Hi guys,
I'm a relative newbie to the forum and just wanted to share my story and basically ask for some help. I am 26, and have lived in the UK all my life, in London. In general, I have done ok with girls in the past. My best days were probably between 18-23 or so. Over the past two years I have had one girlfriend for a year, and two other shorter term girlfriends lasting for 3 months each roughly.
Anyway, Ive never really had great game, I suppose I have relied on natural confidence that I seem to somewhat have lost through my twenties, becoming more sheepish and reserved when it comes to the ladies. I am at a stage now where I feel like I have completely lost my mojo and it does depress me. I see other guys seemingly going out on dates, having success, and making something out of it, but right now I can't seem to get in gear. I had some luck over christmas, with one lay and a short term fling with another girl lasting for a few months.
Fast forward to current time however, and I just feel straight frustrated. No tinder girls, no happn girls although I am getting some matches on happn. I think of myself as a fairly good looking guy, but honestly, I feel like I have lost my sense of adventure and risk taking, and fun when it comes to hooking up with girls. I feel like my mojo has really disappeared.
I have come for advice in terms of where to start. It would be great to have some suggestions for getting out of this rut, and more importantly, actually going from more AFC status to actually get good at game. I feel like I am really wasting my twenties not maximizing my opportunities with women in some respects. I suppose I have had a number of relationships and hookups but its when I am single I just don't enjoy the process. I feel depressed and waiting for something to happen when it comes to dating.
I see myself as a normal guy, relatively good looking, but just berefit of confidence and motivation. I have been reading about nofap a lot and have had some success in the past so thinking about starting a nofap again to gain some more motivation. But it would be great to get some advice on where to go from this low base level.
One other problem I have I suppose is that I have been growing tired in many respects of the drinking scene and the night life scene BUT thats where I have gotten my luck in the past. So I have the duel problem of trying to make a lifestyle transistion to a more healthy, day activity led sort of one, but that then means I need to start to base my game on more day time approaches which I am not used to as have previously used alcohol to rely on having a bit more confidence and the blur of a night out for things to sort of happen.
Anyway, I dont want to go on too long but any advice would be appreciated. Now the weather in the UK is getting better, I was also thinking about maybe doing a 100 woman approach thing, but hell, in the UK its always seemed difficult. Monday to Friday, most chicks I see are commuting back and forth to work, or getting lunch on the street at midday. That perhaps leaves the weekend for more casual encounters, but again, I wouldn't know where to start.
Thanks for reading and I look forward to reading your advice if you have any inputs you think might help.
I'm a relative newbie to the forum and just wanted to share my story and basically ask for some help. I am 26, and have lived in the UK all my life, in London. In general, I have done ok with girls in the past. My best days were probably between 18-23 or so. Over the past two years I have had one girlfriend for a year, and two other shorter term girlfriends lasting for 3 months each roughly.
Anyway, Ive never really had great game, I suppose I have relied on natural confidence that I seem to somewhat have lost through my twenties, becoming more sheepish and reserved when it comes to the ladies. I am at a stage now where I feel like I have completely lost my mojo and it does depress me. I see other guys seemingly going out on dates, having success, and making something out of it, but right now I can't seem to get in gear. I had some luck over christmas, with one lay and a short term fling with another girl lasting for a few months.
Fast forward to current time however, and I just feel straight frustrated. No tinder girls, no happn girls although I am getting some matches on happn. I think of myself as a fairly good looking guy, but honestly, I feel like I have lost my sense of adventure and risk taking, and fun when it comes to hooking up with girls. I feel like my mojo has really disappeared.
I have come for advice in terms of where to start. It would be great to have some suggestions for getting out of this rut, and more importantly, actually going from more AFC status to actually get good at game. I feel like I am really wasting my twenties not maximizing my opportunities with women in some respects. I suppose I have had a number of relationships and hookups but its when I am single I just don't enjoy the process. I feel depressed and waiting for something to happen when it comes to dating.
I see myself as a normal guy, relatively good looking, but just berefit of confidence and motivation. I have been reading about nofap a lot and have had some success in the past so thinking about starting a nofap again to gain some more motivation. But it would be great to get some advice on where to go from this low base level.
One other problem I have I suppose is that I have been growing tired in many respects of the drinking scene and the night life scene BUT thats where I have gotten my luck in the past. So I have the duel problem of trying to make a lifestyle transistion to a more healthy, day activity led sort of one, but that then means I need to start to base my game on more day time approaches which I am not used to as have previously used alcohol to rely on having a bit more confidence and the blur of a night out for things to sort of happen.
Anyway, I dont want to go on too long but any advice would be appreciated. Now the weather in the UK is getting better, I was also thinking about maybe doing a 100 woman approach thing, but hell, in the UK its always seemed difficult. Monday to Friday, most chicks I see are commuting back and forth to work, or getting lunch on the street at midday. That perhaps leaves the weekend for more casual encounters, but again, I wouldn't know where to start.
Thanks for reading and I look forward to reading your advice if you have any inputs you think might help.