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I've made little progress with my game goal.
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I've made little progress with my game goal.

Pretty new to the game but one thing I've noticed about myself is that there is strong correlation between my approach anxiety and the time elapsed from when I notice a girl I like. I become much more reluctant. When I have time to think about it I get caught up on trying to come up with something clever to say. I catch myself trying to play out the entire interaction in my head, and when I reach a dead end in this imaginary conversation it psyches me out.

If I look up and notice a girl has sat down by me on the subway platform bench I can usually just spitfire a random observational opener about trains being slow, ad posters on the wall, a something about brands of the shopping bags shes carrying, whatever. If I spot a long legged thoroughbred walking towards me from a block away something about the mutual anticipation of it throws me off. I know she's probably noticed me (i'm 6'5 and athletic looking with red hair) and she is used to every guy in a 50yd radius noticing her.

In these situations I always puss out (though lately if I know I'm not going to open I've started blatantly staring at boobs/legs/hips and never making eye contact. For some reason I feel like less of a pussy than when I make eye contact and look away), unless some observational cue really jumps right out at me, like she's wearing a t-shirt of a restaurant from back home, for example. Otherwise I become outcome dependent. Stopping a girl on the street is a blatant pickup attempt and takes balls to do when you're in public.

If I consciously put myself in a mindset like: as soon as I see a bad bitch I'm going to approach, it helps a bit. Something about putting all my cards on the table helps. You're a female, I'm a man and I'm coming for that ass. It gets me fired up and I notice that my body language better ie more sexually purposeful. I have an easier time locking eye contact, throwing on a sly smile while giving her a slow once-over like "I'm thinking about what you look like naked."

My problem is that I have to be CONSCIOUSLY thinking about this for it to happen. It's like if you have terrible posture and you start sitting up straight at the the dinner table - a minute and a half later you realize that your slouched over shoveling cereal the 3
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I've made little progress with my game goal.

Coincidentally, something happened today which quite aptly describes my current mindset.
I was getting changed after jumping in the shower and waiting for the day's gym orders. While I was getting dressed I spotted 2 girls out of my window walking up the road.
Out of curiosity I went to see what they looked like and then had to climb on a chair to get a better view. Then I was spotted and I immediately retreated.
I'm not sure it's possible to get more thirsty than that.
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I think you may be right about putting too much pressure on myself though.
It's like I have to try to develop a no-fucks-given mentality while also working on my social anxiety and remembering oh fuck it I'm getting analysis paralysis again
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