I don't drink and don't enjoy going to bars. So, bootcamps aren't a good fit for me as they mostly occur in bars. I am interested in day-game and 1:1 coaching. Roosh no longer coaches. Can you recommend any other 1:1 day-game coach?
About me:
Live and work in Canada. Reasonably good job. I've been working out 3x a week for over 2 years. Perhaps 15% body fat, 160lbs, 5"10 - neither in-shape nor out-of-shape I am NOT white though but I did move to Canada when I was 17 so I still have some accent. Lots of international travel and quite a few DHV-able experiences. 34 year old. Recently separated (arranged-marriage). No kids.
Two recent events that pretty much sum up need for game:
# 1
I am visting Salt Lake City. Go for a haircut. Tell her I am from Canada. She mentions, she just moved from California. Very attractive. I want to ask her out but I don't. But as luck would have it, two days later, I find her standing next to me in a resturant order line-up. We both recognize each other and say hello. I want to converse and game her but instead I pull out my phone and get busy. She also pulls out her phone and gets busy. We are in the line next to each other for 15+ minutes and never talk after initial Hi.
Meanwhile, some random guy, perhaps 6-8 places behind us, yells Hi to her and starts talking to her from 8 places behind. He doesn't care there are people in between and they end up exchanging numbers. All this time, I am standing next to her, playing with my phone!!!!
# 2
I visit massage therapist. During massage, she gets chatty and opens up about her life. I find myself drawn to her as she describes her life struggle and how she overcame them. I am now attracted to her. But I don't do anything. Leave after massage and book another session.
Next session - I bring flowers for her but don't make a romantic statement. Just put them on the vase there. Proceed to massage, same deal, she chats, I mostly listen and leave.
Next (third) session - this is my last week in Salt Lake City, so before going, I am thinking of asking her out. But I don't. I do say things like, you are the most interesting person I've met here - such interesting life you've led. I wish you lived in Canada and we could chat more there. I like listening to your stories. She thanks me for the compliment. Tells me, you've my email, let's keep in touch.
That's it.
Aside from these two, there are other countless incidents where I've refrained from approaching. Girl on the bus-stop, waitress, girls in mall, girls in my gym, receptionist at my doctor's office, dentist office. Real-estate agent. Starbucks barista. Girls in office building (that don't work for same company as mine) and so on.
I am sick of this impotence. I'd like to do something about it. But I suffer from inertia.
I think - it'd be cool to take professional 1:1 coaching as starting point. Get some instant feedback, learn some good habits and then practice those habits on my own for few months. Then come back for a second session to further improve.
Even if I assume, that I somehow push myself to aproach women without any coaching, I think I'd be just doing bad/incorrect approaches. And lots of bad approaches would either de-motivate me or make me very good at bad approaches. I'd like to practie good habits from the begining! This way, I don't have to un-learn bad habits later!!!
So... Roosh isn't coaching anymore. Would you recommend someone else?
I checked out some other mPUA but looks like I can't afford them yet. But if you know of someone reasonably priced and reputed, please chime in!!
Toronto would be awesome, if you know of someone there. But US works too.
About me:
Live and work in Canada. Reasonably good job. I've been working out 3x a week for over 2 years. Perhaps 15% body fat, 160lbs, 5"10 - neither in-shape nor out-of-shape I am NOT white though but I did move to Canada when I was 17 so I still have some accent. Lots of international travel and quite a few DHV-able experiences. 34 year old. Recently separated (arranged-marriage). No kids.
Two recent events that pretty much sum up need for game:
# 1
I am visting Salt Lake City. Go for a haircut. Tell her I am from Canada. She mentions, she just moved from California. Very attractive. I want to ask her out but I don't. But as luck would have it, two days later, I find her standing next to me in a resturant order line-up. We both recognize each other and say hello. I want to converse and game her but instead I pull out my phone and get busy. She also pulls out her phone and gets busy. We are in the line next to each other for 15+ minutes and never talk after initial Hi.
Meanwhile, some random guy, perhaps 6-8 places behind us, yells Hi to her and starts talking to her from 8 places behind. He doesn't care there are people in between and they end up exchanging numbers. All this time, I am standing next to her, playing with my phone!!!!
# 2
I visit massage therapist. During massage, she gets chatty and opens up about her life. I find myself drawn to her as she describes her life struggle and how she overcame them. I am now attracted to her. But I don't do anything. Leave after massage and book another session.
Next session - I bring flowers for her but don't make a romantic statement. Just put them on the vase there. Proceed to massage, same deal, she chats, I mostly listen and leave.
Next (third) session - this is my last week in Salt Lake City, so before going, I am thinking of asking her out. But I don't. I do say things like, you are the most interesting person I've met here - such interesting life you've led. I wish you lived in Canada and we could chat more there. I like listening to your stories. She thanks me for the compliment. Tells me, you've my email, let's keep in touch.
That's it.
Aside from these two, there are other countless incidents where I've refrained from approaching. Girl on the bus-stop, waitress, girls in mall, girls in my gym, receptionist at my doctor's office, dentist office. Real-estate agent. Starbucks barista. Girls in office building (that don't work for same company as mine) and so on.
I am sick of this impotence. I'd like to do something about it. But I suffer from inertia.
I think - it'd be cool to take professional 1:1 coaching as starting point. Get some instant feedback, learn some good habits and then practice those habits on my own for few months. Then come back for a second session to further improve.
Even if I assume, that I somehow push myself to aproach women without any coaching, I think I'd be just doing bad/incorrect approaches. And lots of bad approaches would either de-motivate me or make me very good at bad approaches. I'd like to practie good habits from the begining! This way, I don't have to un-learn bad habits later!!!
So... Roosh isn't coaching anymore. Would you recommend someone else?
I checked out some other mPUA but looks like I can't afford them yet. But if you know of someone reasonably priced and reputed, please chime in!!
Toronto would be awesome, if you know of someone there. But US works too.