I’ve always thought I was never good enough for anyone because I have never had any self esteem. When I have had a chance to take a woman home with me something has always gone wrong. I’ve missed noticing when people have been interested in me. Things happen when I can take someone home like my car being boxed in or the bathroom not working and so on.
In college I could not tell if a woman was interested in me so nothing happened. I made two different dates with women in Mass. when I was in grad school in Detroit. By the time I came home both of them were dead from accidents. Then there was the whole thing in the Dominican Rep. that happened. I do have Asperger’s syndrome but all the things the have happened to me were not involved with that.
I left the USA looking to succeed away from there from there with women. I was married to a woman from the Dominican Republic and she eventually got a visa. I already spoke basically fluent Spanish before I got there. After I and my wife returned home to the DR after our visit to stay at my parents, she would not speak to me. This was in October 2013. We had a shouting argument and I closed the door and told her to go stay at her sister’s in the same city for the night. This was just after she found out that she was getting her Green Card and that I had made her the beneficiary of my accounts. My wife left the house, went next door to where a District Attorney named lives and had me arrested for domestic abuse.
I was accused of locking her out of the house and verbal abuse, which are crimes in that country but not in the USA. It is actually against the law to yell at your partner there because the assume violence has happened. Laws relating to women in the D.R. are draconian due to them having the one of the highest rates of men killing wives and girlfriends in the world in a country where it can be accurately measured. I was looking at 2 to 5 years on a felony charge for the lockout.
Although my wife had said that she wanted me out of jail, she would not sign release papers, was obstructive in court, made up stories about everyone else involved being crazy and threatening her life, including my parents and other third parties. She also used her child in court to say that I beat the child on a regular basis, which never happened. My case went through a second hearing where the law was ignored because my wife cried to the judge.
Everyone thought my wife had agreed to be nice and say that I had been punished enough and to let me out. We went up to the court of appeals. My lawyers presented an argument that procedures had not been followed and that I should never have had to stay in jail. There had been no physical violence only yelling. When it was my wife’s turn she said the opposite of what she said she would. She said that I was dangerous and should be kept in jail because I might do something. The chief justice asked if there had been problems before the night of the incident. My wife said things were OK before that; her lawyer then went on a rant about how dangerous I was.
The chief Justice then told my wife’s lawyer that if he ever brought a case like this before the court again she would see he was charged with contempt. The Justice then said he might want to take some night courses to better understand Dominican law. My lawyer said he thought my wife’s lawyer would lose it. After all that it still took me about a week to get of the prison. The time I passed under detention was about 3 months. I wrote an article about what I went through in prison and here is a link to it; http://drsisterhood.com/jims-story/
My ex is now in the USA and will apply to remove conditions sometime later. I have already turned several sworn statements into USCIS about what has gone on. This lady had never been married or applied for a visa before. She also fooled other expats that are used to seeing scammers.
I found out later that she has borderline personality disorder or something like that. She will not get the 10 year visa now because the US immigration dept. is demanding that she get a psych evaluation. I can’t go back to my old house in the DR for 2 years because I left the country in a hurry before my passport could be blocked.
I have had thoughts of violence towards myself and others because I am unable to succeed with relationships and jobs. I gave up looking for jobs after 5 years of hearing "you aced the interview but we can't hire you". I have two degrees in different subjects in fact. Reading books like "The Game" is like reading the Cambodian alphabet or something since I cannot put out the social expression to put them into practice, other than saying things. I actually liked living in the DR people people did not act like they judged me there. There is a lot therapy cannot help me with such as how people treat me in the USA versus where I was living.
In college I could not tell if a woman was interested in me so nothing happened. I made two different dates with women in Mass. when I was in grad school in Detroit. By the time I came home both of them were dead from accidents. Then there was the whole thing in the Dominican Rep. that happened. I do have Asperger’s syndrome but all the things the have happened to me were not involved with that.
I left the USA looking to succeed away from there from there with women. I was married to a woman from the Dominican Republic and she eventually got a visa. I already spoke basically fluent Spanish before I got there. After I and my wife returned home to the DR after our visit to stay at my parents, she would not speak to me. This was in October 2013. We had a shouting argument and I closed the door and told her to go stay at her sister’s in the same city for the night. This was just after she found out that she was getting her Green Card and that I had made her the beneficiary of my accounts. My wife left the house, went next door to where a District Attorney named lives and had me arrested for domestic abuse.
I was accused of locking her out of the house and verbal abuse, which are crimes in that country but not in the USA. It is actually against the law to yell at your partner there because the assume violence has happened. Laws relating to women in the D.R. are draconian due to them having the one of the highest rates of men killing wives and girlfriends in the world in a country where it can be accurately measured. I was looking at 2 to 5 years on a felony charge for the lockout.
Although my wife had said that she wanted me out of jail, she would not sign release papers, was obstructive in court, made up stories about everyone else involved being crazy and threatening her life, including my parents and other third parties. She also used her child in court to say that I beat the child on a regular basis, which never happened. My case went through a second hearing where the law was ignored because my wife cried to the judge.
Everyone thought my wife had agreed to be nice and say that I had been punished enough and to let me out. We went up to the court of appeals. My lawyers presented an argument that procedures had not been followed and that I should never have had to stay in jail. There had been no physical violence only yelling. When it was my wife’s turn she said the opposite of what she said she would. She said that I was dangerous and should be kept in jail because I might do something. The chief justice asked if there had been problems before the night of the incident. My wife said things were OK before that; her lawyer then went on a rant about how dangerous I was.
The chief Justice then told my wife’s lawyer that if he ever brought a case like this before the court again she would see he was charged with contempt. The Justice then said he might want to take some night courses to better understand Dominican law. My lawyer said he thought my wife’s lawyer would lose it. After all that it still took me about a week to get of the prison. The time I passed under detention was about 3 months. I wrote an article about what I went through in prison and here is a link to it; http://drsisterhood.com/jims-story/
My ex is now in the USA and will apply to remove conditions sometime later. I have already turned several sworn statements into USCIS about what has gone on. This lady had never been married or applied for a visa before. She also fooled other expats that are used to seeing scammers.
I found out later that she has borderline personality disorder or something like that. She will not get the 10 year visa now because the US immigration dept. is demanding that she get a psych evaluation. I can’t go back to my old house in the DR for 2 years because I left the country in a hurry before my passport could be blocked.
I have had thoughts of violence towards myself and others because I am unable to succeed with relationships and jobs. I gave up looking for jobs after 5 years of hearing "you aced the interview but we can't hire you". I have two degrees in different subjects in fact. Reading books like "The Game" is like reading the Cambodian alphabet or something since I cannot put out the social expression to put them into practice, other than saying things. I actually liked living in the DR people people did not act like they judged me there. There is a lot therapy cannot help me with such as how people treat me in the USA versus where I was living.
