[Libertas]

Alright, so I think I'm recognizing a sticking point in my game.

I seem to be pretty good at attracting girls now - probably due to a combination of my looks and my natural energetic way of interacting with them and taking the lead/dominating the scene.

But as I analyze my conversations I think I'm noticing too much generic stuff, which I can make sound interesting as part of status stories, but I don't think I'm connecting with girls on a more emotional level.

This is a default sticking point for me because I'm not an emotional person. I'm a logical person, work in a logical field (thought of being a lawyer, still distantly entertaining the notion), and get my information through logical progression and argument (on one of my ENTJ results I scored a 95% on the thinking scale). Fine for my professional life and not being an idiot, but not the best thing in the world for game.

So to you logical guys, how have you overcome this? And more generally, what are some simple ways to make your stories and interactions more emotionally charged to give girls the tingles?

[WestIndianArchie]

Stop focusing on you and start focusing on her.

cold reads
questions
role play

+ the typical kino games, dancing, alcohol if possible

Just like sex, you don't want her to just lie there.

WIA

[Jneg]

(04-13-2015 09:43 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Stop focusing on you and start focusing on her.

cold reads
questions
role play

+ the typical kino games, dancing, alcohol if possible

Just like sex, you don't want her to just lie there.

WIA

I like the idea of role play. Sometimes I do that
One of my favourites is putting the television on Mute and then I get us to ad lib what the people are saying, which can lead to hilarious results.

What kind of role play scenarios do you do?

[Libertas]

(04-13-2015 09:43 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Stop focusing on you and start focusing on her.

cold reads
questions
role play

OK, I do the first two things to a certain extent.

Usually I will start off with making some guesses as to where she's from based on appearance and accent and then what she does or is studying based on her overall look.

I'm more or less asking how I can make my questions and convos more emotionally charged - bring up more emotional aspects throughout?

Or maybe I'm just underestimating what I'm already doing.

[Sensei Creation]

My standerd way to create emotional tingles is teasing .

I don't take them seriously at all , here's an example of a part of the conversation with a girl I insta dated during day gaming today .

Me - You should quit your job and work for me

Girl - What , why ? What do you do ?

Me * With a smirk * - I'm looking for bodyguards and you seem to have big biceps ( I Squeeze her arm as I say this )

The best interations are when they not only laugh but also play along , it creates a playful vibe

Girl - Well it depends how much are you paying ?

Me - It depends how good you are at mean mugging . Let's see you make a mean face .

Girl - * Makes a mean face whilst laughing *

Me - Nope not good enough more like this * I make a funny mean face * and we end up both laughing .


I tease a lot and touch a lot and it seems to be working for me . I tend to next the girls who take themselves to seriously , there's plenty of cool girls out there who don't .

[heavy]

(04-13-2015 09:43 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Stop focusing on you and start focusing on her.

Yep...you don't give people emotions. You pull emotions out of them.

Same is true with friends or family as well...sans "tingles" of course.

Play marry fuck kill or some other stupid useless game. Games form bonds. Then tease her for her laugh, or some other stupid thing.

[blacknwhitespade]

Cold reads and telling stories about yourself, even if they're not that funny, can work well to emotionally connect with a girl. For example, instead of giving a straight/data response about your latest vacation, narrate a story about something wild or random that you did on your vacation.

[Parlay44]

Get better at story telling. Watch some comedians on youtube. Work on your public speaking.
Learn to sing. You have to project emotions while you tell your stories.

[Libertas]

(04-14-2015 02:11 PM)Sensei Creation Wrote:  

My standerd way to create emotional tingles is teasing .

I don't take them seriously at all , here's an example of a part of the conversation with a girl I insta dated during day gaming today .

Me - You should quit your job and work for me

Girl - What , why ? What do you do ?

Me * With a smirk * - I'm looking for bodyguards and you seem to have big biceps ( I Squeeze her arm as I say this )

The best interations are when they not only laugh but also play along , it creates a playful vibe

Girl - Well it depends how much are you paying ?

Me - It depends how good you are at mean mugging . Let's see you make a mean face .

Girl - * Makes a mean face whilst laughing *

Me - Nope not good enough more like this * I make a funny mean face * and we end up both laughing .

I tease a lot and touch a lot and it seems to be working for me . I tend to next the girls who take themselves to seriously , there's plenty of cool girls out there who don't .

Yeah, I sometimes do a lot of this stuff too - though that routine is good.

Looks like I'm actually already doing a lot of what you guys are suggesting and I might just be underestimating myself. I do need to focus on her a bit more I think - usually I'll tell something "dorky" and then tell girls they have to tell me something "dorky" about themselves in return.

With girl #2 the other day I told a story of how I met the former mayor of NYC Ed Koch a few times and once went to the movies with him (something he was known for), and said how it was humorous that we weren't talking anything political but that the mayor was asking me questions about the previous movies in the series. I thought this story would represent status and also a bit of humor. What do you all think?

@Parlay, I'm already good at public speaking. Though I think I do need to project a bit more emotion in these cases.

Although again, I may just be underestimating myself. As I said, I'm high energy by nature.

[Sonoma]

Do you have a story?

For example-
I didn't meet my father until I was 21
My father died when I was 22
I had a heart attack 2 months after
I had a relatively well known car crash that totalled my brand new car
My mother has a terminal illness
Etc

And every girl wants to share their problems

The key is to hit the emotional target without falling into friendzone. It's a careful balance of Q&A with aloof and excitement.

[WestIndianArchie]

(04-14-2015 06:46 AM)Jneg Wrote:  

(04-13-2015 09:43 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Stop focusing on you and start focusing on her.

cold reads
questions
role play

+ the typical kino games, dancing, alcohol if possible

Just like sex, you don't want her to just lie there.

WIA

I like the idea of role play. Sometimes I do that
One of my favourites is putting the television on Mute and then I get us to ad lib what the people are saying, which can lead to hilarious results.

What kind of role play scenarios do you do?

To be honest, They just come to mind as the situation unfolds.

If I need a "go to" i'd play a game before I role played.

- fuck marry kill
- winners, losers, deserve each other
- 3's and 7's

WIA

[WestIndianArchie]

(04-14-2015 07:29 AM)Libertas Wrote:  

I'm more or less asking how I can make my questions and convos more emotionally charged - bring up more emotional aspects throughout?

Or maybe I'm just underestimating what I'm already doing.

Well if you ask her what she does for a living, you then make her think about her current job.

- what's the best part
- do you get frustrated

Do you remember right before you got the job?
Do you remember studying for this line of work in college?
Remember when you believed in saving the world.

From the tangible and easily answerable, to questions that are still easy to answer but not so concrete, then right into her mind.

As she talks, she relives.

So if you're drinking, you ask for her favorite.
- What do you wish you could drink all the time
- What would you never drink again
- Remember your first time you got drunk, weren't you scared that your parents would find out?

Then you follow that up with

- So you were a good girl, or a bad girl?

So on and so forth.

You studied particle physics and now you're a quant doing exotic derivatives?
So you were a math/tech major?
What excited you about math?
Were you one of those kids that always knew the answer, or were you someone that always had to grind out for the answers...

I bet you were the girl in charge of the group project, but you ended up doing it all yourself.....No....I'm wrong....you were in charge and everyone else did the work, you just got the credit - you cheeky bastard...

Tight game means that you are taking the mundane, and getting her involved and interested. You barely need to talk about the things that are the topic of conversation, but how SHE feels about them.

As she gives her FEELINGS..she starts to feel.

Now personally, I'm on the fence about what is actually happening.

You can draw a chick out and get her all emo, that doesn't mean that she values what you're doing to her in a sexual manner.

Because you can get her to think about sex, but she's not necessarily thinking about sex with you.

So if this is a date situation, and you've got her undivided attention for a few hours - getting her charged up doesn't mean that she's just gonna bust all over you because of sexual tension.

Player needs a game plan.

WIA