[Silva]

Just to give a little background on myself, I am 21 years old, university student.
I've known about the game for the past 2 years now, and have been taking consistent action within the 1.5 years (daygame, club game). Whilst the game has given me some amazing experiences and lessons, it has also fucked me up in a way. I'm wondering if any of you guys have experienced this.

Basically, game is on my mind 24/7 NON-STOP. literally, I cant stop thinking about this shit. Whether it be a fuck-buddy, or general game principles, MY MIND KEEPS CHATTERING AWAY about this shit. Even when I'm working, at the gym, with friends, all my mind wants to do is think about game.

Its now at the point where I feel it is affecting my quality of life, and preventing me from fully getting immersed into what I am doing at the time.

Another big pain is I think about my fuck-buddy all the time. If I have not heard from her in a few days, I get kind of depressed, and my mind starts chattering away about what could have possibly happened (she's met a new guy, she's left you etc.)

What advice would you guys give to sort out this fucked up situation?

[brick tamland]

Your first post huh?
Keep it simple - rather think specifically about ways to improve rather than game in general. Rather read more about game than have scattered thoughts.
Finally, BIG YELLOW FLAG waving here - having feelings for that girl (needing her attention) means she's not in a F buddy category.

Edit - there's nothing wrong with thinking a lot about girls and game at age 21.

[babygirlhesaloner]

Get hobbies, find your passion, focus on your career etc. Can't really talk myself though. I can't go a day without reading a game blog or lurking the forum.

[redbeard]

What do you have going on in your life OUTSIDE of game and school?

Sounds like your life isn't too fulfilling.

[Bilboswaggins]

Game is kind of similar to fitness in this regard. I think everyone who has tried following a solid routine has developed doubts over his routine bringing 'optimal' results, thinking whether they should change it after only two weeks on the program. In its essence it's really simple, just eat more than you spend and get stronger at compound movements.

Game is pretty much the same - focus on approaching girls and you will start to notice patterns that help you achieve the goal of bedding them, that's the 'compound exercise' of game. No matter how many threads you read or different thoughts you think, it won't help your practical abilities as much as just going out and doing it.

One of my favorite posts by Roosh - http://www.rooshv.com/less-knowledge-is-more

[WestIndianArchie]

21 year old can't stop thinking about girls.

Color me surprised

WIA

[Pride male]

I assumed men even old dudes, think about banging every 15 minutes. Especially if there are women around.

[Silva]

Thanks guys for the responses.

(05-08-2015 04:33 AM)brick tamland Wrote:  

Your first post huh?
Keep it simple - rather think specifically about ways to improve rather than game in general. Rather read more about game than have scattered thoughts.
Finally, BIG YELLOW FLAG waving here - having feelings for that girl (needing her attention) means she's not in a F buddy category.

Edit - there's nothing wrong with thinking a lot about girls and game at age 21.

Good point. I guess its that I've not had much sexual experience will girls thus far, so I get attached to that one chick. Solution = get more girls, so I never worry about any one girl.

(05-08-2015 05:09 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

What do you have going on in your life OUTSIDE of game and school?

Sounds like your life isn't too fulfilling.

Apart from other hobbies (gym, reading, sports) I guess not much else. I need to find have more passion in these things I guess.

[jbird669]

(05-08-2015 07:56 AM)Pride male Wrote:  

I assumed men even old dudes, think about banging every 15 minutes. Especially if there are women around.

I am 36, and this is me. Every time I see an attractive female, even when driving, I'm thinking about what she looks like naked and what it'd be like to fuck her. But using the driving as an example, once she's out of sight, I return to what I was thinking about before or what's on the radio, podcast, etc.

[heavy]

Basically, game is on my mind 24/7 NON-STOP. literally, I cant stop thinking about this shit. Whether it be a fuck-buddy, or general game principles, MY MIND KEEPS CHATTERING AWAY about this shit. Even when I'm working, at the gym, with friends, all my mind wants to do is think about game.

Normal. You're 21, testosterone through the roof, horny. Makes sense.

Its now at the point where I feel it is affecting my quality of life, and preventing me from fully getting immersed into what I am doing at the time.

Not too abnormal. I think most 21 year old men are like this, they just don't know it. At the very least you know it.

Another big pain is I think about my fuck-buddy all the time. If I have not heard from her in a few days, I get kind of depressed, and my mind starts chattering away about what could have possibly happened (she's met a new guy, she's left you etc.)

If you had two other hotties you were banging, this wouldn't be happening. Based on you referring to her as fuck-buddy, sounds like you know that. It's all about you baby, not her.

What advice would you guys give to sort out this fucked up situation?

When you get into a bad thought loop, depressed thinking about fb (ie not having pussy), go do something active. This is pretty much the only guaranteed way of breaking that thought loop.

Lift, play basketball, run...something competitive, either against yourself or others.

What you're experiencing is why young guys get into trouble, break stuff, steal, party, do stupid shit. Do all of that, just do it productively.

[BlurredSevens]

(05-08-2015 08:14 AM)Silva Wrote:  

Apart from other hobbies (gym, reading, sports) I guess not much else.

Those are great hobbies for a 21 year old to have. Keep doing all of those.

Your writing skills are decent as well. Most 21 year olds can't form a coherent sentence, so you're already ahead of the curve.

Honestly you sound pretty normal. I'd be more concerned if you were 21 and *weren't* thinking about girls 24/7.

[kaotic]

I had this problem for awhile, sooner or later you'll get fatigued and want to take a break.

Well, unless you're in South America and banging all the time like Atlantic, that's another story.

You're catching feelings for your fuck buddy if you're getting depressed from not hearing from her.

Build stuff, whether it's a computer, or furniture, we all need hobbies we're passionate about, read is absolutely mandatory in this day and age.

[WestIndianArchie]

(05-08-2015 12:16 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:  

(05-08-2015 08:14 AM)Silva Wrote:  

Apart from other hobbies (gym, reading, sports) I guess not much else.

Those are great hobbies for a 21 year old to have. Keep doing all of those.

Your writing skills are decent as well. Most 21 year olds can't form a coherent sentence, so you're already ahead of the curve.

Honestly you sound pretty normal. I'd be more concerned if you were 21 and *weren't* thinking about girls 24/7.

Truthbetold
Sports and the gym are probably making it worse.

All that is doing is revving up the testosterone and preparing your body for the ultimate physical exercise.

If he wanted something to calm him down, I suggest the tedious world of pastry. Sugar + Flour = fat = estrogen = less testosterone.

WIA

[MrXY]

(05-08-2015 04:18 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

If he wanted something to calm him down, I suggest the tedious world of pastry. Sugar + Flour = fat = estrogen = less testosterone.

WIA

About the only television I watch is the Food Network and I've noticed something- pastry chefs are almost always fat and usually female.

Chefs who specialize in cooking meat or seafood are much more often slender or fit, whether they are male or female.

Coincidence? I think not.

[poutsara]

(05-08-2015 03:55 AM)Silva Wrote:  

Just to give a little background on myself, I am 21 years old, university student. ...Basically, game is on my mind 24/7 NON-STOP. literally, I cant stop thinking about this shit. Whether it be a fuck-buddy, or general game principles, MY MIND KEEPS CHATTERING AWAY about this shit. Even when I'm working, at the gym, with friends, all my mind wants to do is think about game.

Its now at the point where I feel it is affecting my quality of life, and preventing me from fully getting immersed into what I am doing at the time.

Another big pain is I think about my fuck-buddy all the time. If I have not heard from her in a few days, I get kind of depressed, and my mind starts chattering away about what could have possibly happened (she's met a new guy, she's left you etc.)

What advice would you guys give to sort out this fucked up situation?

You're probably doing fine. Just take your future business/career/job seriously, keep hitting the gym, and you will be fine.

[Silva]

(05-08-2015 10:46 AM)heavy Wrote:  

Basically, game is on my mind 24/7 NON-STOP. literally, I cant stop thinking about this shit. Whether it be a fuck-buddy, or general game principles, MY MIND KEEPS CHATTERING AWAY about this shit. Even when I'm working, at the gym, with friends, all my mind wants to do is think about game.

Normal. You're 21, testosterone through the roof, horny. Makes sense.

Its now at the point where I feel it is affecting my quality of life, and preventing me from fully getting immersed into what I am doing at the time.

Not too abnormal. I think most 21 year old men are like this, they just don't know it. At the very least you know it.

Another big pain is I think about my fuck-buddy all the time. If I have not heard from her in a few days, I get kind of depressed, and my mind starts chattering away about what could have possibly happened (she's met a new guy, she's left you etc.)

If you had two other hotties you were banging, this wouldn't be happening. Based on you referring to her as fuck-buddy, sounds like you know that. It's all about you baby, not her.

What advice would you guys give to sort out this fucked up situation?

When you get into a bad thought loop, depressed thinking about fb (ie not having pussy), go do something active. This is pretty much the only guaranteed way of breaking that thought loop.

Lift, play basketball, run...something competitive, either against yourself or others.

What you're experiencing is why young guys get into trouble, break stuff, steal, party, do stupid shit. Do all of that, just do it productively.

Thanks, this helps a lot, and puts things into perspective.

In terms of the F-buddy situation, when we met up last time (couple of weeks ago), she spotted a Hickey on my neck, which was from another girl. I played it off as if she gave it to me but I don't think she bought it. Since then she has become quite cold/distant (shorter text replies, saying she's busy the next few weeks etc.). Would it be a bad move to call her and reassure her or no?

[Nascimento]

(05-08-2015 04:18 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Truthbetold
Sports and the gym are probably making it worse.

All that is doing is revving up the testosterone and preparing your body for the ultimate physical exercise.

If he wanted something to calm him down, I suggest the tedious world of pastry. Sugar + Flour = fat = estrogen = less testosterone.

WIA

21 here. I go harder in the gym, pick up a basketball, go to the weekly pickup footy game, one reason is to distract myself from the biggest temptation of all.

Absolutely makes it worse. But worth it.

[Fortis]

Go out, get laid, feed the beast. But you should also be working out, studying and setting yourself up so you're not one of those silly fucks who thought he was going to get a job for just breathing. Despite what some might tell you, getting money and a good positioning in society will actually make it easier to get laid in the future.



right?

But seriously, don't let this consume you. You should be using this time to get into awesome shape. I didn't start working out until 24. Imagine where my physique would be if I had started at 21?

That will also make the game easier for you. You can do non-game things to build your game up and make it more potent.