add to that, no societal shaming for divorce. No wonder why we have high rates of failure.
In summery, if you can handle a divorce, do it, if not, stay single. This is true, irrespective of the quality of woman you start with, or how much work you put into the relationship. I have seen countless businesses with 'great ideas' where the guys put all on the line and still amounted to nothing. Likewise, I have seen many men who married a 'good woman' and put all their energy into the marriage only to end up in divorce court.
If I were you, I would not marry. However, if I did, I would focus on the quality of life in my marriage rather than it's longevity. What good is it to be married and miserable? Nothing!!!
PS: About you smashing a college hottie every couple of weeks ....... I believe you ..... I really do!