[lowhead360]

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[Travesty]

If the guy is that attractive to chicks, it wouldn't be a bad idea to go get in on that conversation and try to befriend. Guys like that can be great friends to have.

[Merenguero]

I knew what my answer would be as soon as I clicked on the thread. Yes, you should end it. If you got her and she really is as quality as you say, you can get thousands more who are equal or better.

[lowhead360]

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[RIslander]

You should never end anything unless you no longer physically want the pussy. Downgrade her from girlfriend to fuck buddy until something better comes along.

Don't be that guy who goes from pussy to no pussy on principle then has a hard time getting back in the game.

[lowhead360]

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[RIslander]

I wouldn't... it would sound like you're being pissy which turns girls off. Your only option would of been to join the conversation and befriend the guy like the above poster said.

Drown out the voice by giving her less attention and banging other girls. That will spin her hamster and either make her work hard to get you back or move on. Either way, you win.

To quote 'The 48 Laws of Power':

'The most important of these skills, and power’s crucial foundation, is the ability to master your emotions. An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings. Emotions cloud reason, and if you cannot see the situation clearly, you cannot prepare for and respond to it with any degree of control.'

If you make emotional responses to a woman's behavior she'll never respect you.

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(04-07-2015 05:10 PM)lowhead360 Wrote:  

(04-07-2015 05:03 PM)RIslander Wrote:  

You should never end anything unless you no longer physically want the pussy. Downgrade her from girlfriend to fuck buddy until something better comes along.

Don't be that guy who goes from pussy to no pussy on principle then has a hard time getting back in the game.

But do I call her out about it at all? Or just radio silence until she contacts me?

Also how do I drown out the voice in my head that says this bitch needs to be taught a lesson?

She does need to be taught a lesson. Question is, are you up for the task?

There are two ways she can learn:

1) You break up with her without every telling her why. This is much harder to do than it sounds, because firstly we are angry and want to let it all out and be known. Lastly, we think the only way she can know and learn the lesson is if we tell her.

However, all that will likely happen if you fault her is she will get defensive and rationalize that you are just "crazy jealous", "insecure", etc. and that while she might be a little bad, you are even worse. In fact she's actually in the right and you are completely in the wrong!

That's exactly how that will play out. I'm 99% sure.

Instead, if you break up with her/freeze her out and say nothing, she will badger you for a reason. Over and over because without a reason she will be forced to "think" and "reflect" on her actions.

This is actually what you want her to do, because it's self-reflection that causes people to see and in-turn learn about themselves.

It will actually cause her the most pain, but paradoxically do her the most good. A question like that which goes unanswered can haunt a woman for years. I've seen it.

2) Mirror her behavior. I've called this role-modeling in the past, but perhaps mirror is a better word. You basically do exactly to her what she did to you.

See a hot girl, make a comment to a friend and start chatting her up. Or something similar. Doing this makes her "feel" what it's like to have that done to someone.

If she brings it up, act dumb and make her explain. Then say something like, "Oh, I thought it would be ok. I mean the other day you did the same kind of thing with your friend and that guy.

Then wait for her to respond. If she still protests, then you can say, "Well listen, if you want, let's agree not to do that to each other in the future. Would that make you feel better?"

If she backpedals and says "no, that's ok, it's alright, never mind", than you know she's not ready to change. If she agrees than you know she is and she has learned something in the process through her "feelings". Feelings are the only way a woman can really know anything.

[h3ltrsk3ltr]

Hey man, tough one there. I'd probably have said something about it right off the bat but you really can't be mad at yourself for not knowing what to do in this situation.

Firstly, if your girl is cooing about some dude being "so hot" you probably are in a bad situation to begin with. She sounds vapid and immature. Basically though dude she just gave you a great opportunity. Go start hitting on hot bitches in front of her. Not for revenge, but to give yourself a push into approching creatively. When little ms. free spirit gets all hussy, just shrug and say "hey babe, she was hot as hell."

Again, this isn't about being a dick, it's about reasserting your dominance to yourself. Work on your internal game. Get your head right and go back to the basics of approching, working out, and pursuing a side hustle. Your relationship will take whatever course it takes. Don't overly concern yourself with that.

Focus on what matters, not the slight or your anger. You get angry and get dissed in life. Get over it And Keep improving.

[WestIndianArchie]

This is the easiest question i've seen in a minute.

If a chick is out there testing the waters, trying to show off her goods to the next man, and has the NERVE to come back to your warm embrace like nothing is wrong - you should start fucking the hell out of her.

In your mind, she moves down from "future mother of my children" to "bar skank on meth".

Keep in mind, that you're not going to reference this episode of disrespect. Your alpha is coming out of nowhere.
At no point do you ever have a heart to heart, or try to communicate.

And by treating her like a sexual object, and correcting her small time disrespect
- she might start getting more into you
- you'll get a lot more of the sex that you actually crave. So she already did anal before? Now she's doing ass to mouth.
- you'll start to see - all these bitches can go wayward, you'll feel better when you start acting on your real impulses.

The problem with typical relationships is that
- you stay on your best ALPHA behavior and so does she at the beginning
- then you slide back on the alpha or she stops editing herself
- eventually she comes to dominate the relationship, as your alpha has totally receded

Now in no way am I saying this type of dynamic is healthy or what you want to bring a family into - but FOR ONCE, my dude, GET WHAT YOU WANT IN THE SHORT TERM.

Stop denying yourself, stop delaying gratification.

After a few rough sessions, ask her what's up with her friend or whether she likes girls.

Kick her off the pedestal

I've been in similar situations, and tried to take the high road, or got petty and broke shit off, or tried to "communicate"

I wasn't listening to the pimp inside.

And even if she ends up leaving you for dude, at least you got some mega fucks in, as well as tasted a bit of the red pill.

WIA

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^ I'm always learning something new form WIA. I like this third option best.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

There is no reason to end it. You should have never been exclusive with her.

Fuck other girls. She is not LTR worthy, but who cares. Go spin some plates. Even if she comes to you and wants to be with you, I would advise against it.

She is in her party years and you are not going to stop it.

Also agree with WIA - she has clearly shown that she is just your slut to be used sexually at your pleasure.

[lowhead360]

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[BBinger]

(04-07-2015 06:33 PM)lowhead360 Wrote:  

This is what I needed to hear and the best advice so far I think. Thank you.

I have a toxic impulse that when I meet a girl and have good rapport/conversations with her, I start rationalizing her behaviour and justifying it, or I feel the need to take some sort of principled stand at the expense of the bang. I've ruined several relationships with several attractive girls because I told them to fuck off when they showed me disrespect instead of ignoring it and fucking them instead. I was raised by a fairly conservative family (still married) and was taught to think long-term and not ONCE in my life have I put my short-term needs first. It's bullshit and this mindset I've developed needs to stop. A woman worth keeping around would NOT pull this kind of crap. Writing this stuff out helps instead of just thinking it and keeping it to myself, that's why I'm saying it.

I'm gonna bust all over her face and it will be glorious.

Long term thinking can mean you decide to just be friendly with a girl you just happen to fuck. Downgrading a girl you have a "thing" with to a girl you just sex can improve the sex while both of you know its over. Just keep your shit wrapped in a condom to prevent her having second thoughts and a pregnancy.

In the best case it sounds like you and the girl both know it is ending. Until it ends take the time to practice the kind of sex you want to have, be a selfish lover and maximize your satisfaction. Maybe she'll change her mind and start according you more value, but you've got to realize she's a dead end. Let her spread your gospel and end it honestly once more promising options emerge.